Ttc June/July 26

For sure, trying to keep that positive mental attitude! AF arrived for me yesterday so that’s me starting cycle 4 after my MMC. I’m coping ok but I think the sense of lost time is tough, knowing that I was so close but am back to the endless cycle of trying. Above anything else I’m having to relearn patience, and to trust the process!

Hey! I totally missed this. I'm so sorry to hear about your MMC. How are you getting on now? And what cycle are you on?

For the first few months I was completely obsessed, Googling and overthinking every little symptom, so you're definitely not alone. 😅

It's such a hard process, but I've realised I just have to be patient. Even if you do everything "right", there's still no guarantee it'll happen that month. In so many ways, it's just the luck of the draw.

Ha, I know exactly what you mean! Friends of ours have just had their second baby and joked that we've got some catching up to do. They meant well, but it's hard when we're already doing everything we can. It's especially frustrating because we know they struggled to conceive their first and eventually needed IVF themselves.

How are you feeling today? Any sign of your period, and have you done any more tests? It's great that you've managed to get those tests booked, they'll either give you some reassurance or hopefully pick up anything early if there is an issue.

My partner was quite worried about his semen analysis, but I just kept saying we're in this together and we'll deal with whatever life throws at us. Our IVF paperwork arrived last week, which made everything feel very real. We're going to send it off today. In a way, it's reassuring knowing there's a backup plan if we need it.

I'm due on Wednesday or Thursday, which is really bad timing for my scan. If my period arrives, I'll have to reschedule the appointment. 😣 I also have my usual PMS symptoms, bloated and cramping so I think I’m out!

Ditto 💕It helps to talk to people going through the same thing, I don't want to start talking to my friends about it because you get well meaning busy bodies asking for updates and that makes me more stressed out. 😂

Good luck with your private scan and let me know how you get on! I don't do BBT because it's too stressful. I was overanalysing every temp and a slight temp drop after ovulation would ruin my whole day. My fitbit does tell me if my temp goes up or down but it's not an exact temp, just whether it's higher or lower than the last 30 days on average so it's pretty useless for cycle tracking. I probably wouldn't bother cervix tracking either, as I'm finding out it moves around and changes texture all the time as so far it's been pretty meaningless for me 😂Basically, there's plenty of measures for stressing yourself out and overanalsing your body but none of them have much impact on the end result lol.

I'm due on Monday/Tuesday, I took a sensitive test this morning at 11dpo and it was blank negative so pretty sure I'm out. It sounds bad but I'm not really that bothered by negative tests anymore. I had to stop early testing before cause I'd get so worked up but now it doesn't bother me so much, I just like to know where I stand and also that I can have a guilt free glass of wine with my friends tonight. I really think it helps so much that it's summer and there's stuff going on every weekend. I don't know about you but I found it so much harder in winter with fewer distractions.

When are you due on? We had our first GP appt and had tests ordered yesterday so I also feel less pressured knowing that it's kind of out of our hands now and if nothing happens at least we're getting some medical support.

Exactly! A good friend of ours has just had their second baby at 42, they had their first at 40, so that definitely gives us hope. I’m just hoping I’ve still got some decent-quality eggs left! 🙈
I’ve actually booked a private scan for next week.

They’re going to check the shape of my uterus and look for things like fibroids, endometriosis, polycystic ovaries and ovarian cysts, so hopefully that’ll give me a bit more reassurance.

A little bit of POAS! 😂😂 Bless you! I honestly don't have the brain capacity for that – it would stress me out far too much. I just wait for my period. Annoyingly, I get such strong PMS symptoms that I usually know at least two days before she's about to make an appearance, which is so frustrating! Although you always hear stories of women saying they were convinced their period was coming and then it never did... I'm not sure that'll be me though, I'm so in tune with my body!

I don't really understand the whole temperature or cervix tracking side of things. Are either of them actually good indicators? Hopefully you've got a positive on the way! 🤞

And don't worry, TTC makes us all a little bit delulu. 😂 Every month I convince myself I've timed everything perfectly, so surely this has to be the month... and then nothing. That's why I've got to the point where I'm more "oh well" than "what if", if that makes sense!

When are you planning to test next, and when is your period due?

It been nice talking to someone on the exact same journey, and same number of cycles, so thanks 😊

Forgot to attach a photo but my fitness isn't low, go to the gym 3 times a week and we do plenty of long walks, I've only had one coffee in 2 days, not sleep deprived and not had any alcohol recently and not on any new medications so hoping I have a BFP incoming. I'm most delulu in the last week of the 2ww though so who knows haha.

Glad to hear you both had good results. I've been strict with mine saying he needs to lay off his Sunday beers but as time has gone on with definitely become more laissez faire about things!

I know loads of people who have had healthy pregnancies at that age and beyond so I wouldn't worry. My friend had her first at 27 and she said she was a lot younger than most of the people in her NCT class, I think mid to late 30s and beyond is quite the norm now. Especially with the cost of living I think people are wanting to be more secure before having kids.

I am a litter picking POAS addict!! As in I take a test in the morning, squint at it, check it under natural light, magnification, LED lights, get in back out of the bin about 6 times throughout the day to check, take pics, put a filter on it etc. If only my husband knew he'd think I was a lunatic. I took my first test today (9dpo) and pretty sure it was negative as per. Checked my cervix though and it's high and soft and my fitbit has said my RHR has jumped up. I have the older fit bit that doesn't read temp but it does tell you temp variation (which is an average of your temps over the last 30 days and that's gone up slightly as well). Trying not to get my hopes up too much as I'm always convinced I'm pregnant every cycle and then AF comes.

Are you testing early or are you waiting?

Solidarity here too! Nearly 37 and trying for our first since the start of the year, with aa MMC in April added in. Vastly trying to not become obsessed with it and overthink!

Good luck with the testing! It’ll definitely put your mind at ease knowing everything’s okay. I remember feeling so anxious waiting for our results, especially my partner’s because he does enjoy a beer 🤣. Thankfully, he had excellent swimmers and a great count!

Yes, we’re trying for our first, but at 38 and 42 we’re very aware that time isn’t exactly on our side. That said, I know plenty of people who’ve had healthy pregnancies and babies later in life, so I’m trying to stay positive.

Keep me posted on how you get on this month! And tell me… are you a serial tester or do you wait until you’re actually late? 🙈🤣

Yes we are TTC for our first, assuming you are too if you're eligible for NHS IVF. We have a doctor's appointment in a couple of days to start testing. It'll be a year for us in October but I didn't want to wait a full year in case there was anything wrong so knocked a couple of months off. 🙈
I'm the same as you, we've been together 10 years and I've got the morning after pill a couple of times when we were younger, thinking I shouldn't have wasted my time haha. We got married last year and was careful up to the wedding and before the honeymoon but now I'm thinking why have we been using protection for so long haha.
I think just knowing you have a plan makes it easier to relax a bit, hopefully you won't need it but at least you have the IVF to fall back on. Have an amazing time in Italy, I've done a bit as well, we've got Sicily on our list for the next time we go back.

Thank you, we can't wait! 😍 We've done quite a bit of Italy over the last few years and absolutely love it.

I've just come to the conclusion that what will be, will be. After talking to lots of friends, they've all said the same thing, it can take time!!

The waiting list here is about two years as well, so we may have slightly exaggerated how long we'd been trying... 🤫 Only because of our age and I didn't want to waste any more time. We had all the blood tests done, and my partner had a sperm analysis too and everything came back fine.

Is this your first time trying for a child? I said to my boyfriend last night, if I knew it was going to take so long, we should have never bothered being careful lol

That's such a good attitude to have, I've started to relax more the last couple of cycles too and it does feel so much better. I'm hoping the people that say relax and it will happen are right haha. Have the best time in Italy, I was there a couple of months ago it's a lovely country. In my area you have to be trying for 2 years for IVF and they won't even start testing until 12 months in, so having to hold tight and wait to see what happens.

I’ve given up, LOL 😂 I’ve got no idea where I am in my cycle anymore. We just had sex whenever I saw EWCM and only managed a couple of days. I’ve finally accepted that it could take a while, so I’m just sitting back and seeing what happens. I actually feel so much better mentally for it, and now I’m just looking forward to our Italian holiday in September! 😍🇮🇹

We also have our first NHS IVF appointment booked in for November as it would have be a year trying by then.

@Posypear @FlyingHighFlyingLow so sorry to hear about your chemicals, sending hugs to you both.

I'm right there with you, cycle 10 buddies, where are you in your cycle now? I'm about 7dpo.

I joined this thread on page 2 almost exactly a month ago. The next day got a weak positive HCG, but was a chemical and started bleeding 10 days later at exactly 5 weeks. Started LH testing when bleeding stopped and now 3dpo in the 2 week window again. I've not even allowed to buy myself any more HCG tests this month to try avoid testing unless AF is actually late but we shall see if that holds out. Crazy seeing such a short time frame yet the month has felt so long already.

I'm so sorry ❤️

I'm out - it was a chemical. Back to trying again! Hope everyone is doing okay. My DS is good distraction and he's off nursery ill today so not much time to worry about it all.

Good morning everyone 💖 (depending where you are in the world)
I have woken up with a lovely sore throat courtesy of my DD AND I also caved and took a pregnancy test.......at 9dpo...
I have a very faint line that doesn't like the camera. I've attached one to this comment. It's pinky/red colour in person 💖

Awww huge congrats! 🩷🩷

I’ve had a dramatic BBT dip today but I’m only 7dpo so we will see what happens in the next few days! xx

@cmg91 of course! Fingers crossed you get your positive.

V v early only 3 weeks 6 days today so we'll see what happens. I was very anxious with my first pregnancy but I'm so busy with my toddler currently it is a good distraction!

It’s a First Response Early detection test. I’ve never used them before!

Congrats on the positive test!! What dpo are you? xx

CONGRATULATIONS!👏 💐 xxx

Just took a test and it's positive! Turns out you can get morning sickness in the TWW!

@cmg91 what's a FRER? Sorry probably being dim!

I've had literally every morning sickness symptom I had in my last pregnancy all week. It's too early for morning sickness I know in the TWW but definitely symptom checking! I'm also technically 2 days late based on my last period but that was v v early. Not going to test until closer to 2 weeks post ovulation which will be weds unless AF comes before!