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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Is 43 too late ...

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LAU81 · 05/04/2025 15:34

After meeting a slightly younger man 4 years ago and him expressing he would like a child with me , we have both decided that we shall leave things in the hands of nature ... Currently 43 . I'm just wondering if anyone else has fallen pregnant naturally in their 40s ?
I don't have any children but I have been pregnant in my 30s but chose to not continue the pregnancy as my relationship wasn't right.

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ElizaMulvil · 05/04/2025 17:19

Had dd month before 43rd birthday. Conceived 2nd cycle.
Aunt had her last dd at 42 too.(1st at 39 2nd at 40).
Cousin ds at 45 (IVF).

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LAU81 · 05/04/2025 17:08

Ah thank you everyone 😊 We are both really fit and healthy ( gym , running , outdoors people , good eating ) and don't smoke . We enjoy the odd glass of alcohol on a weekend but nothing ridiculous.
Seems there may still be a chance then :)

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Wazzalass · 05/04/2025 17:03

I'm currently 41 and nearly 32 weeks pregnant I'm to be induced at 38🙂

Fletchasketch · 05/04/2025 17:00

41 year old here, no children but 2 miscarriages in the past 6 months. I’m now with a miscarriage clinic who have recommended high dose coq10 600mg, Omega 3, Vitamin D3 and folic acid. I’ve no idea how effective this ‘recipe’ is but if it reduces the chances of miscarriage I’ll give it a go.
I had all the blood tests last year, which may well be worth a go to know what your chances are. An online company called hertility will do this if you’re interested.

Good luck.

Skyisbluetoday · 05/04/2025 15:51

Sure it can happen. I was 41 with my first and 44 with my second. My friend had her first at 30 and then could not conceive any more (PCOS) and stopped trying in her late 30s.. She found out just before her 50th birthday that she was four months pregnant. Healthy pregnancy, completely natural (though obviously unplanned) However, many, many women find it is not easy, or that whilst getting pregnant is easy, they miscarry. If you can just be relaxed about it, really understand your cycle and when you can get pregnant you might be lucky.

Grimbeorn · 05/04/2025 15:47

Argh that sounded very cold-hearted! I meant it to be positive! I do know women in real life who have conceived in their early forties.
PS if you want properly accurate stats do some more serious googling than I did 😆

Grimbeorn · 05/04/2025 15:44

Quick Google of VERY rough stats suggests that your chance of conceiving on any given cycle is 5%, and your chance of miscarriage is around 50%, so effectively you have a 2.5% chance of a successful pregnancy per cycle.

A younger woman comparatively is something like 25% and 20%, so effectively 20% chance of successful pregnancy on any given cycle.

So in summary, chance is much much lower but definitely still there! You can maximise chances by you and DP being healthy weight, exercising and eating well, and not drinking to excess. Some studies show the woman shouldn't drink at all for maximum chances.

Flidina · 05/04/2025 15:37

I had my youngest son aged 40 and my youngest daughter at 43, both conceived naturally.