Vasectomy reversal success??

I am counting the days until 7th June, but feeling a bit nervous too. My neighbours just found out she's having a boy after 3 girls and I am so tempted to give her all my boy stuff, seems almost mean not to on the basis that I am not actually pregnant but i just don't want to

I think it's worth asking if they will unblock tubes on the NHS, bloody hell when I think of somebody who lives near us, had IVF on the NHS, smoked and drank all through the pregnancy as a result ended up with premmie twins who have no end of problems and now her and the boyfriend get carers allowence, it's a joke.

I wonder what you have to do to get IVF on the NHS, because they already had one child without it.

Hmmm might be my next bit of research.

How you going on anyway KatieDD? Looking forward to the 7th JUne?

fertility friend just adjusted my ovulation day from day15 to day 17 grrrrr even longer to wait and obsess now!

Have been doing some research and am now pretty sure we wont be able to conceive without assistance

Seeing the gyne consultant on Tuesday next week though so hopefully they will refer DH to a urologist and see what they can do about his "ishooos"! I wonder if they will "unblock" his tubes on the NHS (i.e do a repeat reversal!!!??? - I can only hope as a redo reversal with the private clinic we went to is close to 4 grand

ah if it was 1995 it was like you say probably before the rules changed.

It was in 1995 apparently so maybe things have changed, she said no terrible/exceptional circumstances and

I have only ever heard of revesals being performed on the NHS in really awful circumstances like the death of a child

Am really upset now, I've just heard that somebody on another forum got a reversal on the NHS, we've been told no chance, how unfair is that

He has the first consultation on the 7th June, so should be 4 weeks from then fingers crossed.

Any news on your ovulation dates ?

fantastic KatieDD - so glad he's starting to come round a bit! I sthe reversal booked for july did you say?

Hello Pink and Terrier,
I'm feeling a bit more positive now, I've worked out my cycle has just moved to 30 days so am worrying less about that.

We were talking names just messing around last night and he seems to be almost interested now after months of "i'm not promising anything"

Am desperate to get started, It feels as if it might really happen now

I have a persona but with my irregular cycles i gave up after 4 months! CD17 for me - there are some signs I may have ovulated on day 15 but my temp hasn'e risen by much yet so not entirely sure!!

Get to it girl! I bet he has some swimmers!!

Morning KatieDD and terrier141 - how are you both doing today? I just purchased my saw palmetto (as reccomended on the sperm analysis thread!!) really hope it makes a difference. Did you get your sperm test done yet terrier?

KatieDD thats terrible, I know GP's deal with lots of other shit but God, its such a life changing op, people are under massive mental strain often when these decisions are made and its like I have had a member of my family taken away (i know that sounds slightly dramatic but thats how I feel) my DS has been and may now always be denied knowing what its like to have a sibling.

I do not know anybody who was offered counselling tbh the GP's seem very keen to organise vasectomy's and very quickly my child was 6 weeks old, DH made the first appointment whilst on paternity leave so she would have been a few days old at most and he was all done 6 weeks later. I was hormonal, had just given birth, he said I didn't complain loudly enough at the time but why would I, I was too bloody busy.
Counselling should be standard for male and female and should involve current partners too.

the sterilisation is performed on the female under local anaesthetic. she's given a similar sort of dye test as hysteroscopy, a procedure used on some women experiencing fertility problems to view their uterus and Fallopian tubes. then, a small tube is guided into each tube and a rod placed in each.

takes about half an hour and she can go home soon after.

more effective than standard methods used now, and no GA or unpleasant side effects from gas being used to bloat the abdomen.

it's now being gradually rolled out on the NHS, a good thing because it's much cheaper than the standard method now:

femalesterilisation

LOL - men dont like the idea of stuff happening to their balls generally do they? (my DH is the fecking exception apparently! )

whats this new procedure - some kind of keyhole thing?

i'm sort of hoping hte new procedure comes here and i'd have it myself, cuz he thinks he's so hard, but really he's kind of a wuss whereas i know i can take it .

i'll be nearly 38 when this one is born, and i agree with you, age makes a difference in these types of decisions.

expat - can totally understand why your family members had the op. My Dh isnt/wasn't the most sensible 29yr old I guess and thats why GP's need to be careful!

for you with lots of ops - hope you are well now. Good luck with your DH's vasectomy

i hope it works out for you.

my FIL, father and BIL all had them and never had any regrets.

but, they'd all fathered two children and were in their 30s. my mother had csections and neither wanted her to have another, my sister had HELP/pre-clampsia and my ILs two sons' have disabilities, so for them, it was a choice that was best for them.

i'd have myself sterilised, but only if it were the new procedure that's only being offered in some areas. otherwise, it's another operation. i've had so many, DH feels it's sort of 'his turn'.

expat - yep I agree counselling should be a high priority in these cases but as I said in an earlier post he has stated since that if someone - anyone! apart from me had said slow down - are you sure you want this - wait 6 months - whatever - then he doesn't think he would have done it.

it's a shame, because counselling should weigh very heavily into such a decision.

AND, if it really is for you, then counselling won't change that.

but it would catch out people who really should be looking at other alternatives.

i was dissuaded from one because it wasn't 12 months after the birth of my last child.

my DH wishes to have one now, before the birth of our 3rd, and he is 30.

BUT, he's been wanting to have one for a while now and i do think, ultimately, it's a person's choice.

i cannot use hormonal contraception, so basically, after our 3rd is born, it will be no sex until the sterilisation is shown to work, because we both feel that strongly about not having any more children and abortion is not for me.

i don't think 'unwilling partner' should factor into it, FWIW, because i know i'd hate to see the day when a man could veto his wife's right to do what she wishes with her body because he doesn't agree with it.

it's unfortunate your spouse did not receive counselling before his procedure, though.