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Applying for jobs while ttc - controversial or perfectly normal?

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tryingnottoobsess · 20/06/2008 16:30

er that's about it really... my job is fine but dull so maybe I should sit tight. But with a year plus ttc (including 3 mc) behind me, I could be sitting tight for a while if I do...

On the other hand, sods law says if I get the job I'll be pg within seconds (and mc again? I hope not, but it's obviously possible)

what do you think/ what have you done?

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Playingthewaitinggame · 20/06/2008 17:15

Oh Trying even I can contradict myself. Sometimes life goes on and you have to take risks for the sake of your sanity. If you need a new job becuase the old one is getting you down and you are prepared to take a risk go for it. It might even be the stress of your current job stopping you conceiving!

Loosing my job is the only thing that would worry me about changing jobs, I have seen it happen before, so I will stay here and not move but that doesn't mean thats the right thing for you to do!

Wilkiepedia · 20/06/2008 17:15

Personally I think it is a long shot and don't think it would be a problem in many places. Also, you don't have to announce your pregnancy officially until I think 26 weeks before you are due to give birth so you could keep it a secret - most places have a three month probationary period.

I'm not saying that it doesn't happen but many places now would be afraid of being caught out if they sacked a pregnant woman.

Also, if, god forbid, you were to have another miscarriage - they would not need to find out the reason for absence. My GP wrote me a sick note when I had mine that said depression rather than miscarriage.

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tryingnottoobsess · 20/06/2008 17:10

Thanks Wilkie. What are your thoughts about what Playing says about the probation period?

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tryingnottoobsess · 20/06/2008 17:09

Thanks Hannah as well... this is going to be a grey area isn't it? I'm really pleased it is working out for you. Good luck with that 25 month pregnancy

I'm not too bothered about mat benefits, just want an interesting job, and don't want to let down my amazing current boss who has supported me beyond the call of duty through my 3 mc. And ideally not piss off any future employer too much either!

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Wilkiepedia · 20/06/2008 17:02

Hannah - was going to say are you having an elephant??

Trying - I don't think it is wrong and I am doing very same thing. Don't worry about it! Yes it is prob unfair but life goes on...!

hannah001 · 20/06/2008 16:59

25 weeks! not 25 months

hannah001 · 20/06/2008 16:59

I chose just to carry on with my career - changing jobs when necessary and forget that I was TTC and for me I think it was the best choice. It took 3 years to get to the point where I'm 25 months pg - and so sitting put in a dull job would have been very boring.

Fortunately I will have been at my current job for a year when maternity leave starts though so I can get the most out of their mat. leave scheme - but I wouldn't have minded if I wasn't.

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tryingnottoobsess · 20/06/2008 16:56

oh yeah, thanks playing, I hadn't thought of that - very good point! That happened to someone here recently (not for pregnancy), and because it was her probation, they didn't even have to explain to her why they were firing her.

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Playingthewaitinggame · 20/06/2008 16:41

Difficult. I will not comment on any moral dilemas with this situation, thats up to each person to judge and as ttcign can take a while is hard to put your life on hold.

The thing I would be most concerned about was job security. You can be fired in probation for anything e.g "not fitting in", "not being quite right for the role" etc. So, if you did get pg and they found out and wanted to get rid of you it would be very easy. But maybe I worry too much

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