Very nervous to TTC after a miscarriage but am going for it

am nearly 7 weeks now so still early days but feeling "quite pregnant" now so fingers crossed. I am glad that hearing my story helps and look forward to reading some happy news on this thread. The mutual support is amazing.

wow - this thread's getting busier. its great to see so many stong, positive and brave ttc'ers here! greetings bella, and dqueen.

littleweed - OMG! that comment was about the most insensitive thing i've heard since my other half's classic this weekend (sorry but i just refuse to call him dh at this moment in time)
i'm not going to go into it here cause this is the POSITIVE thread! but suddenly i understand Germaine Greer's quote "everyone needs a wife - nobody needs a husband"! i know, i know, we'd miss them really - but venus and mars, eh?

mishi - my erpc was on the 29th Dec - two days before yours - so will be interesting to see when we both get first AF again

hereshoping and yingers - so sorry, thinking of you both and glad your here to join us (and hope all goes well tomorrow for you hh)

last but definitely not least, isn't it great to hear someone like sallie - 3 months later and pg again - how many weeks are you now sallie?

Yingers - my first cycle after the mc was all over the place but things soon settled down. Agree about telling people - this time have only told dh and a good friend in RL. But its good to be able to chat on mumsnet as there is always someone who has been through a similar experience. I too never thought it could happen to me....and was surprised, even though it was a very early mc, how much it took out of me physically and mentally. And DH, although he is wonderful, and is also a doctor, wasn't really that understanding.....good to hear that you have your mother with you. Take care

Yes am trying to stay positive about the whole thing. One lesson i learnt is that I certainly will not be telling everyone I am pregnant as soon as i find out myself. Having to tell everyone you had a miscarriage is difficult, their sadness makes your own worse.

Sallie - your story certainly gives me heart. I think I will give it a month and then start again.

I just hope ttc does not turn into an obsession, LOL, but of course i know it will!

hi all ..still no af so no idea when will be oving etc..but was getting horrible pains last night in stomach/pelvic area and round my back so think af may be baout to rear her head....first one after mc have always been a nightmare for me..sigh..sorry thats quite a self pitying post but got no one else to share with..lol

Yingers - I had a mc in Sept and conceived again in Dec. Had the mc at around 6 weeks and felt the same - wanted to get straight on with ttc again. Whatever is best for you but do give yourself time to get over it.

can I join? Just just found out I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks. am sad but ok and would like to try to concieve as soon as poss. Any advice would be great? This was my second pregnancy, first miscarriage, it was a huge shock as I guess you always think it won't happen to you.

hi dq and bella and all new to me on this thread
im ready to move off the m/c thread - need a more positive one too
ive got an erpc tomorrow after 2nd missed m/c in 6 months but just know i need to ttc again. as for the spring chicken bit - my consultant told me its my age at 35 - this has made me stubbornly feel I will do this and have another baby - my mum had 2 in her 40s
I am going to try and chill and not get obsessed again though
lets be positive and hope early 2006 brings happier times for us

aaaaagggghhh! what is it about men? why oh why do they open their mouths in the first place? littleweed i'm so sorry he said that. duh. my dh said today he was jealous of the amount of sleep i have had....i'm literally recovering from my D&C. so funnily enough i am sleeping abit more than usual, but cant he remember WHY i'm sleeping?! shall we line 'em up and shoot them?

have just had 'words' with my Dh about my mc a few months back. apparently becasue it was a blighted ovum 'I wasn't really preganat anyway......'
men.

aww bella loads of baby dust for you hun..hope it is your month...god knows where i am up to im still waiting for af after my mc....soo will be glad when it arrives cos then i will know where im up to...lol

mishi, i hear you.....you worry if you do bleed, you worry if you dont.......you get past that stage and then you worry if they do move alot and worry if they dont....it never stops and experiences like ours just add to the sense of it all. but we can all get there. with dd i found a dopler helped, getting extra midwife appointments, extra early scans....all those things to 'reassure' you just little more.
bella, your 2 weeks are so nearly up. i hope its a good month for you.

romilly thanks for the welcome

bella i agree...i do think it is harder to get be pg after a mc as you are so tense...with Ds i bled from 7wks till11 wks..i didnt actusally know i was pg but went t gp cos i thought was having extremely long af...lol....but of course once i knew i was extremely tense due to the prior mcs..obviously last time i thought everything was great and i should have been 15 wks but pip had died about 4/5 wks earlier....so next time i will prob be stressed either way...funnily enough it doesnt put me off as from having ds i have realised what i would miss out on...hope that makes sense
take care

welcome wendy and mishi

welll i got successfully pg with dd after my first missed m/c, and the heartache is one hell of a rollerocaster. it was so stressful,getting past the stage i never got past before. it hurt so much to have this second missed m/c but i know i have to go on and have a successful pg, for many many reasons. we can do it, we will need each other tho very much.

hi bella..i 'think' i am ready to try again..i have had 2mcs naturally prior to DS now 15mths then one missed mc at 9 weeks over xmas..thought i was 15weeks so had surgical option on 30th of dec...still no af but i do want another little one asap...just worried about heartache

Hi everyone
After five years of trying and four failed IUI attemps we finally conceived naturally only for our little boy to be stillborn at 23 weeks on the 24th September 2004, the day before my 34th birthday. It is only now that I feel ready to start to try again and after our difficulties conceiving first time round I am even more worried that it might not happen again, but atleast we have been referred for IVF, so hopefully something will work and the futrue will look brighter again.

Bella, dramaqueen, Romilly and everyone in the same boat... sorry to hear of your losses, good luck for TTC and very very best wishes.

I conceived again 3 cycles after an early m/c this summer and am now 21 weeks. TTC after m/c is a real rollercoaster - as I found even after this very short time - but there are lots of mumsnetters here to support you.

Lots of positive energy coming your way!

..er bella, I'm 32, stop with the 'no spring chicken' comments! we are very spring like !!