Just relax and you’ll get pregnant

rather than putting quack stuff like cough medicine into your body - look at the book called "Fertilty Diet". Far more constructive and helpful. I had a long journey incl all kinds of medical intervention, but dropping all the "tips" cut out a lot of stress.

I know it’s hard to hear but I do think it comes from a good heart!
I don’t know why I don’t listen to my own past experiences and chill out abit TTC #3.
DC1 I wasn’t trying at all, although was unprotected for around 2 year it just happened and tested BFP 2-3wks.
DC2 trying for 2 years, not tracking properly as I didn’t really understand it all that much if I’m honest but I just gave up as it got to upsetting AF every month. Few months later I booked us for private fertility treatment and that month I tested as 9 days late and was BFP 3+

Both of mine have been completely unexpected x

Because there is some truth to it.. as annoying as it is. There’s a reason why people say it.

Stop the religious testing and tracking. Cut out the alcohol if you drink (both of you), lower the caffeine consumption, sleep better, exercise more. You’d be surprised at how much your mental load / stress affects fertility.

everyone I know that was actively TTC struggled for over a year and up to four years to conceive.

friend 1 fell pregnant after 4 years and caving to go down the IVF route
friend 2 fell pregnant the day before their first IVF consultation. They suffered 3x losses over 2.5 years.
friend 3 fell pregnant after they stoped TTC due to sister in laws wedding

I fell pregnant when I wasn’t actively trying but wanted to start a family within the next year. It happened almost right away which I wasn’t expecting at all.

another friend fell pregnant as she stopped birth control and just let nature take its course.

loosen the reigns a bit. You’d be surprised! Good luck.

@hovebaby99its totally true but how on earth do you relax when trying to TTC?! I have absolutely no idea!
I would however keep busy - make plans, find a hobby, book a holiday, plan some diy etc etc whatever gets you there!

No ideas on the relaxing but have you tried clear blue digital opks?

I like to believe people mean well when they say it. But when you're trying a while, relaxing is pretty difficult. I had a miscarriage after 18 months TTC that turned out to be a partial molar. My doctor's secretary told me to go on hols, relax, get really drunk, and come home pregnant.. because the work related stress my husband was going through might have caused it. Yeah, stress is known to cause molar pregnancies, right?!😂

It's really hard to not stress but for me taking a break from the 'trying' and just focusing on reconnecting did help my head. I found BBT and OPKs so overwhelming at times, so giving that a rest for a couple of months and just trying to not have things so regimented and planned felt good. I don't know if it'll get you pregnant for sure but if you're feeling the need go relax and switch off a bit then it might be no harm. I hope you get your BFP really soon!!🤞🏼

I think it’s a really rude and insensitive thing to say, as thought it’s your own fault for not being pregnant as you’re too uptight.

Obviously by the law of averages some people will get pregnant the month they stop thinking about it but it’s anecdata. FWIW I got pregnant the month I went crazy with supplements and smiley faced ovulation trackers.

Or do what my practice nurse told me to do when I asked about having tests to investigate infertility…..get drunk and have wild sex. I honestly couldn’t believe my ears when she said that. Yes, because getting drunk will suddenly make my pcos go away and fix up the endometriosis I didn’t know I had.

From someone who was ttc for many unsuccessful years, I’d say focus more on your health and well-being. Get fit, enjoy nights out, book holidays as a couple. But as soon as you hit one year of trying, get to the gp and get investigated. Then it will be a more serious affair, with scans, medication, calendars etc. All the fun of ttc will evaporate. In the end I conceived two dc, one following ovarian drilling and one following icsi. Not a drop of alcohol was drunk! All the best OP xx

If you have a baby, both your lives will be easier, the fitter you are, so I'd concentrate on getting your fitness up. Take up running or rowing, or cycling.

It certainly won't do any harm and perhaps you will relax that way.

To be fair when I did get pregnant I wasn’t even thinking about it and I’ve read countless similar stories from others.

Stressing over every minor detail seems to be the worst thing you can do.

People do tend to say this a lot. It’s frustrating but comes from a good place.

It’s hard not to focus on ttc, but honestly…..the month I decided I didn’t give a hoot (and I really meant it), I didn’t track ovulation, I had a few drinks, I liberated myself from the constant thoughts, I didn’t count down every day of the two week wait…was the month I conceived!! That was cycle 13 of trying.

My advice, don’t give up. Instead of thinking about all the months you haven’t got pregnant, think about all the months to come that you might get pregnant. Try and reframe your thoughts. You’ve had tests, all seems fine, just keep trying, but be chilled with it too, 8 months isn’t a huge amount of time to be trying. Good luck.