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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Yet ANOTHER bleeding period!

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billysitch · 21/05/2008 18:41

Well we have been trying for over a year now and two mc's later and we still have nothing to show for our efforts.

Starting to think the boat has sailed and our gorgeous boy 3 will be an only child after all.

Anyone else feeling sorry for themselves? Nope, just me then.

It is unlike me to be honest, I am a very optimistic bubbly person, but kind of blue right now.

Friends popping all over the place with gorgeous babes and feeling envious.

So annoyed, dont do jealousy or envy usually and hate self pity but right now it has got the better of me and have had enough.

Gorgeous doting hubby, fantastic little boy, great life and never even wanted kids until
I met my hubby 11 years ago.

Woe is me! Someone slap me and tell me to get a grip.

Sorry needed a moan.

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lostittoday · 21/05/2008 19:23

I concieved my ds within 2 cycles last time and I knew nothing about trying at the right time, ovulation, etc never gave any of it a thought.
I just started doing the deed regularly.
It feels so differnt this time and I find all the literature out there on trying to concieve over 35 very depressing.
They even say its difficult for young people making me think what chance do I have.

I do have thyroid problems so I realise that may have an impact on my fertility.

I am now under the care of a gyno I have only seen them once though and I am in the process of having blood hormone tests.
They want to check all of my levels to determine if I need their help to get pregnant or not.
I also dread ending up with unexplained fertility.

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billysitch · 21/05/2008 19:21

21, a lovely age, I remember it well, at more sober moments!

Good luck and keep thinking calm thoughts, I am a buddist and meditate regularly, it usually keeps me even, until now.

But blimey you have time on your side, so dont worry, although you obviously will, like us all you are only human.

During my career (early retirement from HMF) I was given 12 years of depo, so think my fertility took a severe bashing which I doubt is helping.

Do not want to go down the route of being poked and prodded, kind of want nature to do its thing, but wish it would get a bleeding move on!

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nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 19:15

oh billysitch, your sounding more and more like me! im overwieght too, and i put my mc down to the stress of being made redundant

so sorry to hear of you loosing your nephew my parents both died suddenly but i dont know how that would compare to a little one

ive told a few friends but not many, luckily no one asks if im trying cos im only 21, but its all i can think of x

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billysitch · 21/05/2008 19:11

Hi BB, sorry to hear about your mc too.

I kind of put my first mc down to bearvement due to losing our nephew suddenly who was 2, but the second came as a bit of a shock and now just feel like it must be caus I am overweight, or because I had a glass of wine, or because I cant sleep or somesuch rubbish.

Gets hard when people (esp family) say 'oh not having any more then?) what do I say, well actually..... but kind of dont want the pity or questions about have you tried this or that..

Gets harder each month now.

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nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 19:10

gawd your just like me, wen i fell pg last year i hadnt discovered this place and it all seemed so easy

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billysitch · 21/05/2008 19:07

Hi lost, thanks. I am 37 too, hey ho. Just gets a bit much some times, kind of want to stop trying so that dont feel so crap every month it doesnt work.

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nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 19:07

can i join too? i have no DC's yet... feeling very sorry for my self too i had a mc last year too x

lostittoday · 21/05/2008 19:05

So sorry billysitch it stinks I know.
I myself have been ttc for 9 months and its now starting to feel like crap.

I am 37 so feel time is running out.
I already have 1 ds of 7 and I am worried to death he will end up an only, and I beat myself up daily for not trying sooner.

It must be particularly hard for you because of the mc's.
I know what you mean about friends having babies it really hurts doesn,t it.
Hang on in there there is always somebody on here in the same situation to talk to.
Fingers crossed it will happen for you soon.