Vasectomy reversal success??

We decided to ttc for six months more, hoping that his little guys will sort themselves out, and then if nothing has happened we'll look at assisted conception

It's ironic because having a sprog was his idea, not mine; but once I started envisioning it all, really imagining having a child, I got really into it as well. He already has two from his previous marriage and they decided they had enough (she had three from her first marriage as well) so he got snipped, though at the time he wasn't completely sure, he says now. Two years later she got pg by the neighbour anyway... she then left the marriage, so my partner now completely supports her and her SIX children, and I can't even have one without all these problems. Ah well. Life is funny I guess.

I'm kind of like, hmmm, maybe I'll check out that neighbour myself....

My honey is enthusiastically taking zinc to get the little guys going, but I don't think he could deal with cutting out coffee!

Sunshine, have you thought of going straight for IVF ?

My DH has had a vasectomy but I don't want it reversed mainly because I know I only want the one baby and therefore would have to have him snipped again afterwards but also because I couldn't bear the waiting every month wondering if it'll happen.
I'm going to have 2 goes, costing £4k (hoping it works first time of course) and that'll be my lot, but if the tubes have been damaged, sucking it out at source might be a better option for you too.

Thanks Pinkmook.
I suppose it really comes down to how good his swimmers are at the end of all this no point worrying about any of it just yet.

its funny sunshine, nearly everyone I have spoken to about vas reversals has been told the same thing - "one side is really badly damaged" you do start to wonder if they all say it a s a bit of an insurance policy

TTry not to get too down hearted about it. xx

Hi back from Hartlepool. Dr Dawson was very nice, but whoever did dh v in the first place made a mess of it left side is probably beyond repair but he was going to try something (cant remember what) in order to reduce the pain dh gets on that side at times, but cant give any guarantees it will work properly as far as getting pregnant. The right side is not to bad and said he hopes to have a 80percent success on that side. Feeling a bit deflated about the hole baby thing now, he goes in on the 3 March for op.

hey terrier its great to have you back - must admit I was a bit scared after I posted my honest thoughts that everyone would be horrified and think me an evil hag

Glad its not just me that broke down and sobbed about the news (you can imagine DH's face "what, so a person off the internet you've never met got pregnant....oh erm ok")It gutted me cause I thought I have been waiting the longest, I'm very british I guess and have some kind of mental queue system going on that clearly DH's tubes/sperm are not obeying LOL! But seriously I dont resent your pg just wish it was me.

KatieDD glad the kick up the bum helped!

shm - yours sounds similar to mine

anyhow, keep in touch girls xx

Hi everyone

For sunshine, and anyone else who arrives here for advice about vasectomy reversal...My partner has his reversal at Gatwick Park hospital, it is a Spire place and the doctor was Michael Swinn. It was a microsurgery, and the doctor said one side worked fine but the other had been cut too close(or summat) so he wasn't sure about that one. I'm not sure what it cost. We weren't able to get it on the nhs - I suppose because he has two children from his sociopath of an ex...

That was back in May. Since then, he has given two samples; one in the summer that showed something like 20% motility and 10% normal forms. The second sample from early November was 30% motility but only 2% normal forms I don't know why they are getting worse! He had had the snip about seven years before getting the reversal.

Anyway, we were satisfied with the hospital and treatment; my partner had no complaints, and I would recommend them, despite the disappointing outcome so far.

Thanks pink, I need a kick up the backside.

you're bound to feel apprehensive, it is a massive thing after all - but imagine if you dont go throufh with the app on wednesday ....soon enough all the feelings of wanting a baby will surface again. Just do it, you'll be fine

Am very excited and nervous for you! I cant even get to see my consultant til February then he will refer me arrggghhh the waiting is killing me x

We have an appointment on Wednesday, am terrified and suddenly have very cold feet again.

That's kind of how I feel, I'll already have a 6 year gap if the baby was conceived tonight so am not hanging around, MIL will go mental though i'll be damned if it works and damned if it doesn't. Just trying to stay cool about the whole thing.

Keep in touch girls it sounds like things are heading in the right direction for all of us !

Hi KateDD - yes I am still going ahead despite everything (as long as we have some money anyway) This is a rest of my life decision and hopefully lack of funds will be temporary. I cant afford to wait (approching 35) so Fuck it! Even if it fails at least I will know I did all I could to try.

Linz I want a full report of the scan and I'm sure it will all be fine xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sunshine, fab let us know how it goes

Terrier - where are yooooooouuuuuuuu?

Hi dh has booked himself in to see Dr Dawson on Monday so hopefully he will get a date for his vr soon fingers crossed.

Thanks Pink for being so honest, I know you're happy for me and I will definately send a prayer to all of you with loads of baby dust attached xx

KatieDD, you obviously want this so much so I'd try not to worry about your in-laws. I'm sue they won't see you in difficulty if you really need their help. This isn't something you've decided on lightly either as you've been on this thread for many months coming to your decision. Go for it because you may regret it forever otherwise x

Anyway, had a scan date through today for 18th Dec and I'm sooo nervous. Praying everything is going to be ok and trying not to worry too much x

Oh Linz, I am absolutely delighted for you.
Nothing to report here, still waiting on an appointment.
Pink are you still going ahead even with the redundancy ?
I feel so guilty wanting to spend some of the money on this IVF and am so worried that our inlaw's might refuse to help us if we run out of money because we've wasted money on this and maybe created another mouth to feed.
I know we need to be as relaxed as possible and I can't help but feel if he's worried about not having a job and I'm worried about him it might not happen The timing is rubbish.

Linz - In all honesty of course I am jealous (cant speak for the othes but would imagine there is a tinge of jealousy there maybe less so than me but I have been trying for 18 months or so now) its horiffic how much I want this and I wish so much I was you....but I'm not and its not you fault and I am sure you would wish baby luck on all of us if you could but you cant! And lifes frequently not fair and I guess its just not my time for luck at the moment! There are times when I have a little foot stamping moment and think "its not fair I should be first Ive waited the longest!" But I am an adult and I know thats Sooooo not your fault or problem! I guess its natural for me to feel like that sometimes even though its not really realistic! And its natural for you to feel guilty but you really shouldn't I am genuinely happy for you - your getting pregnant doesn't alter when I get pregnant - I'm still in this shitty position regardless! So dont you worry about it

Please dont take my jealousy to mean I "dislike" you or feel in any way negative towards you...I feel negative towards this situation, its not you its this bloody awful unfair predicament. I wish you all the luck in the world I really really do.

Just say a little prayer for me

And keep us informed how you get along xxxxx

hi all, so sorry to hear about your DH Pink. What a horrible time for this to happen !!

Terrier, sorry your AF has arrived.

KatieDD, any good news to report yet ?

I hope you don't think I'm abandoning the thread x I keep logging in to check on you all but can't help feeling horribly guilty that I've fallen pregnant so soon after the op when I know how long you've all been waiting for this

Hi Sunshine day - Yes we went private (NHS rarely do reversals, only if niether of you have children from the present or previous rel) I just found ours by googling a bout the subject of vas reversal and learned that microsurgical reversal better than normal surgery, and went from there. We used Dr Thakur in Hartlepool but I cant say I would reccomend him

HTH

Hi I was wondering were your dh went for there reversal. My other half is going to see a nhs dr on the 19 of dec, but from reading of the Internet nhs don't do them. Did you go private and if so how did you find the clinic you used. (hope nobody minds me asking these questions)

Hi terrier, have been busy doing applications for DH (he was made redundant last week - finishes friday) you have disappeared off facebook have you got sick of us

hope everyone else is doing OK

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Well I've been promised the referal letters by the end of the week so that's looking a bit brighter for us, got very excited for a moment when I thought we were going to get seen on the NHS but that didn't last long when the Dr remembered himself, nevermind.
Hope everyones well.

hi terrier, great to see you back x

yes it can be done and we are very shocked it happened this quickly as I had convinced myself it hadn't worked.

Everything is still going ok apart from I'm suffering with dreadful sickness throughout the whole day but just keep telling myself it's worth it . I have a midwife appointment a week on Friday so fingers crossed all is well.