TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

@MocktailMe two weeks so soon!

@KTB34 I’m OK just had sex week 🎉 I’ve decided to focus my energy on work for now as well and am trying to focus less on TTC for a while mentally - while still shagging at the correct times of the month etc.

I run my own business so am trying to set it up for success for next year pre ivf if it happens in March. I’m quite excited to have that as a tangible focus.

Good morning everyone how are we all?

@lavafield congrats on baby boy 💙how are you getting on?

@Waitingformiracle @KT199 @Tater05 how are you all doing ?

@MocktailMe how is IVF going for you?

@CharLdn how are you?

@MocktailMe for sure one week at a time. I’m comforted at the moment we have plan A and a plan B - and a timeline.

So if I’m not pregnant again by Feb it’s ivf in March ish - which gives us 9 months of natural trying.

My plan is if I’m not pregnant at Christmas to prioritise fun and hanging out with child free friends. I do feel very lucky to have a mix of single friends and a few people who don’t want kids which is great.

my immediate family is ok it’s just one day with my cousins which could be hard. I’m currently trying to motivate us for sex week number 500!

@MocktailMe its happening! So glad you can get started.

@KT199 I’ve had an OK week still getting waves of grief/hopelessness and for some reason I’ve convinced myself I’m going through the motions with all of this and I have no hope it will ever happen.

I think because I’ve learned hope is such a dangerous place when it comes crashing down. My current strategy is to kind of disassociate emotionally from the process as much as possible and not think about it too much.

I’m not tracking anything this month but maybe body temp to confirm ovulation. I’m day 10 and we’ll probably try and have sex every other day from days 12-20 - I normally ovulate days 16-18.

It’s my 5th cycle post miscarriage and my Accupuncturist said she normally sees people get pregnant within 6 cycles unless somethings wrong.. I’m trying not to read into this too much and just get through to survive Christmas extended family gatherings which I’m dreading.

Definitely taking things a week at a time!

Congratulations @lavafield! What lovely news! Glad he's arrived safely and I hope your recovery is going ok ✨

@MocktailMe wow IVF this cycle! The injections sound gruelling but we're all here cheering you on, and hopefully it will all be worth it soon! Bet you can't wait for AF to get out the way now so you can start taking control.

@Waitingformiracle I found 14 weeks so strange, I didn't quite feel pregnant and I was on holiday just looking really bloated 😅 it's a very in-between time. The response from your family and friends is so heartwarming to read 🥹 that must've been emotional.

@kt199 can't believe you're already 33 weeks, it really flies by! I hope your last few weeks working aren't too uncomfortable (you're definitely allowed to feel uncomfortable and tired while still being grateful)

@Waitingformiracle no you definitely aren’t and I still had a little anxiety too so I had a reassurance scan between 12 - 20 weeks (we found out gender then too). I started to feel first signs of movement quite early in all honesty I was about 17 weeks when I got the bubbles sensation, but it is normal for it to be much much later also! Especially if placenta is anterior. The movement is sooo reassuring but also anxiety inducing if you don’t feel them for a while but you get used to their pattern as time goes on.

How heart warming that you’ve had such a lovely and positive response. I’m so glad people are really celebrating your pregnancy with you.

Things are going okay for me, I’m 33 weeks now so it is quite crazy to think in 4 short weeks I’m “full term” and baby could arrive at any point, but most likely it will be 40+ weeks. I have reached the point now where things are becoming difficult in terms of sleep and day to day tasks but I hate to complain as I feel so lucky and privileged to be in this position. I signed up to work until 38wks regrettably so 5 weeks now until mat leave and definitely on the countdown for that!

Thank you @KT199 and I’m glad to hear I’m not alone in the “am I even pregnant” feeling because that’s where I am at this week 😅 I really can’t wait to start to feel her as I’m sure it will bring so much reassurance. We have started spreading the news and everyone’s reaction has been so heart warming. So many friends family members and even colleagues have actually shed tears when we told them. They all know what happened to us with our last baby and then I’m sure were wondering what was happening when nothing happened immediately so they have all just been so thrilled which is special ❤️

how are you getting on?

Awwwww congratulations @lavafield that is wonderful news that he arrived safe and sound. Hope your recovery is becoming easier as the days go on. Enjoy your newborn bubble.

@MocktailMe Whilst there still may be a little disappointment that AF arrived, it is so exciting the fresh new hope that comes with starting your IVF protocol. I am sure the mental journey with the injections may be hard as your hormones will be going wild, but if you need any support jump on here and we can all help and cheer you on. I am so hopeful for you on this new part of your journey. I haven’t been through it personally, but a friend has and they said icing the injection site prior made things a lot more comfortable for them, so may be worth a go!

Good luck @PearOpal sounds very promising.

@Waitingformiracle 14 wks is a lovely milestone. Have you got round to spreading the news? The next few weeks will fly by and you’ll feel great - even questioning at times am I really pregnant?? Then you will land at the point of feeling movement and the 20 WK scan and things suddenly start to sink in and feel real.

@CharLdn Hope your doing okay ☺️

@MocktailMe thank you ☺️ it is definitely flying by.

I know it’s wild isn’t it, suddenly you’re just like why was I so scared of taking this step for so long? The 3 injections daily for that long will certainly be a challenge and I won’t lie there were days where it really challenged me mentally but I just kept thinking of having a baby in my arms any time I was struggling and then I felt like I could push through! I actually never did thighs I was told to just do the stomach, but just do whatever works best for you! I definitely tried to alternate sides every day and pick different areas I hadn’t touched yet to try and reduce bruising and pain.

Hi ladies

@lavafield oh my gosh the BIGGEST congratulations. So happy to hear that your little boy arrived safe and sound 💙💙 I hope you are recovering well and that he is doing great. So exciting that we now have two births in the group ☺️

@MocktailMethings are good thanks for asking! I am a little over 14 weeks now so officially in the second trimester which is crazy to me. I’m in that strange phase where the first trimester symptoms are gone but it’s too early for a real bump or to feel any movement so I just sort of feel normal. Except I have contracted a desperate cold so just trying to put the feet up today! Have just seen your message that your period has started and IVF starts this cycle, I’m so glad that you are officially getting started and I hope you will have all the success that you deserve 🙏 it feels so great to be taking control of the situation or at least I found that I felt that way.

@PearOpalglad to read that you are feeling good this cycle, I hope that those sky high hormones are a good sign 🙏🙏

@CharLdn how are you getting on?

@lavafield amazing and congratulations ❤️ now onto the next challenge of motherhood!

@PearOpal glad you’re feeling more chilled gotta enjoy the less stressed periods while it lasts!

@lavafield CONGRATULATIONS!!! I’m so happy for you. Wishing you the absolute best and a smooth recovery.

@CharLdn and @MocktailMe how are we getting on?

I’ve felt chiller then normal this cycle…which may not be saying much but slightly less obsessive is something. Just felt different this go in a positive way. I’m either 9 or 10DPO at the moment and testing negative but my hormone monitor has my PDG and estrogen skyrocketing so I’m hopefully maybe that means something…trying not to get my hopes up too high though.

Hi lovely ladies, our sweet son arrived earlier this week via a planned c-section, which itself went smoothly and safe. The little boy js healthy and happy and we are absolutely delighted! Although the first few days have been very challenging with my recovery (days 2 ans 3 post op are truly horrendous but then it all suddenly gets better) and all the first-time parents' questions and anxieties around baby feeding and sleeping.

@MocktailMe your IVF journey is just around the corner now! Yes it is very expensive but hope it will all be worth it in the end!! Positive vibes!

Everyone in TWW - fingers crossed for this cycle being the lucky one!

@MocktailMe what a thought of preventing pregnancy!

pre TTC we were only having sex a few times a month anyway so I honestly can’t wait to get back to doing it occasionally when we fancy it.

I’m having a better week post weekend thank god 🙏 although our consultant said we should have sex a few times a week throughout the cycle I think we’re giving ourselves a good week off - considering I only ovulate day 16-18 normally I think that’s fine.

@MocktailMe if this is your norm then bless you because I’m definitely more in the energetic side usually but this month had be absolutely knackered. So excited for you to move forward in this next phase of your journey!

@CharLdn I’m sorry to hear that AF came but I’m glad to hear they that on to the next go. I totally agree on the temping. It’s hard to give up such a comparatively low cost and easily used option that definitely tells you what you need to know even though sometimes I’d rather it be slightly less accurate at times.

@MocktailMe that must be an amazing feeling!

We’re 4 cycles post miscarriage with about 5 pre IVF so a few more TWW to go!