TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

@MocktailMe oh great I’ll be glad to be in the TWW with you! Transfer is all done, so I am officially pregnant until proven otherwise (or PUPO as they say 🤣). It went very well, they said the embryo was already starting to expand again and had thawed well. Now the wait begins!

Thank you so much @MocktailMe @KT199!! Our appointment is at noon. Going for acupuncture before and then into the clinic. Feels very surreal, but I feel very calm and I know I have done everything in my power. I will keep you posted!

How are you both?

I second that @Waitingformiracle !! Thinking of you today, got everything crossed for this working for you !

Thank you so much @MocktailMe!! fingers crossed. How many DPO are you now?

Thank you so much for the well wishes @MocktailMe @Tater05 @KT199 I will certainly keep you posted! I am trying to keep busy but also keep chilled lol, I have the week off work which couldn’t be better timing because I’ll hopefully be stress free (at least free from work stress) going into it. I’m going to do a spa day and massage on Wednesday and then I have acupuncture booked for the morning of the transfer which is supposed to help. I’ve a wedding tomorrow too which will be a good distraction although I won’t be drinking of course. My husband and I have agreed on a testing day of 6 days post-transfer (which is like 11DPO) which happens to be our anniversary 🤍🤞I’m hoping it’s a good sign

@CharLdn completely fair to decline the baby shower, any social gathering brings up reminders of TTC groundhog day (love that way of describing it btw, it's so true 😬😅) and sometimes you just have to put yourself first. Sorry your period came, especially with that nasty evap. Look after yourself and do what you need to do, and hopefully your time will come again soon 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Yes @Waitingformiracle ! So pleased to hear that! Everything crossed for your transfer to go as smoothly as possible. I can't imagine the excitement/nerves you must be feeling now, let's hope Thursday rolls around quickly.

And well done @MocktailMe for catching ovulation, it always threw me a bit when it happened at the wrong time!

Hope your doing okay @CharLdn the emotional toll of a loss isn’t discussed widely enough.

@MocktailMe least you’ve got all angles covered even if it is abit earlier than usual.

@Waitingformiracle oh wow. That is absolutely huge. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you. Wishing you the best of luck. Keep us updated if you feel up to it!

@CharLdn I completely understand that, I really struggle with things like baby showers and also just social gatherings in general these days. It’s so hard to see everyone else being where you long to be!

@MocktailMe great that you’ve pinpointed O day! Sounds like you’ve covered your bases. CD13 is still a perfectly acceptable ovulation day so nothing to worry about.

As for me my transfer is confirmed for Thursday! I can’t believe it. Excited and terrified. I will either be the happiest person ever or in the depths of despair following the result. My beta is booked for August 18th but I will 100% be testing at home before that 🤣

@MocktailMe thank you tbh it’s been harder mentally than I expected. I was actually relieved not to be pregnant but then I’ve had to decline a baby shower today - because I just can’t face it.

I know it’s not helpful to compare but seeing others kids grow and pregnancies progress just makes me feel so stuck in fertility ground hog day.

Good you’ve spotted ovulation ❤️ weird how our bodies change so much! Always so much to learn!

@CharLdn I’m sorry 😔 it’s suck a head f**k!! It’s good to know your body is getting back on track, but still very difficult getting your period after a loss. Mind yourself!

@CharLdn I’ve taken your advise and I’ve booked in for a facial on Friday ☺️ a little treat to make myself feel better.
I’m sorry that you had that evap, I could see the line on there. It’s not good that they do that! But I’m glad you weren’t waiting long for AF. And really good that it’s come back so quickly, I’ve waited 10 weeks once before for mine to return

thanks @MocktailMe hope you are doing ok

Spoke far too soon as got period so definitely an Evap - I’m actually happy just to get clarity on where I am and it’s exactly 26 days post miscarriage so that’s good

OK we definitely have an indent line here… not that I’m getting attached to the outcome…

@Waitingformiracle i felt really odd yesterday - sick and tired so cracked and tested and you’ll all be shocked to hear it was negative…

I feel like in this whole journey time just goes SO slowly.

It will be interesting to see regardless how my cycle settles post miscarriage and my doctor said to wait this month to try so if I’m not preggo I’m hopefully going to feel OK.

Do you know when your transfer is yet?

@CharLdn yeah I’m a bit traumatised from my experience of the first response tests although when they work they really do work, if you get me. I’ve got a few of them together with some easy @ home and also some cheap early strip ones that I actually used the time I was pregnant and they were super sensitive. Honestly have about 100 tests now in the post 🤣🤣 but I know that I’ll be obsessively testing early. My embryo is a day 5 embryo so I’m thinking I’ll test 4/5 days post transfer as that will be like 9/10 DPO.

I'm sorry your anxiety is high at the moment, it’s a horrible feeling. This whole process can be so stressful and anxiety inducing so we just have to take care of ourselves. You’re right though trust the process, early testing doesn’t make us any more or less pregnant, our bodies will do what they do. I think waiting until 12 DPO is a solid plan!

@Figtree11 what helps me during AF is doing things I definitely do pregnant like drinking, hot baths, eating sushi/charcuterie cheese etc.

Hanging out with childfree friends.

Plus above all self compassion (much easier said than done) as this journey isn’t easy and the horrors persist but so do we ❤️

@MocktailMe I definitely felt huge relief when we were on the IVF road as it feels like having a plan in place for the bigger picture takes the sting out of the day to day rollercoaster. 🎢

Definitely go with your CM - I think it’s more accurate than LH tests especially if ovulation varies.

I’m waiting till next Monday/Tuesday to test as Thats a solid 12 DPO and I didn’t test positive till 14 DPO last time.

I’ve obviously started symptom spotting and have had vivid dreams last night and feel tired and sick today but honestly my anxiety is high at the moment so I think it’s just that.

@Waitingformiracle re tests

• first response were most sensitive but as we know - they can have strong Evap lines
• Boots - cheap strip tests were actually more sensitive than easy @home
• Easy at home - good value but I was OBSESSIVE about line tracking which didn’t help.

I want to order more first response tests but I spent about 50 quid on tests last month so think I should not.

My new mantra is trust the process and will it affect the outcome?

@CharLdn I totally get it. The one time I got pregnant I started testing 7 DPO and I thought maybe I saw something but then I was like nah and chucked it away and by 8DPO I was pretty convinced I could see something which then was a definite line by 9DPO. You are so close 🤞 I also have absolutely no chill when it comes to testing and I’ve already ordered a bunch of various brands of tests off Amazon in preparation for my FET 🤣🤣

@MocktailMe I think it’s always good to try whenever you see the EWCM, for me I definitely notice it a few days before actual ovulation. I completely understand that feeling of relief of at least having your ivf appointment booked, it feels like a step in the right direction and I hope you don’t need to and up availing of it but at least if you do then things are moving!