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Vasectomy reversal success??

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terrier141 · 13/05/2008 14:40

Does anyone have experience of this? Hubby has just had it done and we are nervously awaiting the outcome!

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KatieDD · 02/06/2008 19:12

Oh I am so nervous now, I just cannot picture myself pregnant again or with a baby boy/girl. Hubby says it's a sign, I said shut up but i am so torn, maybe it's a protective measure to stop me getting my hopes up.

Hope you're both ok and less stressed than me

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terrier141 · 30/05/2008 16:12

Katie - I felt exactly like you as the date got closer, and even the day of the op! Still not convinced - have spent all week shouting at the 4 we have between us and wondering how I'll cope if it actually does work!
PM - No DH hasnt set a date for analysis yet - now its me that scared in case its bad news!! Starting to wonder if its a bit too soon after the op because I've heard it can gradually improve over time?? Might wait a few months first.

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pinkmook · 30/05/2008 16:05

God that sentence

"I hope we can all post our baby photo's soon without too much crap in between."

really just made my stomach flip. I would be so happy if this ever happens for me

KatieDD · 30/05/2008 13:25

My DH seems to have done a complete U turn after my full on tantrum on Wednesday night and is at the GP's getting a referal letter which he needs for the 7th June appointment tonight.
It's me with the cold feet now, I keep thinking about what we'll have to go through and the financial impact of just trying to get pregnant nevermind everything else after the baby and wondering if it's what I should do, I want to but is it the right thing for us, I wish I could just have sex and get pregnant like everyone else this just feels so hard (I know people go through worse just feeling sorry for myself).

This is all so traumatic for the three of us isn't it, I hope we can all post our baby photo's soon without too much crap in between.

pinkmook · 30/05/2008 12:10

Charting is in turns fantastic and a right pain in the ass isnt it?!

I reckon you will be fine - has he got round to setting a date for the semen analysis? It might put both your minds at rest cause I bet you are thinking yours could be as bad as mine - and I bet its not.

My DH wouldnt go near the dadsnet bit either!

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terrier141 · 30/05/2008 11:17

Hey Katie DD - on about a thread for the DH's - have you seen the dadsnet section on here (under - in the club!). Dont think my dh would use it though - typical man - not really into discussing sensitive stuff!

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terrier141 · 30/05/2008 11:12

Had it done 12th April - so only about 6 weeks - but this is our 2nd cycle of ttc as we started bd exactly 2 weeks after the op which fitted exactly with my OV for that month IYSWIM! Im currently on CD 17 so assuming I OV'd on CD14 Im about 3dpo - god why is ttc so bloody confusing?! Never had these issues with the other 2 - caught 1st cycle with dd and 3rd cycle with ds without any charting or really trying - am just obsessed this time cos i know it wont be that easy - if at all!

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pinkmook · 30/05/2008 10:25

I am on the 2WW now too (either 8dpo or 10dpo - depending on which set of cross hairs I believe is right - FF did one then moved it 2 days later grrrr)

when I saw the consultant he smeared and swabbed me (sounds awful!) and there was quite a bit of blood so have had blinkin pink/brown spotting since then but temp still up.

how long is it since your DH's op now terrier?

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terrier141 · 30/05/2008 10:20

Not too bad thanks - trying to find ways to spice things up! On the dreaded 2ww now (thats assuming i have actually OV'd - as OPK's didnt detect anything). How are you both feeling today?

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pinkmook · 30/05/2008 09:45

Thanks KatieDD, hows things at home today? Terrier hope things are going better for you too. xx

KatieDD · 29/05/2008 19:34

Pink, I'm sure it'll happen, but if it doesn't take heart in the fact that mine are in a time out at moment for hitting each other saucpans, real i want to hurt you type wacks.
I sometimes wonder weather i'm bloody mad tbh.

pinkmook · 29/05/2008 19:14

Hi guys - had that last post removed as I had a small rant about work and then panicked in case either of them is a mumsnetter!!!

Thanks terrier you are a real sweetheart trying to cheer me up - miserable begger that I am!

I am sooooo glad you said that about your DH and "performance issues" - My DH has been having the same prob - he can start but he cant finish IYSWIM!

I just wish DS had a brother or sister - I have a sister and its weird to imagine him growing up without a sibling

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terrier141 · 29/05/2008 12:54

Im feeling the same at the moment - have had my 2 dc's and 2 dsc's all week and have done nothing but scream at them - maybe another one insnt such a good idea!

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KatieDD · 29/05/2008 12:24

Perhaps we should have a support thread for the DH's, mine was in tears and shouting again last night, he's only doing this for me and boy do i now it, i have a really sinking feeling now that i shouldn't be doing this at all

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terrier141 · 29/05/2008 09:46

btw im driving dh insane - to the point where he just cant perform!! Think i'm putting too much pressure on him. Might be tmi - but it just goes on forever and ever with no end reult IYSWIM! I find it a chore too which I know is not good - stress etc - know the advice about relaxing and all that - but am totally obsessed - wish I wasnt!
Also been using those cheepy ebay OPK's and according to them i havent OV'd - Im on CD16 of a 28 day cycle now. Think they might be increasing my stress levels - DH has threatened to throw them away!!

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terrier141 · 29/05/2008 09:41

Hi PM - just read what you said bout your appt - sorry its not encouraging news - sounds like you are having a tough time all round . The one positive I did notice though from your post is that you said your DHs results have improved? - hopefully they will continue to improve aswell?? I know its still nothing too hopeful - but just wanted to find one positive to focus on!! I have read other forums where the DH's results were really poor and they'd been advised it was hopeless - only to conceive naturally much later as the sperm results had improved over time. I know things are more complicated than that for you - just trying to cheer you up!! xx

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pinkmook · 28/05/2008 15:57

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KatieDD · 28/05/2008 15:47

I'd be very tempted to tell that colleague where to get off, cheeky mare.
At least hopefully your feeling more supported now if he feels regret.
70% failure rate, that's worrying, just don't know what to suggest.
You'll always be a Mom no what matter, but yes i do know what you mean, it's so hard.

pinkmook · 28/05/2008 10:41

Its a possibility but not sure how we'd scrape the money together and when you read that 70% of IVF fails its pretty grim.

At the moment we are doing OK but not sure how long that will last. He has expressed real regret for the first time yesterday about what he's done and said if he could turn the clock back he would - it kind of took the wind out of my sails and I didn't feel so angry with him any more.

I guess I am trying to adjust to the now very real possibility that I cannot have anymore children - but am gripped with fear of anything happening to my DS - if it does I wont be a mum any more - I know that sounds weird but my brain is going loopy.

Also - really fucking dreading going back to work as my colleague loves to tell me I should be grateful for what Ive got - as if I'm fucking well not grateful {sad] I know she means well but I just fell like going into my shell when she says it.

Feel for you with the tension at home - we had loads of that here before DH's op - lots of "well I'm not going to have a reversal style arguments

KatieDD · 28/05/2008 10:08

Ah hun, it's awful isn't it, is private treatment an option ?
I keep thinking it's too indulgent and not fair on the rest of the family.
This is causing so much tension here, how are you both coping, i feel like i

pinkmook · 28/05/2008 07:51

Not great but not really really terrible - we got to see what his original sperm reults were (3 months post op) and they were something terrible like 5 million/ml, 1% morph and 10% motility so at leat going off that they have round about doubled in all 3 areas - but as the consultant said they are still not normal/fertile results.

Dh has to have more detailed sperm tests done at a bigger hospital that will measure sperm antibodies

I had an internal (yack) and several swabs taken to rule out infections internally (there was loads of blood and he said maybe I am due AF - but unless Ive had another stupid annovulatory cycle then I shouldn't be due on for about 10 days so now think I DIDN't ovulate - poop)

I have to repeat the day 1-3 blood tests and go for a pelvic scan.

He also said there is no chance of IVF on NHS as even though DH has had a reversal - a vasectomy in your history totally rules this out. He sad it would cost about 4-5 thousand for it as he would probably need ICSI as well as IVF (think this is right - might have the terminology wrong)

Wasnt saying I couldnt get PG but not particularly encouraging either.

Mega fucked off to be honest. Was meant to be back in work today but cant face it

KatieDD · 27/05/2008 18:40

Bouncing for Terrier, how did it go hun ?

pinkmook · 27/05/2008 10:30

Hiya terrier - yep the app is today!! Am really scared but excited - not sure what they will say, frightened in case its all doom and gloom....thanks for thinking of me

good luck with your DH's analysis

xx

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terrier141 · 27/05/2008 10:02

Hey Pinkmook - is it today you have your appt?? Good luck if it is and let me know how you get on - Im thinking of you!! Dh is not amused that I ordered Persona - he reckons our life is gonna be controlled by it! He has finally agreed that I can ask gp for sperm test though! Hope you get some encouraging advice today - fingers crossed for you xx

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pinkmook · 25/05/2008 19:10

hey if you find out any info on getting IVF on the NHS let me know! From the research Ive done they will only do IVF in my area if you dont have any children (or after death of a child) - but if you find out anything that can swing it please do let me know and I'll do vice versa!

Let me know ho your app goes on the 7th

xx

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