How often to have sex?

RowsOfFlowers · 2025-06-29T18:11:43+00:00

My DH and I are ttc first time and it’s coming up to my fertile window. How often should we be having sex? He’s under the impression that we should every other day or every 2 days as apparently it takes this long to “replenish” his bank so to speak, but I’ve never heard this before. I thought every day increases the chances. What’s everyone else’s advice? Thank you x

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RowsOfFlowers · 30/06/2025 12:54

1Birdsong · 30/06/2025 08:46

Honestly every 1-2 days is fine. Can depend on sperm quality - apparently for smog people daily is fine, but men with low sperm count/concentration might want to do every other day to replenish sperm. Apparently more than once a day loses affect again because of how long it takes for sperm to mature

Thank you :)

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1Birdsong · 30/06/2025 08:46

Honestly every 1-2 days is fine. Can depend on sperm quality - apparently for smog people daily is fine, but men with low sperm count/concentration might want to do every other day to replenish sperm. Apparently more than once a day loses affect again because of how long it takes for sperm to mature

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RowsOfFlowers · 30/06/2025 08:36

katand2kits · 30/06/2025 07:16

If you've just come off contraception then sex twice a week plus an extra bonus shag when you notice ovulation mucus is plenty.

Don’t think I’ve ever noticed that 😳

Not on the pill

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katand2kits · 30/06/2025 07:16

If you've just come off contraception then sex twice a week plus an extra bonus shag when you notice ovulation mucus is plenty.

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RowsOfFlowers · 30/06/2025 05:31

MyLov · 30/06/2025 01:03

I’m not worked up lol 😂😂. Just trying to keep it light!

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I really don’t think it matters all that much…. We get the gist….

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MyLov · 30/06/2025 01:03

OneGiddyRubyViewer · 30/06/2025 00:34

It’s you who’s getting worked up about it pal

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I’m not worked up lol 😂😂. Just trying to keep it light!

OneGiddyRubyViewer · 30/06/2025 00:34

MyLov · 30/06/2025 00:33

No, that’s what “every three days” means, as opposed to “every two days”, which is the same as “every other day”. Let’s not turn this into another “this Saturday/next Saturday” fiasco. We need some consensus on describing days/dates in this country 😂😂😂😂

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It’s you who’s getting worked up about it pal

MyLov · 30/06/2025 00:33

OneGiddyRubyViewer · 29/06/2025 21:04

Depends if you include the day you have sex as one of the 3 days

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No, that’s what “every three days” means, as opposed to “every two days”, which is the same as “every other day”. Let’s not turn this into another “this Saturday/next Saturday” fiasco. We need some consensus on describing days/dates in this country 😂😂😂😂

Sulking · 29/06/2025 22:32

I mean if you’re die hard trying then using ovulation tests to track your ovulation, then having sex from the week before predicted ovulation will work. But if you’re in it for the sun too then you very other day will work too.

DH and I had sex about every other day and for 3 consecutive days before predicted (then confirmed) ovulation. Took us 7 months, twice 🤣

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RowsOfFlowers · 29/06/2025 22:28

Rancor · 29/06/2025 22:06

Every other day until you are very near to ovulation, then do it everyday for around 4 days (if you can be bothered😄). I have concieved 3 times (2 losses unfortunately) and each time we did it: 4 days in a row (resulted in my beautiful son!), then next was 3 days in a row, and the final one was 2 days in a row. It obviously only takes the one, but it's trying to time it right that is trickier!

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This is exactly it! Timing!

thank you for sharing. Sorry for your losses x

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Rancor · 29/06/2025 22:06

Every other day until you are very near to ovulation, then do it everyday for around 4 days (if you can be bothered😄). I have concieved 3 times (2 losses unfortunately) and each time we did it: 4 days in a row (resulted in my beautiful son!), then next was 3 days in a row, and the final one was 2 days in a row. It obviously only takes the one, but it's trying to time it right that is trickier!

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RowsOfFlowers · 29/06/2025 21:59

firsttimemum99x · 29/06/2025 21:56

I only had sex once, 2 days before ovulation

Wow! I think that is quite rare!

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firsttimemum99x · 29/06/2025 21:56

I only had sex once, 2 days before ovulation

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RowsOfFlowers · 29/06/2025 21:56

boysmuminherts · 29/06/2025 20:50

All throughout the month, rather than focusing only on the fertile window.

Interesting?! X

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RowsOfFlowers · 29/06/2025 21:56

kikikaka · 29/06/2025 20:51

I did every day that was showing my fertile window, worked first time twice

Thanks @kikikaka and that’s very fortunate! 😊

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RowsOfFlowers · 29/06/2025 21:56

CC222 · 29/06/2025 21:44

It’s not just timing, it’s also what you do after. Naturally my instinct is to get up and go for a wee, but I’ve noticed my last couple of pregnancies happened when I’d fallen asleep after and didn’t stand up at all, which I never normally do. Sounds random, but I fell asleep both times on my front, which again I never normally do. Not sure if that had any impact at all or was just a coincidence, but I’d definitely recommend staying laid down for a long while after especially when you are in your fertile window. Good luck 🤞

I have heard this as well! I have also heard it’s good to lie on your back with your legs / bottom elevated slightly but find this a bit odd to do just after the deed 😅

Thank you though!

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CC222 · 29/06/2025 21:44

It’s not just timing, it’s also what you do after. Naturally my instinct is to get up and go for a wee, but I’ve noticed my last couple of pregnancies happened when I’d fallen asleep after and didn’t stand up at all, which I never normally do. Sounds random, but I fell asleep both times on my front, which again I never normally do. Not sure if that had any impact at all or was just a coincidence, but I’d definitely recommend staying laid down for a long while after especially when you are in your fertile window. Good luck 🤞

OneGiddyRubyViewer · 29/06/2025 21:04

MyLov · 29/06/2025 21:03

That would be “every three days”….

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Depends if you include the day you have sex as one of the 3 days

MyLov · 29/06/2025 21:03

RowsOfFlowers · 29/06/2025 20:21

Yeah what I meant is e.g.
Monday - ttc
Tuesday - no sex
Wednesday - ttc

OR

Monday - ttc
Tuesday - no sex
Weds - no sex
Thursday - ttc

sorry if I didn’t word it the best!!
Thanks all.

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That would be “every three days”….

kikikaka · 29/06/2025 20:51

I did every day that was showing my fertile window, worked first time twice

boysmuminherts · 29/06/2025 20:50

All throughout the month, rather than focusing only on the fertile window.

honeypancake · 29/06/2025 20:39

It is fine to skip a day or two, but try to not underestimate the very beginning of the fertile window, better to DTD early than late in the window!

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RowsOfFlowers · 29/06/2025 20:21

OneGiddyRubyViewer · 29/06/2025 20:16

I assume ”every two days” is have sex on one day then don’t for two days, then have sex again the fourth day

every other day is sex day one, no sex day 2, sex day 3

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Yeah what I meant is e.g.
Monday - ttc
Tuesday - no sex
Wednesday - ttc

OR

Monday - ttc
Tuesday - no sex
Weds - no sex
Thursday - ttc

sorry if I didn’t word it the best!!
Thanks all.

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OneGiddyRubyViewer · 29/06/2025 20:16

Rowen32 · 29/06/2025 19:54

Every other day which is every two days isn't it 🤔

I assume ”every two days” is have sex on one day then don’t for two days, then have sex again the fourth day

every other day is sex day one, no sex day 2, sex day 3

butterdish93 · 29/06/2025 20:09

Just have as much sex as possibly throughout the whole month.