calling old duffers or old up the duffers

Fingers firmly crossed for you Marinda, when are you going to test?

Cd12 for me so we're having a fun time at the moment . Using OPKs this month but no surge yet, expecting it around cd16.

DH has his swimmers test booked for 10 days time. How on earth we're going to get 'it' to the hospital lab 40 mins drive away within the stated hour I don't know!! Tempted to book a hotel room nearby.......

BL xx

Sounds promising, Marinda...fingers crossed for you.

Fingers crossed Marinda. I am only 3 days PO so not Af not due till end of next week, so just starting the long wait. It is very reassuring though to see so many others of similar age to me ahving probs with TTC No.2, I always assumed foolishly if you had one you'd be OK.

Lots of luck Marinda and Sliminside.

Will be testing in 2 days so lets keep all our fingers etc crossed

Good luck Marinda!

Marinda and Sliminside - just wanted to send lots of luck to you both - hope things happen soon - it's so exciting isn't it?!!!!!

Marinda, here's hoping! Know exactly how you feel, but I think you probably have much more willpower than me, I seem to have a compulsion to test on day 28 if not before. When dd was conceived I tested + day 25, and still went on to do 5 more!! Drives my poor dh mad! Good luck, will be in same position 8 days time!

ggod luck marinda- sometimes teh more scared you are teh more sick you can feel - its a real viciuos circle isn't it! REally hope you get the whopping great BFP you deserve

Thank you all for your advice and kind words we have decided to go for it and we started last night so wish us luck and i`ll keep you all posted, this is a great site i didnt realise there was so many people around my age trying for a new baby good luck to you all x x

gosh! us old duffers can talk!

catch up later

Have a good day everyone!

Hi

Love the age positivity - well said

Portree - thanks for the info - acords with a lot of stuff Ive got but v interesting.

peoples stories are very inspiring but what does strike me is that losing a baby at any time is hard but its very hard when time is short to have another one.

Or even 60! So long as you've still got your health--who cares what biological age you are. Even though I'm a journalist and therefore part of the evil media, I've never held with the view that only young skinny people are interesting or attractive.

well said aloha!

I don't even mind the idea of being 50!

I was also more stressed by 30 than 40, because by 40 I had a lovely husband, a nice home, a beautiful stepdaughter and a gorgeous son - and I was on holiday in France, my stepdaughter had made me cards and decorated the house, and my husband and stepdaughter took me for a surprise picnic in the country with champagne and cake. I'm very pleased to be having another baby, but life would have been good with my family as it was, too. I don't feel old and I don't think people think of me as old either.

When I get caught up in thinking about being over 40 I try to imagine about how attractive 40 will seem when I'm 50!

Thanks Decaf, am trying to be positive but have felt for a long time that 40 is a brick wall. I'm sure I'll get over it...

well said decaf!

I'm now 43 and a quarter and I don't think turning 40 was a particularly big deal. I was much more stressed about hitting 30. At 40 I felt much happier, less stressed and far more settled (albeit still living on the breadline). At 30 I was full of angst and certainly way too immature to start a family. I think I enjoy sex more in my 40s too cos I am less hung up about my body. So enjoy your 40th birthdays and celebrate how full of youth and vigour you still are!

Teatime hadn't realised what was going on - so sorry - ain't life a bitch sometimes. you hang on in there.
my 'goalposts' keep changing - first I was going to have 2 kids by 40 (but the mc put paid to that)then to be pg by Xmas, now I want to be pg before teh big 4-0 - which gives me 3 months....... might be possible but for a DH who is away every other week for that time!
fingers crossed that there's a BFP for someone this weekend!

Thanks for keeping in touch Teatime - you take great care of yourself (((hugs))).

Sliminside (great name BTW), my broodiness kicked in big time when I turned 39. I think it has something to do with the rapid approach of big four-oh and the realisation that the clock is definitely ticking. I turn four-oh (in total denial, as you can see) in 2 weeks and we've been ttc for 7 months. Decided long ago that it's not too late and that biggish age gaps don't matter at all (ds is 9 and dd 5). What does your dh/dp think?

I feel so amazed at all the lovely messages of support - thanks everyone for thinking of me. It's lovely to feel among friends and those who understand EXACTLY what it's like to want a baby when the rest of the world has written you off. Even my mum asked 'Are you sure you want to keep trying?" I suppose she was just worried about me but it doesn't help.

Our biggest reason is also for ds not to be an only child (I'm one of a big family and always thought I'd have at least 4!) - especially as we're both older - I want to think of him having a close relative to confide in and share with when we're gone. That assumes they get on of course . However I teach a lot of young Chinese students who are all only children and I must say they don't seem any the worse for it!! We recently read an article in class on only children called 'Singular Successes' (Independent on Sunday magazine a couple of weeks ago) which thoroughly advocates the idea and I suppose I'm coming round to it as a possibility if necessary. There are a lot of positives to being an 'only' but probably not so much if your parents feel sorry for you!!

M/c still not started - just taking a day at a time.