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4w5d test still not dark solid

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 10/06/2025 12:22

Hi,

after previous losses/ ectopic I’m worried that my tests still aren’t as dark as the control line. I have had progression but I was hoping they would be stronger by now.

im nervously waiting for my results from a blood test today. Hopefully they have risen 🤞🏻

anyone else at a similar stage?

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 28/07/2025 23:00

@CharlotteRaebless you! Being sick in the bin at work. It’s such a rough time. Hopefully we’l feel better soon 🤞🏻

at 12 weeks they thought his chin was measuring small which would be a marker for a genetic issue. We had to see a specialist from 12-20 weeks and they were concerned about Down’s syndrome, cleft palate and a condition with a tiny jaw which children struggle to eat etc. it was super super stressful and I was soo upset for weeks. Lots of time between scans worrying. luckily it was fine in the end, he doesn’t have any problems.

The harmony test is a private blood tests that gives very accurate results for some key genetic issues. I had the tests with my son after what happened and now I’m 38 I’m a bit nervous about the risks. It also tells you the gender, so hopefully we’l find out in a few days.

I haven’t told work yet. I plan to if the scan is okay. I’m kind of nervous to tell people. It’s felt like a secret we’v had for ages now 😬

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CharlotteRae · 28/07/2025 20:21

@whatdoyouthink123456 here’s hoping the second trimester brings some normality for a while for us! Yesterday I cried numerous times because I felt so low and drained, and today I was sick in a bin at work haha. Loving life 😂. Yes I have told work, we’re a pretty close team and we all rely on each other for support so I told them fairly early as I knew I’d tell them if it went the other way too. Have you? What sort of complications did your child have at the scan? I’m so nervous about that! What’s the harmony test? Is that similar? I know some are more accurate aren’t they x

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 28/07/2025 09:42

@CharlotteRaemy scan is on Friday! I’m really nervous too. I’m not sure if I said before but with my son they had concerns at the 12 week scan so I’m a bit traumatised by that.
I actually had a harmony test last week so hopefully get the results by weds. I’m hoping that will give me reassurance.

I can’t believe how bad I still feel. I feel like a shell of a person atm. Soo tired, unmotivated, lazy, grumpy. I hope il feel more like myself soon.
I feel the same, I miss feeling like myself.

have You told work yet?

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CharlotteRae · 27/07/2025 16:23

@whatdoyouthink123456hello! I’m ok thanks, I’m 12 weeks Thursday coming so only a day apart. When do you have the dating scan? Mine is Monday 4th. Feel nervous about it, always think they will say oh there’s nothing there anymore 🙈 to be honest I have felt crappy, last week I thought I was past the worst of the tiredness but I’m also feeling shattered and really teary and emotional. Just miss feeling normal and having motivation and energy. Know it the hormones but it’s just hard! Hoping it’s a good sign everything is progressing though. How are you? X

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 26/07/2025 18:40

Hey @Lemonmarigoldand @CharlotteRaehow are you both getting on?

I should be 12 weeks on weds. I’m still feeling soo rough. I’m exhausted every day. I feel like a zombie! I still got lots of nausea too.

I feel like iv got a bump already. I’m sure it’s not as noticeable to other people, but I feel huge!

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 13/07/2025 12:17

@CharlotteRaeaww that’s soo sweet! I’m sure she’ll be a great big sister.
we haven’t told our son yet as he’s a bit too young to understand. Maybe We’l tell him after 12 weeks.
I had a NIPT last week so We’l find out the gender from that. Well tbf it was a disaster as she struggled to get a vein! She tried about 10 times (I don’t have great veins) She got some blood but not sure it’s enough to test. It’s been sent to the US so il find out next week.

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CharlotteRae · 13/07/2025 09:09

@whatdoyouthink123456 yes this is my second, my daughter is 9! She’s absolutely thrilled! I don’t feel too bad, just tired and ravenous all of the time, thankfully sickness very mild so yeah feels similar to when I was pregnant first time round. My other half and daughter want to know gender but I really like the idea of a suprise as il elect for a c-section so there won’t be any surprises with birth date etc… how about you? I’d like another girl as she was so easy haha but my partner would like a boy xx

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 12/07/2025 21:50

@CharlotteRae😍 amazing! Only 2 days difference!

did you say this is your second? do you feel the same as before? Will you find out the gender?

iv already got a 3.5 year old boy. I think I feel the same. I’d quite like another boy.

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CharlotteRae · 12/07/2025 21:03

Ahhh all was fine, measuring 9 weeks 2 days xx

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 12/07/2025 16:49

@CharlotteRaethanks 🥰 it’s nice to see the development. It’s crazy how much they change in 2 weeks

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CharlotteRae · 12/07/2025 15:23

@whatdoyouthink123456ohhhh look!!! Adorable 🥰

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 12/07/2025 15:02

starting to look like a baby 😍

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CharlotteRae · 12/07/2025 14:59

@whatdoyouthink123456oh that’s brilliant news! Such a relief I am sure, I was going to say did baby look very different? I should be about the same as you, just over 9 weeks I think 🤞🏻 you can enjoy your wedding now properly

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 12/07/2025 14:53

Sorry @CharlotteRaei tagged the wrong account 🫣

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 12/07/2025 14:52

I was soo nervous. Mine was at 9:30 this morning.

All good 🎉 baby is measuring the right size (9w4d) had a heartbeat etc. it’s got little arm & leg buds now and looking more like a baby!

I feel like I can relax a little now and enjoy our wedding next Saturday.

good luck for later @Lemonmarigold🤞🏻

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CharlotteRae · 12/07/2025 14:47

@whatdoyouthink123456hello! I have a scan today too… so nervous as I have really felt less pregnant this week… I’m bloated too, especially as the day goes on, feel like it’s really obvious! My scan isn’t until 5.15pm so a while to wait, hope yours goes ok! I have told my close family and friends as I would tell them if it didn’t work out. I’m quite an open book though really anyway xx

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 10/07/2025 17:59

@Lemonmarigoldthats good, I’m glad your symptoms have eased.
sometimes I feel super bumpy, but others my stomach feels flat, so I think it’s maybe just bloating 🤞🏻
My NHS scan isn’t until the start of August, but iv booked a private one. I’m feeling impatient and want to check everything is okay.

have you told anyone about your pregnancy?

I had my booking in appointment this week. Iv been referred to a special team as I had GD when I was pregnant with my son. I think il have more appointments to manage it

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Lemonmarigold · 10/07/2025 14:47

@whatdoyouthink123456 im feeling good! I had a few mild symptoms earlier but now just feeling like myself. I don’t know if it’s an actual bump or just bloat but I feel like I look about 3 or 4 months pregnant! Have been wearing lots of loose dresses to try and cover it. Oh that’s exciting, I’m sure it’ll all go great! I’m not expecting to have my next scan until around 14/15 weeks based on how busy my hospital seems to be, feels like forever away!

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 10/07/2025 13:42

Hi @CharlotteRae & @Lemonmarigoldhow are you both getting on?

how are your symptoms? Do you feel like you are getting a bump yet?

my nausea has levelled out. I’m still very tired.
iv got a scan on Saturday and I’m soo nervous already! I just really want the baby to be okay x

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Everythingisokay · 04/07/2025 20:03

whatdoyouthink123456 · 04/07/2025 19:54

@Everythingisokay

its really tough isn’t it. Once you’ve had issues/ losses it just really plays with your emotions.

I wish I could have a scan every day to check the baby is okay. The waiting feels like torture.

are your tests looking good? No concerns? X

I only took one on Tuesday and then one on Thursday. Thursday's one seemed darker.
Will test again tomorrow and then planning to leave it to Wednesday.

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 04/07/2025 19:54

@Everythingisokay

its really tough isn’t it. Once you’ve had issues/ losses it just really plays with your emotions.

I wish I could have a scan every day to check the baby is okay. The waiting feels like torture.

are your tests looking good? No concerns? X

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Everythingisokay · 04/07/2025 14:39

OP, I found so many of your feelings relatable!
We had a MMC, a biochem, and then had a baby. The said baby is know 2 years old. We've been trying for a second for some time and had two biochemicals since. I've tested positive a few days ago, re-tested yesterday and it's looking better but I'm now even 4 weeks yet.
Literally everyone around us is either heavily pregnant with a #2 or already gave birth. All the questions from them hurt!

Wish you all the best.

Lemonmarigold · 04/07/2025 13:59

@whatdoyouthink123456 I decided to ring them there just in case a letter for my appointment would come when we’re away and I’d miss it. The midwife said I wouldn’t have been due to be seen until the 13th and it will most likely be the 28th now. From what I can remember it’s bloods and they go through yours and your partners medical history.

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 04/07/2025 13:57

@Lemonmarigoldfair enough. Hopefully it’s not too much longer.
I can’t even really remember what happens at the booking in appointment. X

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Lemonmarigold · 04/07/2025 13:42

@whatdoyouthink123456 this is the only hospital near me. I remember them being very busy with my last pregnancy as well, I think I was 14 weeks having my first ultrasound. I self referred at the weekend to the maternity unit so hoping I’ll hear back soon. We go away on holidays next week for 2 weeks so I’m thinking I better ring them today and see if there’s any chance they could see me before I go otherwise I’ll be coming up to 11 weeks having the booking appointment.

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