Page 12 | TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

MocktailMe · 2025-06-05T01:31:25+00:00

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/5093665-ttc-1-no-previous-pregnancies-cycle-6-looking-for-others-in-the-same-boat?page=40&reply=144772936 Hi everyone! I can't quite believe it but after a while year we only went and filled the last thread. I'll tag you all below so that you can find me! If anyone silently reading along wants to keep following - here's the place. If anyone wants to read the fertility journey for the last year have a look through the last thread.

CharLdn · 19/10/2025 13:19

@PearOpal it’s so weird how every cycle is so different! Hopefully in a few days things will settle - distractions in the TWW are good, I was actually thinking of planning some stuff now for mine as this cycle I’ve been mentally struggling the past few days.

I got my proper period today which was honestly a relief to know. The pre testing - period late HELL was awful. I normally get my period day 25/6/7 and I only got it on day 30 this time so unfortunately hopes were high.

However, although I was OBSESSIVELY testing my temperature - honestly it tells me if my periods coming.

I’d love to be able to not track my temperature next cycle but I’m not sure if I’ve got the mental strength.

@MocktailMe good luck in the TWW - hopefully just a count down to ivf now 🤞

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MocktailMe · 19/10/2025 13:05

PearOpal · 19/10/2025 12:49

@CharLdn Thanks for asking, I’m alright. CD15 and Just entering yet another TWW as I think I likely ovulated yesterday or the night before and I’m horribly uncomfortable. Not sure if it’s gas, anxiety, bloating, abdominal dicomfort or what but I’ve never had so much misery during my fertile period. I doubt it means anything but definitely a marked difference from other cycles. We’ve got a holiday scheduled for when I’d be due for AF so I’m trying to focus on counting down to that and not testing lol

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That is exactly how I feel during ovulation! I swear, I always feel so bloated and lousy, and usually people talk about feeling good boosted energy etc! I always have at least half a day of bloated discomfort and feel really hormonal! I choose to believe it's a good thing as at least it means my hormones are doing something!!

Nice to hear you have a holiday lined up, that gives something to look forward to, and should keep you busy planning over the horrible 2WW!

I'm in mine too but only around 6dpo or so so too early for anything.

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PearOpal · 19/10/2025 12:49

@CharLdn Thanks for asking, I’m alright. CD15 and Just entering yet another TWW as I think I likely ovulated yesterday or the night before and I’m horribly uncomfortable. Not sure if it’s gas, anxiety, bloating, abdominal dicomfort or what but I’ve never had so much misery during my fertile period. I doubt it means anything but definitely a marked difference from other cycles. We’ve got a holiday scheduled for when I’d be due for AF so I’m trying to focus on counting down to that and not testing lol

CharLdn · 18/10/2025 19:34

@PearOpal thank you!!! I’ll keep you guys posted!

How are you getting on?

PearOpal · 18/10/2025 18:46

Super hopeful for you @CharLdn we can be in the hope zone for you no matter what you have to do to maintain your sanity. Fingers crossed time continues to move quickly for you.

CharLdn · 18/10/2025 18:40

@MocktailMe thank you! Appreciate it honestly this week is killing me.

So the past few days my temps have been 36.5 - so normally pre ovulation my temps 36.3 and after 36.6+

Ive been taking my temps at 5am 36.5 then by 6/7am they’re 36.6+ then today it was 36.3 so I thought ok my periods coming.

I’ve also been checking my cervix for discharge which up until today is clear, then today I had a tiny bit of bright red blood when I wiped at about 2pm and then nothing in my knickers so proper period isn’t here yet.

I’m driving myself mad with overthinking. There’s like a delulu part of me thinking implantation bleeding?! But also I’m VERY aware that the hope zone is the danger zone.

Either way I’m hoping overnight I either get my period or a high temperature…

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MocktailMe · 16/10/2025 16:39

Oh char it actually isn't fair is it. I know the crying and raging and hiding doesn't change it, but honestly sometimes it seems to help.

It IS okay not to be okay, and sometimes I think it's okay to take a day to indulge the anger and pain. You don't always have to rush to make yourself better and think positively. We do plenty of that!

Obviously I do hope this dip doesn't mean you're totally out for the cycle, but if it does, I'm here if you need to talk through any of the feelings.

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CharLdn · 16/10/2025 13:48

@MocktailMe my temps slightly dipped today so I could be out…

I had a big it’s not fair cry this morning and am working from home today. I’m just over it tbh. I am greatful aside from today I’ve not been too stressed so I’m trying to be gentle with myself. It’s ok not to be ok etc.

CharLdn · 16/10/2025 13:46

@KT199 thank you ❤️

Its been a weird week - I actually shared a story and a lot of people I know shared they’d also had losses.

It’s given me comfort that so many people I know have had losses but also depressing to think every pregnancy carries so much risk.

I lit a candle last night coincidentally but I’ll dedicate it to you all ❤️

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MocktailMe · 15/10/2025 19:39

We have our candle lit too.

I have to say I do agree somewhat we have had posters up at work, and I know they are only there because someone in HR has decided it's a good idea rather than anything more than that...

But equally I've had the support of you ladies and my partner and IRL loved ones - not everyone is so lucky. If it helps one person find resources I suppose it's worth it. Definitely something I'm conflicted on.

I remember my babies every single day, thank you for remembering mine today too, as I will yours 🩷

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Waitingformiracle · 15/10/2025 19:09

Thank you @KT199we’ve just lit our candle for the wave of light to remember our first baby girl 🩷 thinking of you all too and remembering all of your babies. It’s a tough week for sure, and I wish none of us needed the awareness to be raised but I agree I think it’s great that it is talked about more as it’s a very lonely place to be.

KT199 · 15/10/2025 18:31

Hey ladies, just wanted to pop on the thread and say I’m thinking of you all that have experienced loss today. ❤️

I can’t speak for you all, but personally I’ve found this week really triggering. I think awareness is great, but having suffered loss I feel it is more just a stark reminder of what should / could have been. Anyway, sending lots of love.. and will be thinking of all the little angels tonight when the wave of light is happening.

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MocktailMe · 15/10/2025 18:09

I'm amazed how much variation there is month to month there?

No judgement here anyway, If I temped I know I'd be making similar graphs!! This is how it gets us!!

Only a few more days til you'll know if you're out.

My appointment is in a week's time - by then both you and I will know if we are pregnant from this cycle 😅😅

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CharLdn · 15/10/2025 17:33

@MocktailMe ive gone from chilled to not so chilled today lol.

my temps still up CD26 - so I’m in the danger zone of hope which has turned me obsessive again.

I did a comparative graph of 4 months of temperatures today before I started work using excel…

Patience is officially dwindling! I’m hoping crochet and celebrity traitors can get me through.

TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

Waitingformiracle · 15/10/2025 10:09

Thanks @lavafieldwe had a good 12 week scan with low NT, nasal bone identified and measuring a few days ahead so I’m hoping that these are all good signs 🙏

lavafield · 15/10/2025 10:07

@Waitingformiracle Hope your 12 week scan will further reassure you! We still went for the NT NHS scan at 13 weeks even after getting great results on NIPT, and to be honest at each subsequent scan (I have growth scans every two weeks) they still check that nasal bone to be reassured..

lavafield · 15/10/2025 10:02

Love your prioritising your emotional, mental and physical wellbeing in the gruelling TTC process ladies!!
@MocktailMe Your IVF process is around the corner! A long protocol sounds more demanding but you've got this! I personally know more people who conceived via IVF than spontaneously in recent years, quite a few from the very first try! So many people go through this, and isn't it great this option is available?!

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MocktailMe · 14/10/2025 20:14

Exactly @Waitingformiracle I remember it being such an agonising time for you and only getting the one...and it turned out to be the very one you needed!! Honestly, if we get one baby from this I'm not sure we will ever do it again as it's cost us so much (not just money obviously), but the door doesn't have to be closed. No matter the outcome. We are so very blessed to live in a time when IVF exists.

@CharLdn you are so right - the last two years have been an excersise in patience! I can wait another month to start, I've already waited 24 😅😅

Temping is a good plan, it certainly seems less crazy inducing then repeated tests and symptom spotting!! It was bang on last time too. I really hope your time will come soon. I do think your plan to eat well and look after yourself is a good one no matter what.

I have to say after two years of TTC/pregnancy/recovery my self-care has never been so good. It's a shame it's taken this hell for me to get here, but these days I unashamedly look after myself like a dedicated project! Sleep, rest, exercise, food, work, social obligations - I've got really good at balancing things to prioritise my well-being and not burnout and get too stressed. I think this will only benefit me through IVF, pregnancy and God-willing, the early years with a child. If eating well, getting your steps in, resting and drinking water makes me feel good without dealing with those things, I can only imagine it could really make a difference when they are added to the mix and things get harder!

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CharLdn · 14/10/2025 19:15

@MocktailMe remember this isn’t your first rodeo with waiting so hopefully you’ve been somewhat trained mentally!

I’m not testing and feeling relatively chilled and not depressed! Which is a new experience for me.

I’m just going to keep taking my temperature as that seems to tell me the most - I only ovulated on day 17 so I think my period could be a bit later anyway. My latest focus has been trying to eat to support progesterone so I’ve been resting more and eating lots of veggies - which I think regardless of the outcome is a good idea.

Mentally this cycles been much less stressful which has been nice even if I’m not preggo.

Waitingformiracle · 14/10/2025 19:02

Thank you @MocktailMe it’s certainly been a marathon but proud of myself for surviving it! I suppose that was one thing I wasn’t prepared for was if doing a fully medicated transfer cycle and getting a positive test that you stay on the drugs for so long.

I think you definitely have the right attitude about your expectations and I completely understand the fear of each stage not working. I was so surprised when I learned that we only ended up with one embryo but sometimes it only takes one! But I know my dream would have been to have a few that we could freeze and have our little family from one retrieval but I know we can go back and do it again. It’s so so great to have the reassurance of all of those cycles as back ups so you can feel really reassured ❤️

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MocktailMe · 14/10/2025 18:00

Honestly 12 weeks you are literally amazing. Seriously amazing!!!

Thanks for the warming the area tip! I'm thinking I will do them first thing in the morning to get it over with - and can use a hot water bottle first!

Yeah honestly I'm trying so hard not to get too attached to this idea of a positive test for new year. Obviously it would be a dream come true. But not only might there be a delay, it also might not work first time. There's so many steps before that! I'm terrified I'll end up one of the people who have no eggs retrieved! Or no embryos make it to day 5. Or something! So many worries, but knowing I've got four full cycles (and as many FETs as we can - depending if we get more than one embryo per cycle!) is my main reassurance. I'm already starting out on the max doses of medication too, so we aren't going in easy or gentle to start.

Obviously the ultimate dream is 3 day 5 embryos first fresh transfer works and I can have siblings later....that's the big dream but Im trying not to get too hung up 😅😅😅

@CharLdn how is it going, is it still too early to test....?

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Waitingformiracle · 14/10/2025 10:06

@MocktailMe I did a short protocol so I’m not too familiar with the longer one but I know a friend in work is doing the long protocol. I have however been doing injections for the last 12 weeks and only stopping this week so I understand how gruelling it can be. I certainly found some days so hard to build up the will to take the shot but in general I will say you do just get used to it and get on with it! It becomes a part of your morning / evening routine. I got my husband to do mine if he was there which made it a bit easier. I found warming up the area first helped a lot and if I did that I usually didn’t feel a thing! That package sounds really great, hopefully you won’t need it all but good to have the option! I felt the same way about IVF once I started I was like why didn’t I do this sooner. I think you’re right to keep your expectations about timing managed because there can always be obstacles and unexpected delays but fingers crossed you’ll get your transfer around Christmas ❤️

Work wise I found I was generally fine during the stims, although everyone reacts differently of course. I took a few days off for my egg retrieval and I actually took a week off for my transfer so I could just chill and not be stressed!

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MocktailMe · 13/10/2025 22:29

Yay the 12 week mark! That's absolutely amazing and I'm so thrilled for you.

Can I ask did you do long or short protocol? You may have said but I can't remember now. I'm feeling really apprehensive about 5 weeks of injections but sure once I'm in the swing of things it will be okay.

We are doing a package with 4 cycles included and unlimited frozen transfers so we really are throwing the kitchen sink at this. Daunting to think if it takes a while I could be doing FOUR cycles of 5 weeks of injections!!!! But overall I'm starting to think I was mad not to have jumped to this a year ago and potentially saved myself the hell of the losses.

Obviously I'm so hopeful that I will take on the first fresh transfer this Christmas but trying to really manage my expectations - we are prepared for it to take longer hence why we paid for this package. Will be a waste of money if it works first time but it will be the best money I ever wasted 😅

Generally quite nervous about managing work etc but it will be what it will be - if I need to take a bit of time off because I feel rough, so be it. It's hard to know what to expect.

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Waitingformiracle · 13/10/2025 20:34

Keep us posted!! 🤞

I’m doing good! Definitely starting to feel a bit better. I’m 12 weeks so hoping things will improve even more over the next few weeks. We’ve had a small scare with our harmony test but it’s looking like all is probably fine, but it’s been quite stressful. Just trying to stay positive and hope for the best!

CharLdn · 13/10/2025 20:15

@Waitingformiracle thank you! I’m generally feeling way less obsessive :) I’ll only test if my temps still up on the weekend.

How are you doing?