TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

Ladies I’ve officially gone from symptom spotting to the land of I just want to know… no symptoms but I’ve tested twice and BFN - I’m day 27 but I think I ovulated late and my luteal phase is 10-12 days…

I’m pretty sure it would show on a test if I was so I think keeping hopes conservative is good.

I’m struggling to decide how many drinks I’m allowed at the moment because technically we could be 3 months away from IVF so should not drink, but also if it’s the last summer before ivf I want to have fun… (I’m overthinking this!) the fertility consultant said don’t not drink but if you do be sensible?! Anyone else overthinking alcohol?

@CharLdn he's been taking supplements and doesn't have much caffeine anyway, and only the occasional alcoholic drink. But I definitely think there's room for improvement on exercise and healthy eating so maybe this is the kick he needed!
Your high temps could be promising, you're not out yet! I might not test today, I've started getting the pre-AF cramps so I'm fairly certain it would be yet another blank test.

How're you getting on, @MocktailMe ? Does it seem like AF?

@Tater05 thats positive there’s something to work on for you after so long. My Accupuncturist always says sperm are very sensitive so there’s lots of difference you can make.

I tested yesterday (BFN obv) but I’m not sure when I ovulated as I had CM day 18 I’m not sure how many days PO I am. My temperature is still high…

I guess by Monday I’ll know? As then I’ll definitely be over 10days PO

Small update on my end, we've had DH's results come back. He has a very high sperm count but 1% morphology, everything else normal. I wonder if the high count makes the low morphology a bit less of an issue but we're going to go over that with the GP. I just feel glad we have something we can work on. Still waiting on an appointment for my referral and I've decided if I haven't heard anything by the end of July I'm going to look into some private tests as we'll be on cycle 18 by then with absolutely no investigations on my end (other than the blood tests but nothing has come from them).

@CharLdn I'm hopeful for you! I'll be testing tomorrow at 9dpo, see if I can have a guilt free drink at the weekend!

@MocktailMe fingers crossed it’s period.

In my rollercoaster day I’ve convinced myself I’m preggo because my Accupuncturist did some unusual pins and I’ve been super bloated with trapped wind.

This all could obviously be pre menstrual but hopes are officially briefly up. I’m going to get some early preggo tests now and go and squint at some lines.

@CharLdn ill be crossing my fingers for you if you do test - you never know!

@MocktailMe It totally makes sense that you’d be worried about that. Hopefully it’s truly just AF and a sign of things normalizing for you so you can move onto a fresh start next month.

@PearOpal im resisting the urge to test… but might tomorrow just so I can see if I can have a glass of wine or two tomorrow… I haven’t had any signs so don’t think this month is it..

Checking in @Waitingformiracle and @CharLdn - how’re we doing ladies?

@MocktailMe are you testing again soon? I tested today DPO 11/12 - BFN so guessing I’m out this cycle. Just waiting for AF now and focusing on have a really good BBT chart to look back on.

@Waitingformiracle lolll I’m very eye rolly when people say that but also am 100% hoping I can turn into one of those UNBEARABLY smug people who is that lucky 🍀 Everything crossed!

Thinking of @PearOpal and @MocktailMe I’ve totally started symptom spitting I got a bit of discharge today and inspected it for a bit too long 🫠🫠🫠.

We’ll see if I can resist testing…

@CharLdn “Level 2 of TTC” is such a good way of putting it 🤣🤣 I’m going to borrow that one. That’s great you got your referral though and hopefully you won’t need it but it’s great to have it in the back pocket, and September will be just around the corner! I get a lot of those comments about people conceiving spontaneously while waiting for IVF and it’s like 🙄 but also a part of me is really hoping I get pregnant this cycle while I wait to do a transfer (if we have euploid embryos).

Fingers crossed for BFPs for you this week @MocktailMe @PearOpal

@Waitingformiracle I’ve just got my referral through so should be starting ivf in September and will be joining you on that journey!

I completely get about keeping expectations low to avoid disappointment as you hear such a mix of stories and everyone’s so different.

Especially after you’ve lived the cycles of hope & disappointment of trying naturally for so long.

I’m treating it as level two of TTC - and being conservative with expectations it’s hard when other people say things like ‘how exciting’ I’m finding weird.

Remember to be kind to yourself on this marathon and it’s amazing we’ve all got this far 💪🏻

@MocktailMe I’m not testing till my period is late and I’ve got no symptoms - but my cycles are very regular (26-28 days) so I should find out by Sunday..

I’m trying not to test but I found one cheapy at the bottom of a drawer…

Also loads of people have said they’ve got friends who booked in for IVF and then conceived naturally (which is really annoying me) 🙄

@MocktailMe i completely feel your pain. I also tested today like the silly goose I am. Technically DPO 9/10 but I also traveled to a different time zone so that likely didn’t help me. I usually feel confident that I’m not getting a BFP and accepts an early BFN but this month there’s a part of me that just feels different but with no real symptoms. Idk this is hard. I will probably test again in the next day or two get that BFN and feel like it’s an answer I can accept but for now…I’ll keep chugging along.

@MocktailMe thank you so much for your kind words I really appreciate it!! Do keep us posted on your tests, I’ll have everything crossed for you!! 🤞

Hi @MocktailMe thanks for checking in! I’m currently waiting for our return consultation with our doctor to discuss our PGT results (we tested our embryos after what happened with our first pregnancy). We have two good quality embryos but that doesn’t mean they will be euploid i.e. genetically ok, so we have to wait and see. If one or both of them is healthy then we will go ahead with a transfer at the end of July. I am keeping my hopes very low. Unfortunately ivf isn’t necessarily the “fix” that it can seem like, so I know that it might not necessarily work for us right away. At the moment we are on a natural cycle so we will try ourselves this month but I know that it’s realistically not going to happen. I hope that your vfl progresses over the next few days, fingers crossed 🤞🤞 it’s a very anxious time I know

@CharLdn we're due around the same time. I'm also in a mindset of I'm probably not pregnant, I'm just assuming it won't happen naturally for us now. It does make me feel more relaxed about it. I have the occasional drink here and there, pretty much the same as you, I won't have more than 2 a week unless I'm on my period. Usually less to be honest but I don't think it hurts to have a couple

@MocktailMe oh wow back on the rollercoaster again. Keep us posted on the tests let’s hope for 3rd time lucky 🤞

I’m actually not symptom spotting this month and feel weirdly not bothered I’m just 100% I’m not going to get preggo naturally so happy to just go through the motions while we wait for ivf. Maybe this is the just relax everyone’s been talking about?!

My husbands been weirdly hopeful ans it’s post hycosy and has said we both shouldn’t drink. I’m still doing what I’ve always done which is sticking to a 1-2 drink rule once a week during the TWW which seems reasonable.

Hopefully this time next week I’ll know more as I’m due Thursday-Sat…

Glad there’s a few of us in the same boat!

Oh gosh @MocktailMe, I had such similar feelings the day I saw a positive test so soon after my MC so completely get it. My anxiety was so high.

Fingers crossed this is the start of a line which progresses into a perfect pregnancy for you. I would be running to boots as I found their early detection tests took a lot of guess work out of it for me and the lines were much clearer compared to my cheapies!

CM seems like a strong positive sign though right? One of the few things that generally trends the other direction when you aren’t pregnant. Given what you’ve been through that fear is only natural. Hopefully this will be sticky and healthy BFP and you can lay those fears to rest soon!

@MocktailMe I would totally do the same and test again tomorrow anyway, I don't understand how anyone wouldn't! I really do wish that pregnancy symptoms weren't the same as period symptoms. Your fear is normal, it's your mind trying to protect itself after what you've been through.

@PearOpal I'm still only on 3dpo, I had some cramping yesterday and I usually get my period a week after those cramps. It does feel particularly early though so I'm just hoping my luteal phase hasn't gotten even shorter, I usually only get about 10 days as it is.
Good luck holding off the testing 😅 you can do it I'm sure! It softens the blow slightly when you have something like a wine night to go to. I'm due AF while I'm at a wedding so I can also enjoy the wine when that happens