TTC after second or third trimester loss

@Wishingforwhatshouldhavebeenmy first petals session was hard. I won’t lie, I cried all the way through it. The counsellor was lovely and made some really good points. She could see that my DH was keeping everything bottled up and didn’t want to show his feelings but she was really understanding around that and we have managed to talk a little outside of the session so it’s definitely helped. The triage session was just to basically tell them why you’re there and they tell you what to expect. Then the sessions are booked in with a counsellor who you’ll see each time. We have 5 sessions fortnightly. I think it’s hard as you’re discussing past trauma and I felt totally wiped out for the day but it’s been a few days post session now and I’m feeling more positive about it. I hope it helpful for you both ❤️

Hi @i123i, thank you for the welcome. I’m so sorry for your loss also and wishing you the best of luck when you decide to TTC again.

@Wishingforwhatshouldhavebeenthank you for your hello, I can totally empathise with feeling different things at different times. I spent a while wanting to try again but also quite fearful of it. Now I think I will be anxious when/if I conceive again but the worry has taken a back seat compared to how much I want to be pregnant again.

Just noticing how many people are having support from Petals. I’ve just finished some counselling sessions with them and got a lot from it personally.

@Gingerseal I’m so sorry for your loss. Welcome seems like the wrong word so hello. We’re not there yet with ttc and are waiting on our post mortem results before we decide on a timeline. It’s so hard knowing when though, one minute all I want is to be pregnant again and the next I’m so terrified of the thought of being I wonder if I’ll ever be able to consider it again.

@Fullofconfusion how did your fist petals session go if you don’t mind sharing? Completely fine and understandable if you don’t want to talk about it though. We’ve got our triage session next week and I’m nervous enough about that! We’re going to do it together too, my husband was a bit unsure but I think we both need it and hope that doing it together might help us talk more openly about it outside of the sessions too.

@Gingerseal- sorry for your loss. Lots of support here.

@MissingMyBaby- no, not yet decided when we will TTC. I am ready but DH not yet and we are still waiting on post mortem results.

@Fullofconfusion- that’s great your cycle has righted itself so quickly. Based on LH strips, I think I’m due to ovulate tomorrow, CD15, which is much much earlier than my last cycle (first cycle post miscarriage, which was CD22/23). So maybe my cycle is correcting itself already too? Let’s hope…

Hi @MissingMyBabythank you for your kind response. I’m so sorry for your loss, I think you’re so strong to have given yourself time before you TTC again. How are you feeling about it?

I’m about to turn 36, so not over the hill yet haha but no spring chicken either! Vitamins is a good question, I had a regime before the TMFR focusing more on lengthening a shorter luteal phase as that was an issue for me at that time. Now it doesn’t seem to be though, so maybe I could revisit what vitamins would be better. I will try to track my cycle a bit more too I think as have been a bit hit and miss with it recently.

Hi all, hoping I can join. I have one 2yo DD and have been TTC a second child since sept 2024. I conceived in May 2025, but sadly the pregnancy ended in Aug 2025 with a TFMR at 15 weeks.

I’m now just waiting to start cycle 5 after getting a BFN this morning at 11dpo. So gutted! Really felt like everything was right this month - less stress, more sleep, good diet, lots of BD at right time etc. The waiting is so hard.

I hated Pregnacare, it made me super emotional, my cycles went a bit haywire and I ended up with hormonal cystic acne!

I take Coq10 with added omega 3, folic acid and vitamin D.

I have my first petals session this week. I’m quite nervous as I don’t know why my DH will be. He doesn’t like to open up so I think he’ll find it hard but I’m hoping it’ll help us both find some peace

Thank you @Fletchasketch and @MissingMyBaby

Hello, think I can help with this. I've been under the care of a recurrent miscarriage clinic and the generic recommendations they make to everyone are 2000ui vitamin D3, Omega 3, 600mg Coq10 and 75mg aspirin. I've also just started taking Ovum after it was recommended by my acupuncturist. Unfortunately it's not cheap, but like you I'm trying to do everything positive I can after 2 miscarriages and a 16 week loss.

Hello I was just wondering if anyone has any vitamin recommendations? We’re waiting for the results of the postmortem before we even think about ttc but I want to start doing something positive now so thought taking some vitamins or supplements again could be a good step. I was just going to start taking pregnacare again as that’s what I’ve used before but thought I’d ask first. I stopped when we had our loss so am really conscious that I probably need to build everything up again to give us the best chance.

How is everyone doing? Hope the new year is positive for us all especially after navigating Christmas and the feelings it can bring.

@i123iI think I’ve ovulated today. A couple of days of EWCM and then cramps this afternoon which I believe were ovulation cramps. If I’m right then my cycle has righted itself again and I’ll just put last month down as a hiccup. To be honest I wonder if I ovulated at all last month, I caught a rise in LH but no real peak and then AF arrived a week after that so I wonder if it just didn’t happen. This month I’m feeling more hopeful.

@Ash2345fI had a loss at 22 weeks (medical management) and bled for about 2-3 weeks. Then seemed to had my first period at 6 weeks after. Then it went back to my usual pattern, if that helps. I wish you all the best with your journey and I’m so sorry for your loss

logging back in after the Christmas period it’s been a tricky one to navigate through that’s for sure…I hope everyone is feeling as good as they can be 💙 after our loss on 05th November I though I had my period on 2nd December it certainly seemed that way and I tracked it as that…anyway I was due to have a period on the 30th December going of my usual cycle but it hasn’t arrived…. What’s everyone’s cycles been like since their loss? Thanks in advance x

Thanks for the thoughts @SparklyGreenTiger, hope you are doing ok.

@MissingMyBaby- so sorry to hear Christmas Day was so awful. Impossible not to imagine what it could have been like instead. I try to take social media breaks every so often which helps.
Yes, my temperatures confirmed ovulation, temperatures stayed high and then dropped yesterday. AF came today. Bang on 12dpo as per pre-miscarriage cycles, so at least that’s reassuring I guess….

@ForUmberFinchso sorry for your loss, but so glad you now have your rainbow. I might ditch the tracking at some point, I just want to make sure my cycles are regular again first. (like @MissingMyBaby, we also fell pregnant in a month I didn’t really track)

@Fullofconfusion- hope ovulation comes as expected and the not tracking helps with stress reduction. I find CM is my most obvious indicator and impossible to ignore, if not tracking with strips or BBT.

@Wishingforwhatshouldhavebeen that sounds like a really tough Christmas Day. I am sure your 3 year old still had a magical time. We are about on the same timing then as my AF came today… although not expecting ovulation until CD 20 or so until my cycle regulates (this will be my second cycle post miscarriage).

Hello again everyone I hope you’ve been kind to yourselves over Christmas, it was definitely harder than I expected it to be. We spent Christmas Day with my in-laws including their young baby and the whole day just felt like one of those old game shows where they show all the prizes at the end and go “here’s what you could have won”! We’re lucky enough to have a 3 year old but seeing him interact with his little cousin broke my heart over and over again. And just to add to everything my periods decided that Boxing Day was the perfect day to start again… which was horrible timing but also a little bit reassuring I suppose. Which would have been exactly 30 days after our loss @Ash2345f. Sending you all love.

@Fullofconfusion we've just been accepted by petals and waiting to hear about a start date. I’m really hoping it’s helpful.

I’m not tracking this cycle. I had an odd 25 day cycle last time around which totally threw me. My cycles are usually clockwork 30/31 days with ovulation around day 19-21. So to reduce stress over the festive period I’ve stopped tracking using strips. I’m just listening to my body and looking out for the usual signs. I’m cd14 today so coming up to halfway through my usual cycle length. No sign of ovulation yet.

I hope you’ve all managed to have a peaceful Christmas. I think I know what everyone’s new year wish will be. I hope it comes true for us all

We lost our first at 40 weeks whilst I was in active labour. So I physically had to go through labour and birth. We started trying again 6 weeks later. 15 months after our rainbow was born. Ditch the cycle tracking, ovulation tests etc. they just cause stress and that’s not helpful when ttc - just have sex and lots of it!! I had reflexology and acupuncture to help me recover physically and mentally, along with private counselling.

Hope you’re all being very gentle with yourself over this period. It’s not a fun time for many even if we hadn’t gone through this horrific experience. So sending you all hugs and best wishes for the days ahead x

Thanks for sharing your experience on ovulation timing after miscarriage @Moosey898. Hopefully mine will regulate over the next couple of months. I hope February comes quickly for you and Christmas helps distract you, helps you take some peaceful time to yourself, even if you’re not in a festive mood.

@MissingMyBaby- yes that’s a good way to frame it, using the time to get healthier etc.
The funeral was very emotional but also helped with healing in a way 🤍.

The acupuncture appointment was ok. I didn’t gel with the therapist so much but the actual treatment felt relaxing. And I think I did ovulate on CD 22-23 in the end, (coincidentally CD 23 was on the day of acupuncture) but just waiting on my temperature app confirming it.