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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

Very nervous to TTC after a miscarriage but am going for it

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Bella23 · 20/01/2005 09:19

For those who want to look to the future and TTC again I would really like some support, advice etc.
I thought we needed a new thread with positive energy (yes have turned into chanting hippy) so that we feel we are moving forward rather than dwelling on what has already passed.
The only thing I can concentrate on at the moment is that next Wed is the day that me and DH can start trying again (this will be 2 weeks after ERPC).
Anyone else ready to try again?

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romilly · 21/02/2005 21:51

mishi - EWCM is SUPER MEGA fertile time- get bd'ing now!
sorry to hear you are upset about your mini drama - i shouldnt let it get to you, its her problem not yours. you've got far more interesting things to be thinking about right now

dq - thanks for giving us all a mention on the MN thread - makes me feel Almost Famous (grin) - loved mine, Romilly who doesnt bake!

has been bad day for playing on MN for me today but will be needing all of you over the next few days, i'll even read all your recipes, promise

btw, i haven't tested yet, but only cause i'm too chicken

mishi1977 · 21/02/2005 20:54

dq..hugs for the hormones hun

bella that is disgraceful...they should get themselves srted out

well i am having a mini drama of my own...am fuming over someone i know...they have just announced they r pg and they post on here...dont really care if they read this as i think they have a screw loose...anyways...they have posted on the oct 05 board about their friend in rl..ie me..being very upset about their and all about my mc in dec...the thing that is annoying me is that they posted this last thurs but only actually told me this morning that they were pg..i am soo annoyed to be used as someones drama to talk about..arghhhhhhhhhh...she has done something like this when i mc she posted it on the ttc board..its not her story to tell iykwim...thanks for reading the rant...oo but i do have a question if u have EWCM does that mean you are OV or about to? I have grabbed dh twice so far today just incase it means i am oving..lol tmi sorry
take care all i am off to decide what to do over this so called friend

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Bella23 · 21/02/2005 16:57

DQ - also big hugs as just realised that I may have sounded a bit flippant. Just a bad day for you..........go get the wine.

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Bella23 · 21/02/2005 16:56

DQ - oh dear, hormones are racing. I am picturing the nun scene from Aeroplane when they all take turns slappng her accross the face in order to calm her........do you think this is what you need?? (only joking by the way in case you are offended)
I would suggest a glass of wine? I am now on the wagon as have had wine everyday for the past 2-3 weeks and I am in danger from turning into a lush. I am now in health kick mode in order to maximise chances of ttc, will be like going cold turkey tonight - may have to try the baking myself.

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dramaqueen72 · 21/02/2005 16:49

maybe actually bella you should rwite or phone THEM. tiem to say again and out loud 'now hang on, this is crap, have you any idea how we m/c people feel?' because ONLY when they get complaints do they actually make an effort to stop it. its so awful really!!! you SHOULD of shouted. we're always having to be so bloody understanding to people who 'forget' 'dont know' 'didnt think' around us.

can you tell my hormones are out in ernest today!!! i am SO crabby!!! lordy.
I've had road rage, mumsnet rage (!), bickered with dh (and i started it.......) i am mighty fed up, and hate not being pg right now this minute.
sigh.
maybe i should bake something?

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Bella23 · 21/02/2005 15:57

Thanks ladies, am not upset just really annoyed at incompetence! Anyway thanks for letting me get the rant off my chest.
In our TTC game its Romilly who is stepping up first. The other team members are wishing her well and hoping that she will be leading them into victory......go chase that rabbit Romilly!

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yingers74 · 21/02/2005 15:44

Bella - hugs to you. Honestly talk about rubbish communication in their dept. And the fact she didn't apologise is just outragious.

romilly · 21/02/2005 15:38

awww bella - that is crap of them, honestly!

dying to catch up with you all... bit pushed for time 2day

CD25 arrrrrghhhhhh! holding out still - but horribly tense

dq - 1st AF after m/c always bit weird i reckon

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Bella23 · 21/02/2005 15:02

Bloody hell!!!!!
The midwife has just phoned again to reschedule my appointment - couldn't believe it. Last week I spoke them after the letter I received and had to phone and explain. The woman was really apologetic and sweet and I honestly didn't mind the mistake but for it to happen again and them phone me is just CRAP. The woman was really clipped as well, didn't even apologise, just simply said that no-one had told her!
I feel like shouting at the top of my voice "I AM NOT PREGNANT SO P**S OFF!!
Sorry for rant, just needed to load off.

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dramaqueen72 · 21/02/2005 12:35

pardon mishi did you say something??

mishi1977 · 21/02/2005 10:33

pmsl DQ i hardly remember anything.hence the lack of responses to posts even after just reading them..

dramaqueen72 · 21/02/2005 10:11

yeh and me - imnetioned a seller there too, get lots from ebay. now get positive notes in with them as well as lady obviously feels sorry for me testing so often with no joy! at first i thought how nice,.now i think how embarrassing!
did you see your mentions on the 'what can you remember about other mumsnetters?' thread from meeeeeeeeeeeeee!!. i can remember one heck of a lot about some of you! tho, admit, sometimes you all kinda blend together and i cant remember whos got ds/dd, who works, who bakes..... LOL

mishi1977 · 21/02/2005 10:04

yingers it was me who said about ebay sprry..lol..i get 5 for 3.50 pmsl

yingers74 · 21/02/2005 09:31

bella - tah for the dust! And wow you will be a busy as well as tired bunny!

mishi - it was far worse until someone, dq i think, mentioned ebay. At least now tests don't cost me a fiver each!!!

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Bella23 · 21/02/2005 09:25

Morning ladies.
So we have some testers this week....Rom, you are first I think. Will be keeping everything crossed - no pressure obviously
Have started ov testing and bding just to get into practice. Plan is to bd every other day for the next 2 weeks with an extra one when the ov tests show a +ve. Am sooooooo determined!!

Positive baby dust to you all..........

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mishi1977 · 20/02/2005 21:47

meant to say yingers...must cost a fortune in testing..lol...i have my 10 i bought post op and still not tested and they r 10 dats post conception ones so am gonna try and hold out although i have been itiching this week only so i can get a neg so i know a pos is a true pos

mishi1977 · 20/02/2005 21:45

right...according to fertility friend i should be o ing now based on CM etc...lol
So am due AF 5th march according to my pre mc cycle....that has just taken me a good hour to work out..pmsl
Luckily enough i have bd nearly every day of ov...so we shall see..would be nice for nov as ds is 2 in oct and its my bday in dc and wedding anni on 10th
oh well we shall see

yingers74 · 20/02/2005 21:25

DQ - Don't ask, I have been a bit trigger happy with them as they were such a bargain!

And yes it would be lovely but I really do think my symtoms are in my head and a reaction to hearing about someone getting pregnant!

dramaqueen72 · 20/02/2005 21:17

ordered some more yingers? how many you used! they are supposedly good for ten days post O. i think -without going to read pack (upstairs) i hope your pg signs are very real. fingers crossed.
mishi -are you mad?!! everyother day is PERFECT for a BFP! i hope its good for you. a NOVEMBER baby for you i think! when are you due to test????i shall count down with you guys.
my af is weird. what was evryone like first time after op? heavy? light? same? mines feeble!! i hope its 'proper' af cause i'm counting my cycle from here!!!!!!

yingers74 · 20/02/2005 21:07

Rom, i too would have tested yesterday, I also really really lack patience on this issue and to make it worse I am imagining pregnancy symtoms, felt a bit queesy today so seriously considered testing but then started to feel better!!!!

How soon can you use those ultra tests after b-ding? Have ordered some more from e-bay!

mishi1977 · 20/02/2005 20:54

hi
rom i would wait till thurs...but thats me

dq i wish i could bake but i take the lazier option and let the superstore bake for me

Well i did manage to cox dh into a little bit of bding so shall see but i dont think this is our month tbh....need to work out when im due af again but i really not holding out hope for some reason...evne tho i have managed to bd at least every other if not every...sigh
Hopefully be an dec bubs for me
take care

dramaqueen72 · 20/02/2005 18:53

TODAY I BAKED
citrus crusted scones.
marmalade chicken (+quorn for me)
am stepford chef!!
i DONT do any dvd exercise thingys, that prob my problem, tho in this house, with three children, one dh, and inlaws forever at the door i NEVER get anything left five minutes after i made it. so would actually be nice to eat something myself. the only exercise i do is running after dd, and chivying big dd and ds along, walking dog. its enough, am not shaped like house. small shed maybe but not house....
(aiming to be shaped like house tho.... full of baby not cake!)

dramaqueen72 · 20/02/2005 18:49

yesterday. i cannot wait. ever. buy ultra early tests and test often. my bf got a neg 10dpo and then a Positive 12dpo, so frankly if it can change in 48hrs i'm for testing often!!! however i am NOT rational so dont ask me!!!

romilly · 20/02/2005 18:39

Ummmm.......stealth bulimia?

sorry yingers this interminable wait is starting to get me i think, just ignore me!!

on cd24 and trying NOT to think about testing - AF apparently due on wednesday if FF is to be believed..
gotta hold out 'til at least then methinks

when would any of you guys test?

yingers74 · 20/02/2005 18:24

But Rom I don't bake and I still NEED to use those exercise vids! Any advice for me?

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