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calling old duffers or old up the duffers

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marinda · 15/01/2005 21:05

By popular request (2 votes actually!) this is a thread for old duffers like me who are over the hill and TTC and for anyone who is old and up the duff ! I didn't suggest these terms so please don't get offended if you don't see yourself as a duffer but would like moral support , chat etc...
I am 38 years younh, have ds - 3.8 and have been TTC for 7 months ---aaaarggg!!!

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marinda · 31/01/2005 18:02

Romilly I cheated with the babydust - I knicked it from another thread - but YES it does take a while to make. Good luck TTC this month. So sorry about the MC - seems to be so much of this. Teatime do you have any plans now ? So shocked how many people have had to leave August thread - surely above "average".
Slininside cheer up - it WILL happen for you - id did for me and I never thought it would. How long have you been TTC ?

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romilly · 31/01/2005 13:33

hi old duffers - i'm so excited for you marinda! have you got your latest edition of emma and her pregnant friends yet? - btw, you were not being thick asking what an erpc is (i'm so used to acronyms flying around on MN that i used it) but basically it is similar surgery to a d&c except they call it an evacuation of retained products of conception. yes, horrible, grim and disgusting name and i'm sorry i even mentioned it now and had to enlighten you. i had an m/c at 10 weeks a month ago so that is why i am probably the only person on this thread totally delighted to get AF this month. it means i can properly start ttc'ing again.

TeaTime · 31/01/2005 02:26

Lovely news Marinda and just the tonic I needed after reading the Missed Miscarriage thread and finding out that a few more that were due on August have had to join it. Nothing beats the pure joy of finding out you're pg - esp when you're older! for me, even though it didn't work out this time I feel happy that something got started - proving we're not QUITE past it! How did you do that Babydust thing? Must have taken you ages!!!

Sliminside · 30/01/2005 22:28

This sounds bad but my husbands neices are having babies while im trying to conceive my second one and i am so depressed about it all oh how i wish it was me, one had a boy 2 weeks ago and i cant even go and visit it would be so hard luckely my hubby works alot of overtime and thats my excuse as she lives really far from us another is expecting in august and oh how i wish it was me

DecafArabica · 30/01/2005 11:58

I have a friend who had NO symptoms whatsoever and bleeding every month so she didn't discover she was pg until she was 20 wks pregnantand she'd been drinking nearly every night and smoking up to 10 fags a day! She was mortifiedbut had perfectly healthy baby. The only reason she suspected she was pregnant was that she noticed her jeans were getting loose around the back but tighter at the front, and she had mysteriously lost her thirst for lager (not for wine though).

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marinda · 29/01/2005 22:26

Thanks michaelangel- hope you will be joining me on a "due in....." thread soon. Aloha - glad to know not the only one without nausea ! I did have a lot of it with my first one though!

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aloha · 29/01/2005 13:29

I never had sickness or nausea with either pregnancy. It's not compulsory you know

Michaelangelo · 29/01/2005 13:27

Marinda - with my DS I had hardly any symptoms in first few weeks, then got sore boobs and weeing a lot but never had nausea (v lucky I know).

AF due for me on Weds next week so hoping some of your baby dust is working its way to me!!

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marinda · 29/01/2005 11:56

Hi Bonyn - gosh hope I don't get that diary AGAIN
Please help - anyone who is up the duffer ! feel soooooo nervous about being pg- cancelled this electronic facial i have twice a month as worries abut effects of it on the unborn. Also don't seem to have much nausea only itchy enlarged boobs. Think I am only 5 weeks but am terrirfies with worry already. Did anyone else who has posted here have few symptoms in the early weeks ? Thanks for you help.

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bonym · 28/01/2005 22:27

Just caught up with the thread - many congrats marinda! . Umm yes, Emma's diary is terrible (they still gave it to me even tho' it's not my first time).

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marinda · 28/01/2005 20:18

What is ERPC Romilly ? Sorry for sounding thick !!!

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romilly · 28/01/2005 15:37

thank u marinda - i need the dust (just got first AF after ERPC today - YAYYYYY)

time for the norman thread...

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marinda · 27/01/2005 23:37

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Mumfun · 27/01/2005 20:53

Hi

Good advice Marinda. Unfortunately AF today - not a surprise due to illness over fertile time plus being up most nights it seems this month with sick DS or sick DH disturbing me - not much chance.

But will try again early Feb and hope better rested and health by then.

Babydust to all!

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marinda · 27/01/2005 17:32

Yes I think I must have been 4 day pg when I posted this thread - how wierd is that !!!! Honestly HOW I managed it this month as opposed to the last 6 is really a mystery other than I BD alot MORE to the extent I was chasing DH aroung the house ! I had it in my crawl to BD at least 20 times in the month, only managed about 12 - but this was ALOT MORE than "normal". It's probably worth trying this if you feel you can - it worked for me- BUT I did cover fertil period as well - before I could have missed it !!!!!

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romilly · 27/01/2005 16:15

right that's it!- i'm gonna start one - and probably look like norma no-mates cause everyone ttc'ing is already on threads

DecafArabica · 27/01/2005 16:02

Yes, I started one called 'broody at 43: am I bonkers?' and as it turned out, I was probably about 18 hours pregnant when I posted it!

romilly · 27/01/2005 15:04

marinda and decaf - i am seriously wondering whether there is something about starting up ttc threads that makes you conceive?! didn't you both get up-the-duff soon after introducing your threads? Weird.

Joolstoo · 27/01/2005 11:09

marinder - 38 is an old duffer?

DecafArabica · 27/01/2005 10:59

Marinda, I'm so pleased for you and look forward to chatting with you on our September thread. At my first visit to Dr's (4 weeks pg) the test was negative even though had tested BFP at home. Next visit, BFP. Saw GP last week and I got the dreaded Emma's diary this time around and inside was a handy feedback form, so I whiled away a happy half an hour criticising it. Also got given the NHS pregnancy handbook which is pretty good. Then went to the library for 'Your pregnancy month by month' as I'd lent out all my previous pregnancy books to pg friends.

romilly · 27/01/2005 10:37

hey marinda and fellow duffers - i am sorry i have got you all excited for no reason here! i tend to bang out my replies in a bit too much haste - WHAT I MEANT was that yes i got given the crappy little "Emma's diary" thing and was so monumentally unimpressed that i binned it and went out and got the newly up-the-duff women's bible - "What to expect when expecting" cause frankly i didnt have the foggiest! I bought that book and the Mumsnet pink book on pregnancy (plse. note the plug MN) which were both brilliant.

I can see all these confused gp's faces as a horde of you guys all go "No! i want the book!!"

BellaLasagne · 27/01/2005 09:16

Many, many congrats Marinda, I'm soooo pleased for you

Do please keep us posted and send us some of your babydust!

BL xx

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marinda · 26/01/2005 23:05

Mind you I bet you don't get a book 2nd time around as it is assumed you know what to expect - debateable. Sorry girls, it's late - I know my conversation is a bit crappy.

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marinda · 26/01/2005 23:03

Thanks munfun and michaelangelo Gosh all excited about the expecting book- may have to go to DR's just to confess and get THAT book. It must be 2004 onwards - I had the Emma's one in 2001. So out of date. Anyone else had experience of any of these books ?

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Michaelangelo · 26/01/2005 22:44

Congratulations Marinda, hope for all us old duffers

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