The Hopeful Hearts Circle 1 - December 2025🎄💖

So sorry there's so many of us in the same boat - @Fullofconfusionits rubbish isn't it. Do you have a cut off in mind? Mine keeps moving forward 🥴

@Stardust1204I'm so sorry - can't believe they wouldn't scan you, surely they have to check, they can't just guess your body absorbed it? Must be so difficult but I hope you have the strength to ask for a second opinion. You deserve their care!

I felt I really had to ask the questions today - like what has happened here? I think that's what made me feel stupid, when they should have been explaining to me. Just very sad. My DD8 chose tonight to absolutely kick off at bedtime too, and told me he doesn't love me 💔 please not today, kiddo 😭 xx

Oh @ttcnumerodos you are not stupid, you took several tests and saw the results. It’s not stupid. It is cruel though.
@Stardust1204 I’m sorry you’ve had a second miscarriage, how upsetting. Also very surprised that you tested negative without a period, I’d have thought they’d want to scan for retained products, though you presumably can’t have that with a negative test. Bet confusing and very upsetting for you I’m sure

@Stardust1204How awful ❤️‍🩹 I’m so sorry. That seems absolutely crazy and not fair she said they won’t scan!? That makes no sense and just leaves you with no proper answer/closure x

@ttcnumerodosI’m so sorry. Sounds similar to me as in only a sac or pocket of fluid found but no pregnancy as such. Strange to have a negative test too though. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. It definitely hurts a lot when you know you’re getting older and time is running out. We’ll keep trying but I’m not far off 41 and feel like if it doesn’t happen (and stick) soon then we
might reach the end of the road.

@Esssaso sorry you’re in this position. The not knowing is awful. Will they test your bloods for you?

@Stardust1204how awful for you. I’ve honestly never heard of that before. I bet it’s a huge shock for you. Be kind to yourself.

@Blondepeachgood luck for your scan

Hi all, messaged on this back in December. Just found out at 11 weeks 4 days I’m having my second miscarriage :(

bizarre way of finding out… I had spotting so went to epu today and the urine test is negative and she said that my body probably absorbed the pregnancy weeks ago and my body is finally deciding to have a period!? She was cold and dismissive but she said they won’t scan, they’ve done a blood test and I wait for the results but I’m not hopeful.

very confusing time…I tested up until 7 weeks but thought I didn’t have to test anymore. I never ever thought my body without bleeding could have got rid of the pregnancy!? I’ve had the one very light spotting 2 or 3 times

They would only scan 2 weeks after a positive test and because of the period like bleed they are going from the 14th not the 8th when I had the first faint positive and subsequent negative. So I doubt they will bring it forward. Tbh I don't need a scan. I'd be happy with bloods to prove what I know. I feel like this is a shit cycle to call it quits on because it was dodgy from the start but my DH has just been diagnosed type 2 diabetic and that can cause sperm issues so I don't know if it's worth still trying or not. Though the initial miscarriages has been my issue prior to being with him this just adds another layer of uncertainty.

Aw mate I'm so sorry @Esssa. Would they maybe scan you, or is it still too early? The limbo stage is the worst 💔 sending 🫂

Thank you so much everyone for your kind words - this group is such a lifeline.

I'm feeling lots of feels today but definitely waves of anger that we still have to go through shit like this. Xx

So sorry it's not good news @ttcnumerodos they definitely should have been more sensitive when delivering the news.

I've also not got good news. After the rocky start my tests are now fading. I think it's only the progesterone that is keeping everything in place at the moment. My plan is to keep taking them until after the weekend. My toddler has swimming lessons tomorrow and my in laws are visiting Saturday. Then it's my birthday on Sunday so I'm trying to hold off the inevitable until after then. Think I need to ring the clinic on Friday to tell them I'll be stopping meds because they are expecting me to continue until scan on 2/3 which I'm not prepared to do at this point. It was weird from the start and clearly not going to work out. And try as I might I can't get photos to upload on here.

@ttcnumerodos I am sonsorry the person who delivered the news to you was so cold. You deserved to be treated better. It must have been such a shock.

I sometimes wonder why some dr are so cruel. As you say, @Blondepeach, a but of empathy goes a long way. Telling someone something so crushing so abruptly is vile.

@ttcnumerodos I'm so so sorry, life is so cruel isnt it, sending you all the love❤

@ttcnumerodosIt amazes me, all is required in that sentence is to add in a simple ‘I’m really sorry’. A little kindness makes all the difference 😔

Thank you (regards scan) 💕

@ttcnumerodos I'm so sorry to read that x

Unfortunately not much empathy @BlondepeachShe was pretty cold and it felt really rushed - just like 'no visible pregnancy, off you pop'. I think that's added to the confusion. The midwife who did my test after was very kind.

Keeping everything crossed for you tomorrow lovely ✨ xx

@ttcnumerodoshonestly, chemicals are just evil 😔I hope whoever did your scan was able to be empathetic and really kind to you. My first chemical, the sonographer was so cold and I was genuinely shocked how unkind she was.

Im doing ok thank you, I am still getting on and off aches/twinges on the side my ectopic was which is very worrying for me. I guess my only answer of where this goes will be my scan in the morning

@ttcnumerodos I am so so sorry. How awful for you.

I hope that the appointment with the fertility doctor can bring you some answers and spoil yourself as much as you need until then

Thanks love. Yeah I think a chemical. Not what I was expecting with the symptoms I've had but should have been more prepared I guess. I have an appointment with fertility consultant soon so will just take a bit of time to regroup and decide what we do going forward.

How are you doing @Blondepeach? xx

@ttcnumerodosThere really are no words, I’m so so sorry. I thought of you today when I woke up as knew your scan was today. Sending you so much love and strength ❤️‍🩹

Is it likely to have been a chemical or do you not have any answers? X

Well that was hellish. Just been for the scan and no sign of pregnancy at all. The worst scenario I could have had - the same as my private scan last year. After the scan they did a urine sample to confirm and nothing. My last positive test was Thursday so feeling very stupid, confused and heartbroken 😞 xx

@ThisHangryTiger Fingers crossed for you.

Here I got a negative test this morning. 😒. I am less sad than last time. Here we go again for another cycle of IUI.

Congratulations to all those getting positives! It's great news!

My DH came back from his trip hopefully just in time to DTD. I wasn't tracking but I could be between 7-9 DPO. I've had a little bit of this sore throat that's doing the rounds but driving to work today, all of a sudden I became so nauseous (and still am 30 mins later). It's prolly the cold and overthinking but we can't help but symptom spot!

I was going to hold off until Friday as that'll be 9-12 DPO but now I'm not so sure!

Aww congrats to all the BFP’s in this thread. Came to post when I saw @Iris2024 you’ve gotten your positive. I’ve been keeping myself off socials a lot more but did want to send my congratulations over

Oh @Iris2024 this is wonderful news, congratulations! I am the same age as you and you have filled me with hope, here’s hoping everything continues to progress well

@Iris2024 Those are lovely lines for 10dpo 🤞🤞 praying this is your sticky bean!!

I'm doing well. I'll be 32 weeks on Friday. Starting to feel a little more real now but I've not relaxed at all since my BFP. With previous losses, everything just feels precarious. Looking forward to stopping work soon for mat leave. XX