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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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If you conceived your first on your first try...

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Sa11yCinnamon · 22/09/2025 15:27

...how long did your second take?

Everyone I know has taken much longer the second time and I'm wondering how much I should factor that into plans for #2 - obviously I'm aware it could happen and we'd be prepared for that, but want to manage expectations!

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Marylou62 · 24/09/2025 09:33

First month with DS.
18mths with DD.
first month with DS2.

Thethingswedoforlove · 24/09/2025 01:28

Bladderpool · 22/09/2025 17:06

First time every time for 4 pregnancies. Only 2 to term though.

Same

keepmeright · 23/09/2025 23:12

No 1 fell pregnant on the pill age 19. No 2 unfortunately ended in miscarriage but was 1st cycle age 29. I tracked my cycle using an app that time round

Ketryne · 23/09/2025 22:36

My first child was a happy accident after one contraception fail (and by that I mean we failed to use any 😆). My second pregnancy was conceived on a one-off whim but ended in a miscarriage. Third was another miscarriage after 2 months of active trying immediately after. We took a break for a couple of months then my fourth pregnancy was the first month of trying and this one happily stuck. So while I conceived easily each time, it took a lot longer to create my second child due to the losses. I’m definitely all done now!

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 23/09/2025 21:51

It’s going to depend on your age. I had my first at 37 and I remember by doctor told me not to wait to try again. DP and I laughed and laughed as we’d conceived immediately first time. On how the laughs turned hollow when it took nearly three years and three miscarriages to miraculously conceive DC 2.

MummaMummaMumma · 23/09/2025 21:41

First time ovulating after stopping breastfeeding.

Echobelly · 23/09/2025 21:38

Best part of 6 months for our second after conceiving on first try first time around.

Dreamymama · 23/09/2025 21:31

First pregnancy at 25 first try, second at 30 second try x

user2848502016 · 23/09/2025 20:15

The same, all 3 (possibly 4th chemical) pregnancies got pregnant 1st or 2nd cycle

Pineapplewaves · 23/09/2025 20:12

Six months, miscarried at 12 weeks, then another 4 months to conceive DC2. So a year total (had to wait for my periods to return after the mc before trying again).

padso · 23/09/2025 20:09

1st time for both dc.

Wombatboymom · 23/09/2025 19:49

First try for first and second. Two one hit wonders!

We are very careful with protection now we’re not trying 😂

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 23/09/2025 09:22

Most people I know are the opposite and the first was hard and second a surprise one hit wonder

BigHouseLittleHouse · 23/09/2025 09:21

actually second time we tried, and third time for dc2 (I was in my 40s so that was surprising)

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Sa11yCinnamon · 23/09/2025 09:19

Thanks for all the replies, really interesting to read and I'm feeling a little more optimistic 😊

@SummerBump23 I think you're right about social media, it's definitely made me expect the worst!

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SummerBump23 · 23/09/2025 07:36

First one - first try (34). Fertility issues run in my family so I was surprised and anticipated a longer ttc journey for number two.
DTD once during the first month of ttc and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with number 2 (I’m 37 now).
Totally shocked - I’d actually imagined I’d have around 6months of trying ahead of us.
I think social media definitely made me expect the worse as my feeds are inundated with ivf/infertility/secondary infertility stories.

DramaAlpaca · 22/09/2025 22:28

It took 11 months to conceive my first one, and first time of trying to conceive my second.

I was still breastfeeding when I conceived the second one. They've a 16 month gap, which was a bit of a shock at the time. We only started trying when we did because we thought it'd take ages, but no!

I think it took 4 months to conceive our third and final baby a couple of years later.

A quick edit to add I had them all in my late 20s/early 30s.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 22/09/2025 22:20

First was unplanned - early 20’s
second first try - mid 20’s
third first try- mid 20’s

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 22/09/2025 22:01

Yes. It was timed because of my work maternity pay and was "tonight's the night" and baby arrived on the exact date too.

crocodilesandwich · 22/09/2025 21:57

1st time all 3 kids- third was 10 years after the first so I was expecting longer but nope!

lightslittle · 22/09/2025 21:49

First try for both children which I’m very grateful for

Outside9 · 22/09/2025 21:43

Conceived on 1st attempt for both first and second child at ages 28 and 30 respectively.

Objectrelations · 22/09/2025 21:37

Same again. I thought it would take longer and it didn’t so I had a smaller gap than I was anticipating!

Nineandahalf · 22/09/2025 21:35

First time both times. Very fortunate. I had also planned for the second time to take longer though !

2chocolateoranges · 22/09/2025 21:35

First month both times.

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