TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

@lavafield / @KT199 can see how anxiety can take over as it’s a long nine months! I’ve fully convinced myself that I did weights in the morning and ate a Parma ham croissant the day I started spotting which could be related!

@MocktailMe honestly I can’t believe you do it everyday - it’s a lot of effort!

@Tater05 I think now I’m not preggo I need to bank up some marketing stuff I can push out if I’m having off weeks.

Half days are definitely good for afternoon naps!

Good you’re getting more tests - my GP also think I’m a massive Karen but they always give me what I want…

From my end I had my scan yesterday - nothing really showed and I’ve kind of got a light period going on now… So I definitely think it’s a miscarriage. I’ve got hcgs and an nhs scan booked on Tuesday.

I’ve dished out all my preconception supplements again into my pill box which I found weirdly soothing and once I’ve stopped bleeding I think I’ll go back on Mira to track ovulation.

Thank you for all your kind words ❤️

So sorry to hear this @CharLdn, it's cruel that it can end like that after taking so long in the first place. It sounds like you have a very pragmatic mindset which is good, make sure to look after yourself too. From another self employed person, it does get tricky when you need to take some time out for yourself! Sometimes when I'm feeling burned out and can't afford a whole day off I work extra hard in the morning and take the whole afternoon to do whatever I want, that can help.

@KT199 I hope you have a lovely time on your baby moon! A different setting and slower pace might be just what you need.

@MocktailMe you must be exhausted! At least this month you definitely don't have to worry about timing it wrong! I tend to get the EWCM a few days before ovulating, then the day it dries up is usually when I get my LH peak.

Nothing much to update on my end, I think I'm at the start of my fertile window and I'm hoping I ovulate on the normal day this month as I have my day 21 bloods booked for exactly a week after I'm due to ovulate. Had to book it again after my cycle messed it up last time and I think my doctors are starting to get fed up with me 😂

Thank you ladies, you really helped me quieten my pregnancy anxiety a bit. Yes, next week is 24 weeks which is a threshold of viability, so I hope I start worrying a bit less.
@KT199 Hope you enjoy your babymoon and it will help switch off your worries.
Good luck to everyone in their ovulation or TWW windows. I did often have watery discharge rather than EWCM during or just before the ovulation, which is still a very much fertile mucus, yay!
I hope we will soon see more good news here! ✨
@Waitingformiracle Your transfer is not too far out now but good that you gave it your best shot this month too!
A lot of this is so random, as I mentioned in the previous thread I got pregnant DTD just once that month, and a day before positive OPK at that, so did not have high hopes for that month. But of course for maximised chances and peace of mind knowing you did your best, every day or every other day is perfect!

@MocktailMe I get that completely but based on that schedule I'm guessing no matter when you ovulate you'll have your basis covered ;). Rooting for you no matter what schedule you're on! I'll be honest I can't really tell the difference between EWCM and watery, it all seems watery to me but BBT and OPKs tell me I'm ovulating so I haven't dug into it too much. Fingers crossed that this more handsoff approach will make this month your month!

I’m sorry to hear that @CharLdn but you seem to be taking on a good approach to it. There is definitely some positives to takeaway! But if you feel sad and upset that is also fine and allow yourself to feel that too.

Hope everyone else is doing okay! And good luck for the upcoming cycles 🥰 fingers crossed we get some positive tests and normal progression to healthy little babies!!

@lavafield hard relate to the anxiety, I’m 16w6d now and it doesn’t feel like there’s an end in sight for the worry. Scans help for a day or two but then back in the worry pit. We go on our baby moon next week and I really hope I can just switch off and enjoy it. I’m looking forward to some early morning beach yoga. I am getting a bump now which makes things feel a little more real but also then I struggle with the body image side of things so it’s a never ending battle 🤣 my gripe at the moment is I just look like I’m carrying a little more weight than usual it’s not obvious I’m pregnant just yet 🤣

@Figtree11 fingers crossed for you that the next week passes quickly.

Not much on my end - Based on my trackers/BBT I think I ovulated yesterday so heading into the roller coaster that is the TWW shortly. I use an inito monitor and I can say my levels are farrr stronger this cycle but unclear if that really means anyything - I guess I'll find out in time.

@MocktailMe how are you coming?

@PearOpal thank you, I’ve been on different threads in the past & found them so useful. Had a bit of time out but feel like I could do with support of others again, so thanks for having me.

I use the easy at home ovulation sticks, they’ve been pretty good for me with finding ovulation before. We had a bit of a break after the last MC, so guess im just impatient now that we have started TTC again! I’m hoping in the next week or so it will happen

@Waitingformiracle Hey you never know! Its a bit cliche but it does seem like folks get those BFPs when they least expect it - and often right before IVF. Either way super excited that your transfer time is almost here!!

@Figtree11 Welcome!! Sorry to hear about your losses - we've had experiences that run the gambit in this group but mostly just try to check in and be encouraging. I'm not as familiar with the PCOS medications but hopefully they are able to work consistently for you to trigger an earlier ovulation. Do you use any at home testing to get an idea of when your ovulating or do you primarily rely on CM? No matter what though don't get too down on yourself PCOS cycles can be quite long so not ovulating early certainly doesn't mean you're out!

Do you mind if I join you guys? I’m TTC my first, but have had 3 MCs. Second one was a partial molar, and most recent was genetically normal. I was diagnosed with pcos end of last year, and suspected APS syndrome.
This is my first cycle TTC since my last loss at the end of March.

I’m on metformin for the pcos which has helped with ovulation, as the cycle I got pregnant on I ovulated cd18. But the last cycle I just had I ovulated cd27. I’m now on cd17 with no signs of it coming. It’s getting me down a bit as I was hoping the metformin would give me more of a consistent ovulation date each month.

I’m sorry to read that there are others struggling too. I’m 2 years into the TTC journey now and struggle to comprehend sometimes that this has all happened

@CharLdn I'm terribly sorry love and echo everyone else's sentiments here. I can only imagine the different emotions you're feeling. I'm glad that you're counting all the positives and lessons learned about you and your body from this cycle but still saddened to hear that it ended in a chemical. I know both you and lavafield mentioned this but there is something seriously encouraging about knowing you're definitely capable of getting pregnant naturally.

@CharLdn fingers crossed that you’ll get some answers asap! And thanks for sharing your findings, always great to get more info on this crazy process.
As for me I’m doing fine. I’ve had a weird cycle as it’s my first real cycle post egg retrieval. I didn’t ovulate until CD 22 / 23 which is super late for me. I was tracking mainly so I can get a sense of when I will have my transfer (next cycle hopefully!). We did give it a go this cycle just as a last hail mary but I’m not expecting anything to happen. I’m only about 2 DPO so it will be a long wait now until my next cycle starts but that will hopefully be my transfer cycle 🤞

@CharLdn So sorry to hear that you had a chemical. But you are absolutely right, it is a sign you can get pregnant naturally and hopefully the increased fertility will still show up in the months that follow. It is little consolation, I know, but sometimes embryos are just not viable, it is nothing you can or cannot do about it.
I am myself worried sick every single day at 23 weeks. One day I think I froze my baby when I fell asleep with an ice pack under my bump, the next day I can't stop worrying because I got sunburnt including on the bump, next day I desperately try to gauge if the movements are the same or reduced, then the following day I panic that the bump feels much smaller and softer for some reason, then the constant worry of that watermelon or lettuce you were served was properly washed... etc etc. You are right, it is a rollercoaster and trust me it doesn't stop even half way into pregnancy, it gets worse. We are away on holidays but I can't stop being anxious and worried 😟 I guess one tip for when getting pregnant if you are a worrier like me, don't change your routine too much and stay home for all 9 months ! Lol

Thank you @MocktailMe and @Waitingformiracle it’s just another day on the 🎢 bloody rollercoaster we all didn’t choose to be on!

I’ve got a blood test today, private scan today and now NHS scan booked for Tuesday so going to definitely get some answers.

I’m trying to stay neutral and not get into the pit of despair.

To share what I’ve learned

• I’ve learned how my body feels when pregnant
• I can get pregnant!
• Nothing showed on a test till 14 dpo
• My body temperature tells me a lot! Stayed high all pregnancy
• My CM is the biggest sign of ovulation - I didn’t use strips when I got preggo
• I can ovulate late - I think I ovulated day 18
• It’s ok to drink a bit when TTC
• Being self employed is hard - because if I don’t work I don’t get paid :(

On we go!

How are you guys doing?

I am so sorry @CharLdn that is so so cruel after the excitement of finally getting that positive test. Like you said hopefully this is a good sign of things to come and you’ll benefit from some increased fertility now 🤞 mind yourself ❤️‍🩹

Hey team wanted to let you guys know my good luck seems to have taken a turn today as I had some spotting earlier this week and now my tests have gone back to negatives :(

I’m not feeling too sad just frustrated that my short window of not being anxious is over.

I’m seeing it as a positive we can get naturally preggo and hoping we can get going again soon as I’ve heard there can be some increased fertility after a chemical/early loss.

I’m going to confirm everything via bloods and a scan today… but my body just doesn’t feel preggo anymore.

How is everyone else getting on?

@PearOpal yes I consistently ovulate on day 18 or 19, other than a couple of months ago when it was day 25. Because of that cycle I'm now in sync with you both which is nice, I don't usually have anyone at the same point as me!

@Waitingformiracle of course you're fantasising about it, how could you not! You have to carry some hope with you, and today is definitely a day you can just be happy about it!

@Waitingformiracle what amazing news. July will be here before you know it. Fingers crossed for your transfer, this is really exciting and huge milestone. Celebrate every little one you have as every one is that step closer to the successful cycle your waiting for 🤞

@Tater05 and @MocktailMe somehow I think I forgot how close we all are in our cycles! I’m CD6 since you started tracking have y’all noticed any consistency in when you ovulate each month?

Thank you @lavafield !! I am so thrilled. Trying to keep expectations low to avoid disappointment if it doesn’t work but I must admit I’ve been fantasising about it being successful all morning!

@Waitingformiracle Super news about a good embryo! Time will fly in all the exciting anticipation until end of July now! 🙌

Thanks so much @MocktailMe @Tater05 @CharLdn @PearOpal hopefully the beginning of more positive news for us 🤞