Hi, I'm pretty new to MN. DH & I decided the time was right to TTC. We said we would keep it to ourselves - no point getting people all excited when it could take months, if not longer, for us to concieve. We also made a point of not telling family.
Four months in, and it is driving me mad. So many people we know keep asking us when we're "going to hear the patter of tiny feet". A friend even said next time we visited she wanted me to be pregnant!
They are all comments I know I should take with a pinch of salt, but that last one came the day after I found out I was not pregnant last month, and needless to say, it was an emotional / disappointing time.
I'm trying to learn to live with their comments (my DH seems a little unfazed by them, so I'm trying to follow his example!), but it's our families I am worried about.
My mum keeps making it perfectly clear that she does not to be a grandma yet, and came outright and told me the other month that I should wait a few years before I have children.
At my wedding receiption, my parents and his discussed how long they felt it was best for us to wait to have kids! Mum has made it clear she think's it is a bad move - and I'm starting to get worried about what she will say.
At my age, my mum had two kids. I understand where she is coming from, as she was alone, and doesn't want the same for me. But I'm 23, I am married, I have a mortgage on my house, I have a job which gives up to a years maternity. To me, I cannot see a better time.
Do I talk to my mum outright before I get pg? Do I tell the friends who just wont let it go that we're trying, or just to bugga off?
I just wondered if anybody else had faced the same amount of negativity and how they coped.
Sorry for long message - had to get it off my chest!
Love Elf