calling old duffers or old up the duffers

Hi all, I'm 37 and ttc no 2. Had no real problems conceiving dd (almost 2), though it did take about 6 months. I'm told that's normal but I remember it felt like ages! Have had a miscarriage in December at about 6 weeks which has been quite upsetting. Have waited a cycle, as was advised, and we are now trying again. Feeling a bit more optimistic, new year, new start, etc.

I don't feel like an old duffer, but I do know my energy levels are not what they were say 10 years ago! Regularly feel shattered after dd goes to bed, am making big efforts to cut down on wine in the evening and do loads of exercise (have been swimming 3 times this week and done 2 Rosemary Conley workouts at home, xmas pressie from DH to replace my 80's videos)!

Nice to know there are others out there in similar situations, bye for now.

Hi all, not pg just dithering about it. Will be 40 in March. One of my main considerations is the Bell's Palsy I had with ds. Anyone else have this? Not sure that it's related to age but still nervous about a second time around.

I've certainly heard that the concentration of sperm can be too low with too frequent sex when ttc. Congratulations on your pg. I read of your exploits on another thread - straightaway is an understatement! It's very true how attitudes to maternal age and pregnancy have changed. Until recently the term 'elderly primagravida' would be scrawled across the notes of anyone over 35 with a first pregnancy. I'm taking my swollen ankles off to bed now, very pleased to be a junior member of the newly formed old duffers club.

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Geriatric? 38? You're a mere whippersnapper, Bubble! Good luck with the birth. At the hospital where I had DS, you weren't considered an older mum until you hit 40. I haven't been for any appts yet so don't know how they'll deal with me--I'm sure they've seen mums lots older than me so I probably won't be a celebrity patient.
I'm 43, expecting no. 2 in September, and conceived straightaway. I don't know if this is relevant, but we hadn't actually had sex for 3 months beforehand. So maybe there's something to be said for the rumour that you shouldn't have sex too often when you're TTC?

I'm a geriatric up-the-duffer. I'm 38 and have two DS's 7 and 4 years. This was going to be number 3 and took 11 months to conceive. We are now expecting twins! No family history just aging ovulation- not firing one month and double firing the next. I'm nearly 35 weeks and due anytime soon

I conceived my second child the first time with no contraception at the age of 40. I've personally never 'tried' for a baby in the way some people talk of 'trying' - I think stopping using contraception is 'trying'.

Took about 5 months I think, but then miscarried last June when I was 12 weeks. Had 1 period and then was pregnant again (we were a bit in shock - but Dh says just call him "Super-sperm"!!!) Don't really know what advice to offer except keep practising - try to keep to a healthy diet, cut down on the alcohol etc, all the normal things. Have to say I think we were just very, very lucky cos I didn't really do any of these!!!!

Hi Marinda

I don't consider myself an old duffer but I am 42 and expecting no2 in early April. DS is 4. I'm sure that when the baby comes I will be feeling about 102!!!!! Hope you get lucky soon - how long did it take with no1? (if you don't mind me asking?)