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TTC #4 at 39!

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Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 09:35

Morning everybody, looking for support/company in my TTC journey!
Bit of back ground info I'm 39 on Saturday so well aware time isn't on my side. I have 3 Children (19,12 and 6) and have had multiple miscarriages between those 3, last year I had 2 mc and a mmc at 12 weeks which resulted in a major hemorrhage and emergency surgery! We have been TTC actively since but feel very lonely in this journey 😢 Hubby is fantastic and very supportive but I feel speaking with people going through the same will help to feel less alone and less guilty that my body is failing me xx

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Miraclemuma03 · 15/03/2025 09:53

Sorry for your losses ladies. I really hope you get your bfp soon.. I am also currently trying for just one more baby before my age makes me give up. Il be 40 in July. About to start ivf . We are already blessed with a large family though it wasnt easy and it wasnt without the heartbreak, its been a long road but I'm not ready to give it up just yet. Il follow this group to show my support and I hope to see some great news over the coming months

NMB85 · 13/03/2025 20:54

Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 20:34

Snap! I do the squinting, different lighting, standing on one leg trying to get a slight glimpse of a second line, honestly the things ttc does to us! Glad to have ladies I can share the insanity with lol 😆 xx

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Haha need a baby dance! Yep all the flashlights on the lines 🙈 glad to have company! Xx

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Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 20:34

NMB85 · 13/03/2025 20:26

@Fluffy38 definitely not the legs!! 🤣 honestly I’m the same, good job they’re cheap is all I can say! Trying to save the spenny ones for when I actually have a chance at a result 🫣 xx

Snap! I do the squinting, different lighting, standing on one leg trying to get a slight glimpse of a second line, honestly the things ttc does to us! Glad to have ladies I can share the insanity with lol 😆 xx

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NMB85 · 13/03/2025 20:26

@Fluffy38 definitely not the legs!! 🤣 honestly I’m the same, good job they’re cheap is all I can say! Trying to save the spenny ones for when I actually have a chance at a result 🫣 xx

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Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 20:20

NMB85 · 13/03/2025 20:14

@Fluffy38 thank you! You too! Honestly this last week has been an eternity and th thought of another week waiting for AF to come or not come is not the one..!
I’ve just ordered some frer and clear blue for a few days time 😊 but currently pointlessly testing on cheapies lol xx

It becomes an addiction!! I get through the amazon wondfo cheapies like water through your fingers lol iv brought a clear blue early detection to confirm what I already know (I'm out this month) so I can safely have a few drinks for my birthday on Saturday although I'd happily sacrifice a drink for a BFP! But roll on next cycle and more baby dancing and keeping my fingers and toes crossed defo not my legs haha 😅 xx

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Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 20:16

BabyBorn · 13/03/2025 17:11

Same! I’m taking Vitamin C, D, E , Methylfolate, Ubiquniland Omega 3 supplements.
That’s good that you are seeing a gyne in May. I’ve had some basic hormone testing last March and they said everything is normal. Definitely feels like the more you try the more it doesn’t
happen!

Look forward to seeing how our journeys go and excited for testing soon!!

I brought the vitabiotics max conception ones today as it is suppose to be good for women over 35 so we shall see! Hubby is on the well man conception too and to be fair it's given him alot more pep in his step so it's paying off for him! Its so refreshing to have other women going through the same and to know your not alone. All my friends are done having kids and can't get fathom why I want to do it again all I get is why would you want to sacrifice the freedom you have blah blah blah. Shame slapping people is frowned upon as that's how I feel sometimes lol xx

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NMB85 · 13/03/2025 20:14

@Fluffy38 thank you! You too! Honestly this last week has been an eternity and th thought of another week waiting for AF to come or not come is not the one..!
I’ve just ordered some frer and clear blue for a few days time 😊 but currently pointlessly testing on cheapies lol xx

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Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 20:11

NMB85 · 13/03/2025 16:50

I’m also 39 and 7dpo 👋🏻 xx

Fingers crossed for a BFP for you!! The TWW is longggggg xx

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BabyBorn · 13/03/2025 17:11

Same! I’m taking Vitamin C, D, E , Methylfolate, Ubiquniland Omega 3 supplements.
That’s good that you are seeing a gyne in May. I’ve had some basic hormone testing last March and they said everything is normal. Definitely feels like the more you try the more it doesn’t
happen!

Look forward to seeing how our journeys go and excited for testing soon!!

NMB85 · 13/03/2025 16:50

I’m also 39 and 7dpo 👋🏻 xx

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Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 15:36

BabyBorn · 13/03/2025 15:02

Hi @Fluffy38very similar to me really. I’m 40 on Monday and have 3 children already. 20,12 and 2.5! We hadn’t planned to have a 3rd but it happened and we were made up. Since having her we decided to try for a 4th. Had two miscarriages since, last one was end of November and had to have a D & C. I feel that my body is failing me too. Going to give it to around May and give up. Xx

I'm sorry you have experienced this too! Iv just spent a small fortune on supplements and ovulation kits for last month and a fresh batch for this month (just had a neg test 2 days before AF due) after my MMC the senior midwife at epu sent a referral for me to see a gynecologist which isn't until May! We will keep trying until then and see what happens from that point. It just feels that the more you want it to happen the less of a chance you have xx

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BabyBorn · 13/03/2025 15:02

Hi @Fluffy38very similar to me really. I’m 40 on Monday and have 3 children already. 20,12 and 2.5! We hadn’t planned to have a 3rd but it happened and we were made up. Since having her we decided to try for a 4th. Had two miscarriages since, last one was end of November and had to have a D & C. I feel that my body is failing me too. Going to give it to around May and give up. Xx

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