Page 3 | TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

MocktailMe · 2025-06-05T01:31:25+00:00

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/5093665-ttc-1-no-previous-pregnancies-cycle-6-looking-for-others-in-the-same-boat?page=40&reply=144772936 Hi everyone! I can't quite believe it but after a while year we only went and filled the last thread. I'll tag you all below so that you can find me! If anyone silently reading along wants to keep following - here's the place. If anyone wants to read the fertility journey for the last year have a look through the last thread.

KT199 · 07/06/2026 09:06

Oh my goodness @MocktailMe !!!! I’d got locked out of my account as couldn’t remember by password but can I just say these updates have made my week 😭 I am so pleased for you, you deserve this so much.

How are you doing?

If anyone is up for it we could set up a little WhatsApp chat for us to stay in touch?

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MocktailMe · 04/06/2026 15:03

Thank you so much ladies. I've reported my positive today 🤯 my scan is booked for 7+2 on 23/6 which feels forever away even though it really isn't! Here begins the next two week wait!!

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CharLdn · 04/06/2026 13:01

@MocktailMe 👏 yesss!!!!! Keep us posted how things progress ❤️

How are you feeling? Any twinges?

Waitingformiracle · 04/06/2026 00:27

That is a great sign indeed @MocktailMe ! I am so thrilled for you and another milestone tomorrow with your OTD! 🤍

Tater05 · 03/06/2026 23:20

That's such an exciting milestone @MocktailMe! All the best for tomorrow, I'd be taking this as a good sign xx

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MocktailMe · 03/06/2026 18:40

Hey ladies another mini-milestone here. I was absolutely terrified to take this test but I actually found the not knowing was even worse. These have always been stuck on 1-2 for me, and only ever once slowly reached 2-3 with my ruptured ectopic at 7 weeks (when it should have been easily 3+).

My heart rate was through the roof whilst the test developed and I honestly gasped when I saw 2-3. Today is the night before my OTD (12dpt/17dpo) and I'm going to take this as a good sign. 🙏🏻

TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

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Waitingformiracle · 01/06/2026 09:41

Getting to what would have been your period date is a real milestone 🙌 ❤️

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MocktailMe · 31/05/2026 17:56

Thank you so much 😊 I have been scouring Reddit and it does seem like mine are about what you would hope/expect around this stage. I just can't believe it really.

Officially 4 weeks today 🤯 and only 4 days til OTD.

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Waitingformiracle · 31/05/2026 17:27

@MocktailMe not crazy at all to want to find out the gender asap. I was the same and it really really helped me with the bonding. Also don’t worry about the strips, they took ages to go dark for me! Your first response looks great and the strips are good too. They just don’t go as dark as quickly

CharLdn · 31/05/2026 13:15

Oh that’s positive @MocktailMe ! I’m
an obsessive tester and literally had to limit myself to once a day.

🤞 🤞 🤞

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MocktailMe · 31/05/2026 11:37

Thanks so much @CharLdn 💗💗

I know I'm testing like an absolute maniac right now, but here is 14dpo. I'm a BIT stressed over the strips still seeming quite faint but I'm hoping they will darken up in the next 48 hours.

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CharLdn · 31/05/2026 06:41

@MocktailMe we’re all rooting for you go on little em-baby!!!!

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MocktailMe · 30/05/2026 14:52

Tater05 · 30/05/2026 14:43

Brilliant news! So happy to see this. I don't think it's crazy at all to find out the gender as early as possible, it didn't even slightly feel real to me until we had our gender scan. And honestly do whatever you need to do to feel reassured, whether it's testing or booking scans, it's an anxious time. Please continue to keep us updated!

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Thank you so much!

Honestly in my mind right now I'm just praying to get to these milestones:

Day period would be due (if this wasn't IVF!) which is Monday.
OTD! Thursday!

-.The first IVF scan/EPU scan

The gender blood test
8 weeks and heartbeat

-.12 weeks

Some of these I can almost believe I WILL get to, others still seem like an impossible dream. But I hope it I just take it slowly and steady and celebrate any and all milestones I reach then I'm hoping it will be easier.

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Tater05 · 30/05/2026 14:43

MocktailMe · 28/05/2026 22:09

Thanks for checking in @lavafield

The transfer all went smoothly and I'm currently 6DP5DT (11dpo) testing positive 🥹🥹🥹 I'm praying like anything this baby is coming home with me.

I hope everyone is well!!!

Brilliant news! So happy to see this. I don't think it's crazy at all to find out the gender as early as possible, it didn't even slightly feel real to me until we had our gender scan. And honestly do whatever you need to do to feel reassured, whether it's testing or booking scans, it's an anxious time. Please continue to keep us updated!

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MocktailMe · 30/05/2026 14:11

GorgeousWizard · 30/05/2026 10:27

The title of this thread is 'Looking for Others in the Same Boat... WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES.' I am 33, have been trying for over half a year—with the last 3 months being heavily tracked with tests and apps—and I am navigating a diagnosed fertility condition (adenomyosis), so I am in this boat.
It's interesting you say I'd be better off finding a new thread because 'all the OG ladies are pregnant.' Back when you were still in the trenches, you welcomed a member trying for 6 months by telling them, 'Absolutely you can join us... We've got pregnancies, IVF, natural trying... all sorts.'
It seems the moment you got your own positive test, your empathy vanished and you decided to start gatekeeping. Flexing your pregnancy on someone who just expressed sadness about their period being due is incredibly unkind. I’ll happily find a space with a bit more basic empathy.

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The reply you have quoted is a year old. Back then most of the group were actively trying.

It's not to do with how long you've been trying, simply that I did feel you might prefer a group where more ladies are actively trying.

I did wish you the very best of luck and encouraged you to read the thread which is full of great advice.

It's a shame you haven't done so, as if you had you might have seen that this is my third pregnancy this year - 6th since starting the original thread. No living children. I would never flex a fresh pregnancy on anyone, I'm hardly even INTO the woods myself, never mind out of them. Such a shame to bring such negativity onto what has been such a supportive thread.

I do wish you the very best, we all know the hell (which is why I did suggest a new thread, if these ladies hadn't been talking to me so long I know i would have found all the pregnancy stuff difficult to read).

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Tater05 · 30/05/2026 13:23

Hi @GorgeousWizard , I'm sorry you've taken MocktailMe's reply negatively. It's not that you're not welcome to join, you absolutely are, it's more that you probably won't gain as much from this thread anymore. I found it really helpful keeping in touch with others who are still going through TTC but this thread is more likely to be updates on how pregnancies and the newborn stages are going.
I do wish you all the best and I hope you're not in the TTC trenches too much longer, I haven't forgotten how tough it is. And I hope reading through these posts gives you some hope! X

GorgeousWizard · 30/05/2026 10:27

MocktailMe · 05/06/2025 09:28

Absolutely you can join us. Feel free to have a read through the old thread to catch up. We've got pregnancies, IVF, natural trying...all sorts and lots of advice.

Update for you ladies - HSG done and my remaining tube is showing as clear. I'm cautiously optimistic about this and ready to get back on the TTC train.

The title of this thread is 'Looking for Others in the Same Boat... WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES.' I am 33, have been trying for over half a year—with the last 3 months being heavily tracked with tests and apps—and I am navigating a diagnosed fertility condition (adenomyosis), so I am in this boat.
It's interesting you say I'd be better off finding a new thread because 'all the OG ladies are pregnant.' Back when you were still in the trenches, you welcomed a member trying for 6 months by telling them, 'Absolutely you can join us... We've got pregnancies, IVF, natural trying... all sorts.'
It seems the moment you got your own positive test, your empathy vanished and you decided to start gatekeeping. Flexing your pregnancy on someone who just expressed sadness about their period being due is incredibly unkind. I’ll happily find a space with a bit more basic empathy.

lavafield · 30/05/2026 07:56

What a wonderful update @MocktailMe!! It must be an anxious time but hope you are as relaxed and calm as it can possibly be! Will be thinking about you and that little developing human! ❤️

KTB34 · 29/05/2026 12:01

Hello ladies hope everyone is well!

Congratulations on the the arrival of your baby girl @Waitingformiracle

@MocktailMe this is such good news !!!! Please keep us posted!

@CharLdn good luck in the last few weeks!

CharLdn · 29/05/2026 11:44

@MocktailMe this is so great to see 🤞 everything crossed!!!!!

I was an obsessive tester and then had a 6 week/8 week and 12 week scan.

It took me really until the 20 week scan got my anxiety to calm down.

I’m good now 32 weeks and feeling very round and slow but if I think back to this time last year I just feel so incredibly greatful! We started ante natal classes so it’s all feeling very real.

We’re also on 4 week scans so that’s actually quite reassuring.

Keep us posted @MocktailMe ❤️

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MocktailMe · 29/05/2026 11:33

Thank you so much.

I think the very first thing I want to do is do a 6 week blood test to find out the sex of the baby. That might sound totally crazy but I think it will help me bond with the baby.

I can already see myself spending a fortune on early scans!!! But I do want to have the first one be at either the clinic or EPU for sure and I know that won't be until 7 weeks usually.

I know I will find it near impossible to stop testing. I know I will test daily at least until probably 20 days post transfer!! Then I expect still every few days to check!

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Waitingformiracle · 29/05/2026 09:19

@MocktailMe my best advice is just to take it one day at a time and do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel a bit more reassured and get through the first trimester. For me that meant taking a LOT of pregnancy tests, honestly I took them for weeks. I also did a number of private betas just to ease my worries. And I also booked in a lot of private scans once I got to 6/7 weeks onwards. My husband thought I was being a bit obsessive but honestly I just needed to do that and it did help somewhat. Once I got that first private scan and saw there was a baby in there with a heartbeat it helped a lot. I didn’t stop worrying a single day of my pregnancy being totally honest, but it became more manageable every day and once I started feeling movement etc it was so reassuring. For me I also found limiting time on social media and forums was helpful because I saw a lot of triggering comments about loss which totally sent me spiralling. Pregnancy after loss is SO hard and all of the innocence and joy does get stolen from us, but it can still be wonderful and I did really try to let myself be happy and bond with baby at the same time while guarding my heart

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MocktailMe · 29/05/2026 09:13

Waitingformiracle · 29/05/2026 07:27

@MocktailMe I know it must be so nerve wracking and hard to keep the faith when you’ve been burned so many times. What is your “test date” for your clinic (as if you could wait until then 🤣 I certainly did not).

All is well with her thank you 🩷 exhausted but so happy xx

I'm so pleased to hear!

My OTD is Wednesday so still a few nerve wracking days left! I do think if it goes smoothly to there I might feel better? Then if it goes smoothly to 6 weeks, then the 7 week scan, then the 8 weeks maybe I will calm down?

It's just so so hard 🫣 this is the third time I've been pregnant this year. BUT it is the only time I've been on the blood thinners which really should be giving me a better chance this time.

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MocktailMe · 29/05/2026 09:11

GorgeousWizard · 29/05/2026 07:44

I'm 33 TTC 3 month also, aunt flow due Sat 🥲 feeling the same

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You might be better off finding a new thread at this stage, all the OG ladies on here are pregnant/have children, and I'm currently newly pregnant again following IVF. Have a read through as there's loads of discussion and advice and experience from my journey of 2.5 years and the other ladies too. Very best of luck x

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GorgeousWizard · 29/05/2026 07:44

Thisisouryear2025 · 05/06/2025 09:01

Can I join please? 36 years old, 6 months TTC and no luck… desperate to have our baby (babies) soon! Losing the will to live and feel so alone. Wishing everyone luck and love on this tough old train!! X

I'm 33 TTC 3 month also, aunt flow due Sat 🥲 feeling the same