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Yet ANOTHER bleeding period!

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billysitch · 21/05/2008 18:41

Well we have been trying for over a year now and two mc's later and we still have nothing to show for our efforts.

Starting to think the boat has sailed and our gorgeous boy 3 will be an only child after all.

Anyone else feeling sorry for themselves? Nope, just me then.

It is unlike me to be honest, I am a very optimistic bubbly person, but kind of blue right now.

Friends popping all over the place with gorgeous babes and feeling envious.

So annoyed, dont do jealousy or envy usually and hate self pity but right now it has got the better of me and have had enough.

Gorgeous doting hubby, fantastic little boy, great life and never even wanted kids until
I met my hubby 11 years ago.

Woe is me! Someone slap me and tell me to get a grip.

Sorry needed a moan.

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nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 23/05/2008 18:00

hey all

i really dont know what to do with myself... i tested today BFN but no AF!! im driving myself mad x

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billysitch · 23/05/2008 12:43

Hi Cathers
Gosh very similar to me, I had PND too, and only really felt the time was right to try a year or so ago.
After a telling off yesterday with some friends i have made a doctors appointment for a gyne referal, so the next step I suppose is investigation, but to be honest I am not sure I want to be poked and prodded, had a very traumatic birth with DS1, now 3, and had reconstruct surgery afterwards then lots of physio, am wondering if maybe it is not to be this time.
I know also what you mean about being thankful for what we have. My son is great and a little charmer, i feel for him a sibling would be a benefit also, he is a bit lost sometimes and the dog cant always fill in, although she does a good job of playing with him, I think she thinks he is hers most of the time!
Dh and I have discussed adoption before and now seem to be talking about it more and more as the months go on, but my next step is the gp for a referal and then we'll see.

I wonder why your gp wont do anything, have you asked for a referral, only I understand (from friends yesterday) that gp's cant really help with fertility drugs etc they have to refer, have to say I didnt know this until then either, and now worried a referal will take yet another month or two...

Hey ho, feeling a little more positive to be honest but husband is worried that my depression is returning as I am a bit glum.

But chin up girls, lets be positive and plan our next moves, whether it be gp, gyne, opk's or whatever...

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cathers · 23/05/2008 12:13

Hi Billystich,
Just thought i'd let you know your not alone and have moan too! Also got one DS whos 3. Had PND after birth, and DH and I finally decided to ttc last year. Thought it would be easy- DS concieved in cycle 2, however 9 months down the line, and one m/c later, we are no closer.
Have been using OPK for last 9 months and know when I ovulate, but still no luck. Starting to worry something's wrong but know that GP won't do anything till August. Suddenly find myself now approaching dates / hols that I thought i'd been preg at when invited to last year, and attending loads of birthday parties with DS to see his friends and car seats full of their siblings. It makes me so

stuarts · 23/05/2008 11:38

Hi

I'm in the same boat.

Am 39, been trying for number one and just been told by gynae it isn't going to happen, IVF is only hope.

Lost my DP is a bit like yours - if it happens it happens. To be honest I think that's the way to be and am trying to be like that.

At the end of the day, if it doesn't happen I can either chose to let it ruin the rest of my life or I can be very grateful for the good things I've got and still have a great life (just in a different way to what I thought). I'm choosing the latter!

I desparately, desparately want children but at the end of the day there's people in FAR worse situations that not having children

Good luck to everyone

MsG · 22/05/2008 20:07

Hi everyone, just wanted to join in... Got my AF today. Been trying for ages now...had a m/c last June. Had a few months of not trying, which I really regret now, because we moved to a different part of the country, but been trying for 4 or 5 months now. I took it really badly last month cos my cycle was 34 days, which is so unusual for me - used to be 29 but is now 31 since my m/c - another thing about the m/c which upsets me cos it means there's less time for me to get pregnant in - or more time inbetween being able to...

I'm 35 and a half and really want to get pregnant asap.

Sick of it....

nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 20:12

thats the point im at now... feeling nauseus on and off, boobs tender, which i NEVER have with AF so hopeful, but with every cramp im scared aF is on her way and scared deep down that im getting myself at it!

lostittoday · 21/05/2008 20:10

Yes every month I tell myself that the feelings of nausea, cramps, etc are just af on its way but secretly I am hoping it could also mean pregnany.
Of course I come back down with a bump when af does show itself.

nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 20:05

i know what you mean about DP's they dont understand do they, i am of the attitude of i want it and i want it now!! he's like well it will happen... infuriating beasts they are, im like you i dont wanna tell many people and i dont wanna bore or cant moan to the ones i do tell!! i find myself imagining everything, its like being pg would complete the puzzle!

lostittoday · 21/05/2008 19:59

When I first started ttc I was really excited and started looking at prams, baby clothes, now here I am 9 months later nearing 38 and nothing.

lostittoday · 21/05/2008 19:57

BB
Same here I am constantly thinking about it.

The only people I can share my feelings with is everyone on here.
I have not told anyone in my family I am ttc.
My dh is very laid back about it and its never on his mind at all, its a case of if it happens it happens,, if it doesn't it doesn,t with him.
He doesn't seem to understand my feelings, or desperation, which I find quite irritating.
I am in it on my own so I am very grateful to have people on here to talk to.

nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 19:50

its just so stressful isnt it, of late ive found myself thinking rather maliciously that all of the people who say i got pg by accident are either magicians or liars!

lostittoday · 21/05/2008 19:48

opk stands for ovulation predictor kit.
Basically they are supposed to detect the LH surge you get before you ovulate so you can do the business at the right time.
I am also a novice still getting my head around understanding all of the blood tests they do on you.
BB thats the reason why I have not done any of the temping, opk's as yet, I don,t want to make it any more stressful than it is.

My af also varies, currently on cd 23, with signs that af may be on its way.
However my af as been all over the place so I have no idea when it will decide to show itself.

nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 19:44

lost i know what you mean, i sometimes feel myself becoming a bore as its all i think about, and worry ive jinxed myself by being on here, and having already looked at buggies etc

lostittoday · 21/05/2008 19:41

I currently have one ds who is 7.
I feel quite depressed about it at times.
I can't go out anymore without studying other children and their siblings, watching them play together, it makes me feel sick to think of my ds ending up an only.

nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 19:39

i did try temping but that upset me more, it all felt too clinical! its not helping that atm im convincing self im pg, as CD 31 and NO af, but my afs vary!! i worry so much tho you know? like is my weight an issue...am i too stressed (stressful job) etc

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billysitch · 21/05/2008 19:39

what is opk's?

I am feeling like a novice at this now.

I have looked at some other threads, and they mention clomid, but not sure what this is either and if it envolves 'procedures' before it is prescribed.

Also I find my doctor unapproacable and have been unwilling to go for a 'chat'

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billysitch · 21/05/2008 19:36

Sorry beanie, missed your post, welcome.

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lostittoday · 21/05/2008 19:36

Hi
beaniesteve

I feel for you I have read a few of your posts.
I started this ttc business with just doing the deed regularly like last time.
However if I don,t fall pregnant shortly I will probably turn to opk's in desperation.

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billysitch · 21/05/2008 19:36

BB, I met a woman in my antenatal with DS1 and she had unexplained infertility at a very young age and then found at 35 she was 6 months pregnant and overjoyed. She had her first son a month before my son and now has another! So there is hope for us all I am sure, but sometimes, just sometimes it all seems a bit of a hill to climb.

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nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 19:33

it is!! beanie you know what i find off , you cant get help round here till you can prove you've been trying a year!!

lost it, how many DCs do you have? i would like 3 but if theres gonna be trouble like this it seems unlikely!!

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billysitch · 21/05/2008 19:32

Depo was an injection every 3 months, it basically stops or rather stopped everything for me, ovulation the whole sherbang, but then at 17 - 30 I had my whole career and didnt want any children.

When I met my husband, we had to wait for the periods to return, that took 3 years, then fertility took a further 6 months and we were trying for 6 months and fell pregnant, and have to be honest like you LOST,I didnt do any of the planning, not even sex that regularly during the right time, just kind of left it to chance and it happened 6 months later.

But now, it has become a whole issue, well for me anyway, DH is very supportive and loves all the extra attention but bless him, I can see he is lost every month too. It doesnt help that my periods are between 4-6 weeks apart so after 5 weeks he is asking if I have tested but I usually have PMT at this time and KNOW it would be negative but just dont want to dissapoint him.

He had to convince me to try for another baby after we lost James last year (nephew) and now it is all I want.

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lostittoday · 21/05/2008 19:30

nobodyputsBBinthecorner

I wish I was 21 again.
I would love to turn the clock back and have more children.
Of course I realise that even though you have loads of time on your side, it must still be distressing to go month after month without it happening.

beaniesteve · 21/05/2008 19:26

Count me in. I've been trying 7 months and can't bear the thought of going a whole year

am old, and trying for my first.
Like BB I never even thought it would be like this when I first joined this place for advice. I thought it would be easy but feel like I am trying everything and still not getting anywhere.

lostittoday · 21/05/2008 19:25

Sorry that should say infertility

nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 19:24

i know what you mean! people seem shocked when i say im only 21, but i just feel so much older, i was orphaned at 17 so feel ive grown up fast, (mum died when i was ten, dad at 17), been with DP for 5 years.

sorry im a bit novice is depo the injection or implant? im on a conception thread where the ladies are lovely but with like you said friends havign babies and ladies on there getting bfps, you cant help feeling sorry for yourself can you??

did you have any trouble with concieving DS?