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TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

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MocktailMe · 05/06/2025 02:31

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Hi everyone!

I can't quite believe it but after a while year we only went and filled the last thread.

I'll tag you all below so that you can find me!

If anyone silently reading along wants to keep following - here's the place. If anyone wants to read the fertility journey for the last year have a look through the last thread.

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MocktailMe · 14/06/2025 10:45

So much CM I feel like I've wet myself 😫 plus mild cramping and backache. If it's not pregnancy I'm expecting my period to be earlier than i'd thought it was going to be as these symptoms could also be that. I'm just generally terrified as last time around I had cramps. But then I do know some cramping can be totally normal in intrauterine pregnancy and not indicative of ectopic too. Can't tell if these are one sided - it's also worth noting last time I was convinced the ectopic was on the right side from the pain and it was actually in the left so I don't know that I can really tell anyway!! I certainly couldn't last time.

I really thought I was ready to go again but the fear is already back stronger than ever and it's only my first cycle trying again!

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PearOpal · 14/06/2025 10:05

@Tater05 how’re you coming along this cycle? Am I right in thinking you’re around 4/5DPO?

Im 7/8 as well depending on which app I choose to believe - Im traveling today and still dealing with consistent nausea but it seems early for that to be real - I’ve got a ladies wine night planned for Wednesday so I’m hoping I can hold off until then to test and then enjoy with abandon when it’s the BFN 😂.

PearOpal · 14/06/2025 10:02

@MocktailMe ive literally never seen a positive pregnancy test in my life so 0 judgement for wanting to keep an eye on it. Fingers crossed that that VFL becomes a big and bold one. How are you feeling overall, any symptoms?

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MocktailMe · 14/06/2025 09:54

Yes I'll need to contact EPU asap to get bloods taken and an early scan - this is what's driving my anxiety although realistically finding out in a week won't make any difference!

I'll likely test again tomorrow morning if I'm honest but I won't be expecting any real changes until another 2-3 days (if I'm not imagining it entirely/misreading an evap 😅)

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Tater05 · 14/06/2025 09:17

@MocktailMe I can see a vvvvvvfl there! Test again in a couple of days, my fingers are so crossed for you! When you're pregnant again do you have to contact EPU with your history? Or just keep a look out for symptoms?

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MocktailMe · 14/06/2025 07:52

Down the rabbit hole I go again...

First test this morning (I know, I know!!!) at somewhere around 7/8dpo. I know it's ridiculous to even test at this point but my anxiety is just uncontrollable.

This could very well be an evap but it does look an awful like the very early positives I've had in the past. I know only time will tell.

TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!
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Tater05 · 12/06/2025 17:15

@MocktailMe I agree, that is the one benefit! I know so much of the science behind it now and I just wish they'd teach us that at school. If I ever have a teenage girl I'll be telling her these things, because there's so much explanation for the way you feel depending on where you are in your cycle and I just had no idea before.

Good idea putting your symptoms on here! My fingers are crossed for you 🤞🏼

@PearOpal the second week of the luteal phase is the worst! I've had months where I've been really good at not thinking about it until that last week where everything feels like it's something 😂

PearOpal · 12/06/2025 17:09

I’ve officially entered the symptom spotter stage of the TWW. Feeling super nauseous and exhausted - but given I’m DPO 6 I know it’s too early to be feeling much of anything oh well only 10 more days to go!

PearOpal · 12/06/2025 17:03

@MocktailMe this may make no sense but I just want to say that I give you a lot of credit for putting that out there. It can be so hard to find a balance between protecting your heart and staying hopefully//avoiding cynicism. Obviously hoping for your instincts to be right but there’s something to be said for giving yourself the reminder for future reference either way. Crossing my finger for you! What DPO are you?

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MocktailMe · 12/06/2025 16:33

Just putting this out into the universe. I think I'm pregnant again. I don't know if this is because I have been pregnant recently that it's easier for me to mistake every feeling as pregnancy (you feel a variety of feelings when pregnant after all), or if it's straight up hope, or if it's real. But I am currently almost certain.

I'm posting this because if I'm wrong I want to be able to look back and remember how real it felt, so I can check myself in the future. And if I'm right....then I guess perhaps i really can 'just tell'. Who knows.

The things that are making me feel pregnant are : sore, heavy boobs. I know for a fact I've experienced this multiple times 😅 but did also experience it pregnant. I've got lower back/leg cramping. My eyes feel dry/tired. I am tired. I have this odd blood flowy tingly not quite pins and needles sensation in my arms and hands. I remember feeling this and the eyes thing a lot when pregnant. But I want to write all this down because if it turns out I'm not I can know it's not a definitive sign for me. I may well have had it other times too but just won't have paid attention!

I'll find out in less than a week anyway, but I wanted to share my feelings today.

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MocktailMe · 12/06/2025 14:12

Hey @Tater05 welcome to the 2WW it's great to have you here 😂 great timing on catching your peak too! I think the one benefit (and it really is the only one!!!!) of fertility struggles is how well we learn our bodies by tracking so much over a long period of time. I understand my cycles and moods attached to certain times etc so much better than ever before, and am getting pretty good at recognising ovulation. If only i had learned this as a teenager! I was always being surprised by my period arriving back then, now I'm on watch at the right time!

I agree we all seem in a better headspace this time around (although I admit I probably dragged the mood down more than anyone over the last year, although probably understandablely so!) and I really do feel this year will be THE year for all of us now ❤️ I could never have known what lay ahead last June!

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Tater05 · 12/06/2025 12:00

After not doing OPKs for nearly a year I'd forgotten how quick my peak is! Luckily I've got so good at knowing the signs we dtd about 2 hours before the peak test 😂

@Thisisouryear2025 sorry I never replied! I think it's good to have a plan like that, hopefully that might take some pressure off as well and give you more of an if it happens it happens mindset. I'm taking vitamins B, B6, C, D, iron, folic acid, calcium magnesium zinc, and COQ 10. Gave up with a multivitamin because I'm taking most of it in separate tablets these days! We're on the 16th cycle, I'm looking at the first year as the trial run.

This thread seems more positive so far, fingers crossed we can keep it up!

TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!
TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!
PearOpal · 11/06/2025 14:41

@MocktailMe having that referral in hand can be so key to feeling in control of whatever you decide to do next. Crossing my fingers for you!

@CharLdn its going. I’m a bit sniffly today (DP5) so trying to avoid convincing myself this is on of those colds folks get because a BFP is on its way. We’re moving this week so I’ve been able to be relatively distracted…plus all my tests are packed somewhere so I’ll definitely put off early Testing 😂. How are you?

might as well go ahead an BD if you’ve got CM and you and DH arent over the action! Sending baby dust!

CharLdn · 11/06/2025 13:45

@PearOpal how are you with the waiting? I definitely think distractions are good!

CharLdn · 11/06/2025 13:44

@MocktailMe totally understandable with your history - my new paranoia is we haven’t had enough sex but tbh neither of us can be bothered. I had CM today so might go for today (day 18) just incase?!

I keep on getting my hopes up in the TWW so I’m trying to be conservative with expectations and focus on just having a normal summer before IVF.

Still no idea when it will be the doctor say we should hear in 3-4 weeks… it’s been 1.5

And now we wait…

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MocktailMe · 11/06/2025 12:24

I'm definitely in the waiting zone now. We did days 15 (day of HSG) 16 17 18 19 20. I haven't done LH strips but I think I ovulated either CD 17 or 18. I'm generally not too far off the mark these days, but I've only had 2 cycles due to pregnancies since December so they're a little all over the place, hence me continuing a few extra days just in case!

Id actually like to now not test for at least three weeks, but due to the ectopic risk I can't wait that long. As previously I've had early pregnancy bleeding that could be mistaken for a period, but was actually ectopic bleeding. So whether I bleed or not I'll be testing to be sure, I'll probably test the first time on CD 28 which is a week today.

I'm in a similar boat in that we are now having 3 cycles of trying after which we will move to IVF (I have the referral). So I do feel like some pressure is off. What will be will be... My anxiety now is less around GETTING pregnant, and more around having a viable safe pregnancy.

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PearOpal · 10/06/2025 21:42

@CharLdn glad your hycosy went well and that you’re feeling positive about how things are trending. I’ll admit I haven’t looked at IVF much at the moment but if we still haven’t seen any success by the fall I’ll probably start digging into it. Fingers crossed for you this month!

I’m 3 or 4 DPO but have lots to keep me distracted this go around so hopefully I can avoid symptom spotting and early test - ha probably not but I’ll give it a go.

CharLdn · 10/06/2025 19:07

@MocktailMe we’ll be two week wait buddys. I think I ovulated at the weekend but didn’t appear to get an lh peak..

I’m post hycosy so apparently increased chances. We’ve not managed to TTC every day but days 8, 10, 12, 14 and I normally ovulate around day 14/15 so hopefully we’ve covered the main days.

I have to say having ivf in mind it’s definitely taken the pressure off and we’ve not been taking things so seriously so maybe this is the ‘just relax’ feeling people talk about… lol (I’m not a relaxed person at all)

Ive been listening to the BFN podcast which I’m enjoying!

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MocktailMe · 07/06/2025 20:04

Wow @KTB34 you are getting so close now. I can't even imagine. I hope the anxiety eases a bit now - the longer you go the safer everything is for baby ❤️

We've TTC every day since the HSG I think I've either ovulated today or will tomorrow and we will try again tomorrow too. I'm extremely hopeful that with a cleared tube this month will be one I catch.

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KTB34 · 07/06/2025 17:19

Hello friends and new friends 🩵

Sounds like I’ve missed a lot!

@MocktailMe glad to hear your HSG went well and your tube is clear I know you were worried about this !

@Waitingformiracle please keep us updated on the egg retrieval. I hope this wasn’t too brutal for you

@KT199 so pleased to hear your 12 week scan went well, I know it’s very hard to wait for this. Hopefully things will progress nicely.

@CharLdn congrats on taking the next step.

Sounds like some really positive updates !

Welcome new people, this group is really really helpful ❤️

Latest update from me, officially hit 3rd trimester today 🩵 baby boy is growing well. The most anxious 28 weeks of my life. Grateful for each day he gets stronger !

Thisisouryear2025 · 06/06/2025 20:11

@KT199 I am so sorry you had to go through what you do that sounds so cruel and unfair and soul destroying as you say! You deserve this healthy pregnancy and to take your baby home this year. X

CharLdn · 06/06/2025 19:20

@MocktailMe loving the new name!

We got this ladies!

My advice to newbies is understanding this is a marathon not a sprint.

I’m feeling much better now knowing we’re going into IVF and it’s taking the pressure off. This weeks ‘sex week’ as I’ve coined it and we’ve just been having a laugh and getting on with it.

I’m trying to just trust the process and not get too invested in the outcome and seeing ivf as like level 2 of TTC rather than the stork.

Thanks to everyone I know I’m not alone in this rollercoaster!

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MocktailMe · 05/06/2025 21:18

@KT199 hey :) yeah we have decided we will try naturally now and if nothing happens by November we will move to IVF. I feel like I have hope for the first time in months. It's really alleviated some fear - I'd been so terrified to even try again as was convinced I would be certain to have ectopic forever. Of course, now I'm simply scared I won't manage to get pregnant again in the first place. One tube is definitely lowering my odds, but even so, with the HSG done today ahead of ovulation there's no reason to be pessimistic immediately.

I can't believe you're already past the 12 week mark. It will be Christmas before we know it. I last conceived in January which feels in some ways years ago, and in others only 5 minutes. You deserve a lovely happy Christmas after last year and I've got everything crossed for the healthiest pregnancy from here on out for you.

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KT199 · 05/06/2025 20:56

AHH good news about the remaining tube @MocktailMe. It least it provides you with the option of trying again naturally, should you wish.

welcome newbies 😊 good luck in your TTC journeys. I hope we can provide some valuable support where needed!

For those who haven’t read the previous thread I am currently 12w5d pregnant but it wasn’t the straightest forward ride to get here. I had a MMC last year which is a very cruel thing to go through as my body thought everything was fine even though the baby had stopped growing.. finding out at a scan when you thought everything was fine was soul destroying. The removal of the pregnancy was also complicated with multiple attempts with surgery and medication and a very long drawn out process spanning over a few month. But the silver lining is to be where we are today, it just makes pregnancy that little more scary having had the past experience. However we are trying to remain positive now that 2025 is the year we meet our baby as we’re due December!

p0ppyx · 05/06/2025 19:59

I would love to join this! I am 27, on cycle 7 of trying for baby number 1. Had some testing last month and everything good with us both so no concerns. 9dpo today, been spotting quite a bit since 6dpo which is unusual for me and getting pinchy sensations. Hope everyone who’s got their BFP has healthy and happy pregnancies and sending baby dust to all still waiting 🩷

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