Baby trapping my husband?

Unprotected sex equals risk of pregnancy. Purposely.

Shame on you, hope he finds out and files for divorce.

Not answering your question as such but I have a friend who's just had her third because she never felt "done" after the first two, I wouldn't say she regrets it but she still doesn't feel "done" I think if you generally enjoy the baby/toddler stage and having small children you won't ever feel done so you need to consider the bigger picture for your family rather than that longing for another baby because you might still feel like that after no 3.
Think of the impact on your other 2 children, especially with a fairly big age gap, it would likely land the older 2 against the younger one as they would feel the younger is always spoilt. You are then outnumbered as in with 2 a parent each can deal with a child. Do you have a spare bedroom or does it mean the older 2 will have to start sharing? Financially, think about family holidays, university etc. Also I assume you're at a stage where it's quite easy to entertain both boys together now, holidays, weekends etc? Think how difficult that would be with a 5 year (likely more as no gaurantee you'll fall pregnant straight away) age gap.
I think it's quite natural to long for another baby when you get to the stage of your youngest starting school but really you're longing for their baby/pre school days again, another baby isn't always the answer imo

Unprotected sex with a wife who he trusts not to PURPOSELY get pregnant.

I cannot stand this shit. Shame on you

The man is willingly having unprotected sex with his wife so he deals with the consequences of that.

Why would you need a bigger car?

Yet another thread where a married couple seem incapable of a conversation.

This is awful. His concerns are valid. You are being incredibly selfish and not thinking about your existing children if you ruin your relationship.

This is exactly right .

I think if he's that certain he doesn't want another he needs to sort out contraception. One wonky cycle and you're up the duff anyway and as the owner of the semen and the one who doesn't want the kid it's his responsibility to make sure it doesn't happen.

However, I do not see the point at all in being married if you're going to do this sneakily. The point of marriage is being a team. If you want another kid and it's a dealbreaker you have to tell him that because if you trick him and he decides it's your fault or you've 'sexually assaulted' him (despite him presumably understanding biology and not sorting out the contraception himself) the relationship's fucked anyway.

My 2 boys have 7 years between them but as adults they are very close. They live 150 miles apart but go to visit each other 4 times each year. Even as DC they spent time together and had things they liked in common.

Come on op do you really need to ask. Of course it's 'that bad'.

I think you need to sit him down and say that you're really struggling since he last brought it up and that you are extremely aware of your biological clock and you need to have a serious conversation with him about it as this is your last opportunity to be parents again. And op if he's adamant it's a no then you need to accept that but I'd also be really clear with him that you don't feel done so if he's deciding it's a no he can't be saying "ah wouldn't it be nice if" type of comments because those are unfair and could unnecessarily get your hopes up when this is something you desperately want.

I understand the desire and almost desperation but you need to give your head a shake, OP. I suspect this isn’t really you speaking and is your broodiness making you irrational?

If you really think this is ok then you absolutely shouldn’t be creating any more people

As a child free, happily long term married woman, yes, it would be that bad.
It tells about your character, I'm afraid.

Vile.

Yes of course it would be "that bad".

would it not constitute some form of sexual violation / assault. In the same way as a man removing the condom is... he has not given consent to fertilise you - so it's sexual assault no?

Yes it would be bad. Tell him the responsibility for manging contraception/fertility risk is on him and then it's up to him what he does with that information. You are both knowingly taking risks now so if a GENUINE accident occurred then I'd say fair enough. But you are suggesting something quite different.

Tricking him deliberately is out of order. I know a couple of women who did that and I did judge. They both seemed so proud of themselves that that had got their own way by stealth. I posted about one of them on here (she was a friend but it really changed my opinion of her character) and I got lambasted by a couple of posters saying she'd done nothing wrong, good for her, served the stupid man right etc. So you might find some people actually agree with you.

No, of course don't lie to your husband - that's not a healthy marriage.

But you could say something like that you are finding sole responsibility for timing to be a lot of pressure, especially as he's the one who doesn't want to conceive. So from now on you are going to stop tracking your cycle and being responsible for remembering which cycle day it is. There is therefore a possibility of getting pregnant. If he doesn't want this, he can get the snip, use condoms, or be the one responsible for remembering which date was the first day of your period and counting the days each month.

This post is rage bait surely. This cant be real?

Snap!

Controversial opinion but I almost see this as a form of assault in the same way taking photos of someone while they sleep would be

If this was the other way around it would be called sexual assault by some…. And quite rightly

I would suggest if you want a child that badly that you would purposely screw your DH over... its time you left him so you can have YOUR 3rd baby, but not his.

You say that no amount of XYZ will stay him.. and he's absolutely correct to stick to his guns. He obviously likes the family life now, doesn't want to lower the living standards of the whole family (tightening the belt, less treats etc). That's all perfectly plausible.

An accidental pregnancy is very different to a deceitfully planned by 1 party pregnancy.

I’m not even going to go into all the reasons why that is a genuinely vile thing to do to your husband and the potential child.

Have a word with yourself.