TTC number 3 aged 42

@FiB83thank you! I’m ok, very tired and have a bad cold but think that’s helping me hide it from my in laws who are staying with us, so every cloud 😅

Glad you had a good break, it’s so important x

Thank you @Bumblebee413 Fingers crossed for you and your best friend this cycle!

I tested and it was negative and then a few hours later my period started, meaning my luteal phase was only 10 days. It’s usually 12, so I’m not sure if the suspected chemical pregnancy has caused some disruption or something else is going on.

Anyway, another cycle and trying to stay positive!

That’s a fabulous line @DmcinT !

Welcome @Sonic85, you’re very welcome. Did you test?

I’m currently 4dpo. I’m not sure what our chances will be this month. We managed to DTD the night before ovulation and the night before that but I’ve had minor surgery on the bottom of my spine and it just made things Very difficult and sore. Couldn’t face it on the actual day we were meant to do it!

My best friend is currently going through IUI and got inseminated on the same ovulation day as me (!) so I am praying so hard that it all works for her. This would be her first baby and my third. It would be hands down amazing if it happened at the same time, but if only one of us gets pregnant I really want it to be her. I feel greedy at this point!

How is everyone else doing?

Hello everyone, can I join you please?

I’ve just turned 41and we’ve been trying for number 2 for almost a year. The first few cycles were a bit off as I’d just stopped breastfeeding and I had to stop entirely to get my period back. I think I may have had a chemical a few months ago because my period was a little late and heavier/longer than usual and the following cycle was off- ovulated about a week later than usual. Of course that was the one month I decided to stop tracking/testing as much, so no way to know if it was for sure.

I have to say I was a bit naive going into this and assumed it would have happened by now :( I am looking into IVF but not sure that’s something we will ultimately pursue.

I think I’m 10 DPO today but not very hopeful at the moment. I might test tomorrow.

Hope everyone is doing well

I just got 2.14 on an opk, I didn’t even know that was possible, I got peak this morning but it has continued to rise even higher throughout the day. Has anyone had that before? I knew hormone levels were higher than normal but this seems a bit mental

Thanks. I'm conflicted about the GLP because it would mean stopping trying for a bit. I've given myself til August this year to lose, and then I think I'll opt for GLP as a general life decision, setting pregnancy aside for a while. My BMI is above 40, which is my local clinic's cut-off.

A multivitamin like Pregnacare Conception is just to cover bases but fine to take folic acid in isolation and focus on a Mediterranean diet.

I just took CoQ10 but I think if taking ubiquinol you can go for half the quantity.

Because 42 is a time crunch, it may be worth considering a GLP to reduce faster. Age is the bigger challenge than weight.

You don't say your BMI but private clinics will go up to 35 (vs NHS 30) and some have no particular limit and assess patients case by case.

Best of luck and give yourself grace for any choices your younger self made with their circumstances at the time.

Hi @sirensong I just wanted to say thanks for the evidence based, calm advice. It's so easy to get muddled and frazzled with options which helps nothing. This really reinforces my understanding of the science. I don't take a multivitamin but do took the others you mention, as I read that doctors often don't feel it makes sense, but maybe I should start! Do you know is 600mg also the recommendation for ubiquinol form of CoQ10?

To everyone else, I just want to say that it is so heartening to read all your experiences, and to feel a little less alone. Sometimes in these threads we don't get many direct responses, but just reading without responding means so much to me..

I'm 42, TTC for 18 months, regular periods and ovulating, all tests normal for age and currently too high BMI for IVF. Focussing on weight loss for six months which will hopefully improve natural odds as well as open up IVF possibilities. I had one internal ultrasound which the tech said wasn't very clear because of my weight but I've no symptoms of anything. No positive tests at all so far.

I've been feeling very low the past two months. I have a wonderful family, my husband and his daughter who has been with us/me full time for seven years now. I had a very active and fulfilling 20s/30s and never thought much about kids but since deciding to try in my late 30s the desire has grown.

Now I feel a lot of regret about my life choices and my weight, but I am trying to refocus on the many positive futures with or without my own little one some day.

I'm focussing on eating whole foods, veg and protein, walking or swimming each day, and I'm taking high dose CoQ10 and Vit D as well as folic acid. I want to start meditating to try to quiet the fears.

All advice welcome. Thanks for sharing your journey with me.

@DmcinT I got 1-2 weeks on clearblue digital on Saturday! It must have been stopping feeding that messed up my last cycle so I’d say just go with it 😊

@january1244 thanks, I’m still feeling very cautious about it! I’m just exhausted, booked this week off (a while ago) to do loads of DIY stuff at home and I’ve barely done anything 😅

@january1244I had bloods a little while ago which were all normal. Got an ultrasound to check physical side next week and then possibly an appointment with genetics

@Sa11yCinnamon congratulations!!!!! How exciting, amazing news! how are you feeling?

@TheFutureIsthat is so horrible, I’m so sorry you read that. Have they given you a plan?

I was 43 in December. That’s a tough call, how badly would a negative affect you? And would you be disappointed to not feel like you can celebrate your day with a few drinks?

@TheFutureIs itll be nice to get some answers and support, what age did u say u are again?
@Sa11yCinnamon have tested again since, how are u feeling?

I got high on opks yesterday and still high this morning in the 0.7- 0.9 ranges so assume I’ll ovulate today which is early for me CD12 but I knew hormones were deff higher and things kicked off earlier this cycle with stopping breastfeeding. Now my problem is I’ll be 10/11 dpo on my birthday 🫣 do I test and possibly put myself in bad form or do I try resist and live with the hope for the day, the thing is myself and husband are going away for the night so would be having drinks etc so maybe eat to test I dunno 🤷🏼‍♀️

How is everyone else getting on?

I’m glad I’m getting some support, where I can see all the communication between my docs and epau I’d got a bit upset as some of them said “it’s probably as she is quite old” and that they didn’t have a recurrent miscarriage clinic

The support sounds positive. How are you feeling about it all? X

Had a phone consult with the doctors today about my miscarriages. They got blood done a little while ago which didn’t show any reasons for them. I booked in for a scan next week and also have a referral to a genetics clinic too
She also said I’ll be eligible for early support if we’re lucky to fall pregnant

Oh @Sa11yCinnamon congratulations! That looks great!!

@BurningOutt so sorry you’ve experienced all that, it sounds terrifying. Keeping everything crossed for your scan.

Just thought I’d share my OPKs from last cycle to say that it looks as if anything is possible with how things trend 😂 This was my first ovulation after my MMC so could have been my hormones being a bit crazy, but there was definitely no build up to it hormone level wise.

I’m using that to reassure myself this cycle as my levels are so low so far.

I am absolutely with you all on the weight thing. I’ve been trying to shift the extra weight I have accumulated after my elder daughters and then 8 weeks of eating to keep morning sickness at bays and then the comfort eating post loss. I’m a binge eater unfortunately and just can’t seem to control myself. What I have started doing is exercise sessions to build up my core and pelvic floor and I’m holding onto that as something positive that I’m doing despite the self destructive eating. I do Bumps and Burpees Postnatal Thrive programme as it’s easy to fit around the kids. Also very easy not to do when I’m exhausted, so, swings and roundabouts 😂

My opk was 0.33 today so I think perhaps my baseline is just higher now with stopping breastfeeding, hoping that means a better quality egg for ovulation, better lining etc 🤞🏽

was afraid it was gona mess up this cycle

thank you, trying desperately not to get ahead of myself but at least I know it's still a possibility 😅

@Sa11yCinnamon that looks like a good strong line, huge congrats 🥳

Looks good to me! Congrats!

Crossposting but keen for thoughts, is this line too faint for 13 DPO?

Well girls I am only cycle day 7 but had some twinges and pain on left side and a bit of cm today so out of interest I did an opk, now it’s still low but it’s at 0.35.
im usually down in the teens or maybe low 20’s and only start going into 30’s or 40’s a day or 2 before I get peak so I think it could be starting to rise, now it could easily be another day or 2 before peak and again a day or 2 before ovulation but I reckon stopping breastfeeding has given my estrogen a bit of a spike and follicles might be ready earlier this cycle meaning I could potentially ovulate earlier (maybe around day 10-12)

Maybe I’m wrong, who knows! Anyone else stop breastfeeding and notice earlier ovulation?

Totally agree re coffee and wine! I started Emily Oster's book when pregnant with my first, largely to justify my own behaviour 😂 but didn't get round to finishing it.

I'd add that we weren't TTC then and LOTS of both had been consumed, DS is absolutely fine.