TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

Hi ladies

Oh my gosh this app drives me crazy sometimes, I just typed out such a long reply and I lost it. So here is take #2.

@MocktailMe So glad to hear you have a plan and timeline in place and that you’ll still get your transfer in pre-Christmas like you hoped for! If you have any questions about the IVF or if I can help at all I am always here ❤️ I know we’d obviously rather not have to go down this route but I did find it quite exciting when we had a plan in motion so I hope you are feeling some of that too.

@CharLdn fingers crossed for you this cycle! Your symptoms sound promising. Will you test or wait for your period to (hopefully not) arrive? Your holiday sounds so dreamy and just what the doctor ordered, and so glad to read that you are in such a good headspace about it all. I think not obsessing about every little thing we do and eat is the best way to be, I know I got to that place mentally eventually too and it was so liberating.

@KTB34 I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been in so much pain! And thanks for the honest review of the newborn trenches 😅 good for us all to know the realities! I hope things ease up for you soon and hope baby is doing really well!

@lavafield So exciting that your delivery date is just around the corner, whether the little guy comes himself or you have a section. Inductions don’t sound fun so I totally get why you wouldn’t want one. Will be so excited to hear when he’s arrived! Best of luck 💙

@MocktailMe glad you’ve got a firm timeline in place after so much waiting!

🤞 for this cycle but onwards with the plan if not.

I’m keeping my fingers crossed and trying not to read too much into things…

@MocktailMe do you know if you’re starting this cycle yet?

@PearOpal how are you getting on

I’m cycle day 23 trying not to symptom spot but I’ve been exhausted for the past few days…

@MocktailMe the physical side of recovery has not been fun, I’m hoping it will all heal soon ! How are you getting on?

@lavafield if anyone tells you labour is not painful they are lying to you! I will be honest 😂 my biggest advice for surviving the first couple of weeks have no expectations about sleep and always make sure to eat and drink (especially if you’re planning on breastfeeding).

@KTB34 thanks for your detailed and honest review of the first weeks with a newborn! 😆
I am waiting for the hospital to give me the date of my elective C-section at 39 weeks (in two weeks' time, yay!) as my consultants advised that I should deliver at 39 weeks. I rejected induction due to a high risk of escalation to instrumental delivery and then an emergency section, in my age group in particular. If the little man is born before that naturally, great, if not, I have a smooth pathway to a planned section. The baby is on the 90th percentile too, so think that would be safer for all.

@MocktailMe sounds like you have a plan and your IVF treatment is around the corner!!

@CharLdn That's the best approach, trying to live your life to the fullest and see what happens in coming months. As I often said, we conceived when least expected in a cycle with the least attempts and lots of travel! 😂

@MocktailMe yes I’ve been out and about, I’ve had to have 2 rounds of antibiotics. I had an infection x2 from my episiotomy. So I’m now under a midwife who specialises in perineal trauma (who knew that was a thing)

In a nutshell my weeks have been breastfeeding, sleep deprivation and a lot of washing 😂 it’s definitely been life changing…I don’t think you can ever prepare for it x

Hi ladies nice to her from you.

I am ok over here, had a couple of complications post birth so physical recovery has been hard! Little man is 5 weeks old now and is very much ruling the manor lol

How are we doing ladies? Anyone in TWW or sex week?

I’m CD 19 - my temp is still not risen so trying to have sex every other day still in case I’ve not ovulated yet. My poor husband is entirely over it.

We’ve managed to do day 8/14/15/17 and we’re going to try either today or tomorrow.

Mentally post holiday I’m feeling much better and very much less attached to the outcome than I have been previously.

I’m kind of viewing the next few cycles as getting us through to Xmas - try and have as much fun as possible and plan some things to enjoy between now and then.

I’ve also stopped obsessing over food/alcohol and am trying to just take my vitamins and shag enough to hopefully give us a chance.

I think TTC needs to become much less of a mental focus for me - so trying to focus on work/life more!

@MocktailMe glad things are moving forward ❤️ If you want any ivf podcast tips I have found BFN very helpful.

I’m popping up - still on holiday two weeks away has been divine and the gym retreat I’m on has been all about reconnecting with ourselves and trusting our bodies which is great.

Also lots of girlie time and belly laughs which have been good for the soul. I’m cycle day 14 when I get back - not sure if I’ve ovulated yet and I’m not sure I care (!)

@MocktailMe I’m hoping to get longer than a 2 hour stretch at some point 😂

Great news about your appointment, it sounds so positive!! Things are finally moving forward for you

Evening ladies ❤️

I hope everyone is well! Missed so much on here.

I am still in the thick of newborn trenches, it is hard! Grateful every day, but cry at least once a day from the sleep deprivation and hormones 😂

Thank you @MocktailMe@Tater05 I definitely agree a text is always better than face to face. It allows you to feel however you feel about it and you don’t have to pretend to be happy. But yes I know all my friends understand what I’ve been though and will be happy for me even if a little sad for themselves. I was expressing my concern to another friend who knows and she said “you’ve definitely done your time” and she’s right. It’s not like an accidental pregnancy which I totally agree with @MocktailMeis soo hard to hear when you’ve been trying for so long and have had losses.

@KT199that is great advice thank you and I’ll definitely keep that in mind and push for that extra scan and I have never heard of the low Papp-A!

We've already told very close family and my friend who had a month by month commentary on our TTC, so I couldn't really hide it from her 😅 We're going to start widening the circle now, it still feels strange to do as even seeing the scan yesterday I still can't quite believe it. I'm not sure when it will sink in to be honest!

@Waitingformiracle I totally get why you feel hesitant about it. I only told people at the beginning who I wouldn’t mind sharing a loss with and would want their support.
For me personally, I was the happiest for my friend who got pregnant through IVF as it gave me hope, and she’d been through so much I was just genuinely overjoyed for her. But without knowing your friends’ circumstances I of course can’t comment if they might feel the same way or not. I definitely think telling them through a message would be easier for them, and though it might be difficult for some of them you have also been on a tough journey to get here now. Like @MocktailMe said, it is very different than hearing about people who slipped and fell pregnant, whether it should be or not the circumstances definitely make a difference.

Thanks @KT199! The queasiness has really worn off over the last week, I'm still super tired but not having to nap every day like before! How are you getting along? Are you in the third trimester now?

So glad all was well @Waitingformiracle !! Hopefully the NIPT results don’t take too long. I know it’ll be a few weeks off but my recommendation would still be to have the nuchal NHS screening done at the 12wk scan as private NIPT don’t check for low Papp-A but the NHS nuchal screening does. If you did have low Papp-A they would then monitor you, baby and placenta - it’s quite common and doesn’t mean anything would go wrong but personally I’d rather know and be monitored.

Don’t worry too much about bump size - I would say people only noticed I was pregnant from 22 weeks ish but it’s defo body/build dependent!!

@Tater05 congrats on getting to the second trimester!! I hope you are starting to feel abit better in yourself now, from 16wks I started to feel much better in terms of tiredness, sickness ect.

@MocktailMe sounds confusing about the lines and completely get the worry.. reckon drs would do a blood test for you as a precaution given your history? Exciting re: the appointment! Not long to go.

That is exciting @MocktailMe hopefully you will have a better idea of timelines after that appointment!!

I am not too sure when we will tell other people yet. I am a bit hesitant this time because of our late loss and I hated that so many people knew. But at the same time it was great to have the support. So many of my friends know now already so it would be more when to tell colleagues and friends outside my close circle, cousins etc. I also have a few friends struggling with infertility or baby loss and I am trying to figure out the most gentle way and when to tell them too.

Congrats on entering the second trimester @Tater05 that’s great! And yes both due in April I am due April 25th ☺️

@Waitingformiracle thank you! I think we'll book a private scan to find out the gender, hopefully in a few weeks. I thought I was 12+5 but the scan dated me at 13+1, so in the second trimester already! It's going crazy quickly. Are we both due in April? I'm April 1st now

So glad everything looked well for you too @Tater05 and fingers crossed for good results!! Are you finding out the gender? How many weeks are you now?