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TTC #4 at 39!

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Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 09:35

Morning everybody, looking for support/company in my TTC journey!
Bit of back ground info I'm 39 on Saturday so well aware time isn't on my side. I have 3 Children (19,12 and 6) and have had multiple miscarriages between those 3, last year I had 2 mc and a mmc at 12 weeks which resulted in a major hemorrhage and emergency surgery! We have been TTC actively since but feel very lonely in this journey 😢 Hubby is fantastic and very supportive but I feel speaking with people going through the same will help to feel less alone and less guilty that my body is failing me xx

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BabyBorn · 25/03/2025 12:07

Oh is it! How many books are there in the series of Hooked do you know? You are on a real mission with your books aren’t you!! lol.

Nice nails! 💅

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Fluffy38 · 25/03/2025 11:59

Iv just stared filthy rich vampire book 4!! Iv done the other in just over a week! Lol 😆 the book you have just started is part of a series! I brought it but haven't read them yet so let me know if it's any good xx

TTC #4 at 39!
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BabyBorn · 25/03/2025 08:52

I bought 3, started reading Hooked by Emily Mcintire! Not sure what the other two are called as haven’t got them to hand! Started it last night and hope I get “hooked” 😂😂 Glad you are enjoying yours! x

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Fluffy38 · 25/03/2025 06:48

BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 19:45

I know. It’s the hardest thing a woman can go through I think. All the worry from start to finish. It’s such a crazy emotional journey. I think I am mad to be doing it all again to be honest but if it is meant to be it will be!!

I bought some books today too 😆😂 Some spicy sounding ones! 😂😂

Ohhh which ones did you get? I hope you enjoy them, I was on the fence at first but they are really good be warned tho it does become addictive and you don't wanna put it down lol 😆 xx

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BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 19:45

I know. It’s the hardest thing a woman can go through I think. All the worry from start to finish. It’s such a crazy emotional journey. I think I am mad to be doing it all again to be honest but if it is meant to be it will be!!

I bought some books today too 😆😂 Some spicy sounding ones! 😂😂

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Fluffy38 · 24/03/2025 19:42

BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 19:40

Sounds like a fab plan! @Fluffy38! Always good to go through a journey together than alone! X

100% especially when it's with someone that understands the intense emotions that run along side it, being able to express how you feel without sounding insane lol xx

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BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 19:40

Sounds like a fab plan! @Fluffy38! Always good to go through a journey together than alone! X

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Fluffy38 · 24/03/2025 19:05

BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 14:37

Aawwww sorry to hear about your losses. You sound like a warrior woman!!

My eldest is 20 and my husband has brought her up since she was 2. She doesn’t see her biological dad. We have two together 13 next month and 32 month old. Only our middle child was ever planned, when we’ve been trying we keep loosing them! We’ve had two losses since June last year 😩 Hopefully this will be our year! 🤞 xx

It will definitely be our year, I'm bringing all the positive vibes and sending them your way too!! We can keep each other sane through this whirlwind journey xx

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BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 14:37

Aawwww sorry to hear about your losses. You sound like a warrior woman!!

My eldest is 20 and my husband has brought her up since she was 2. She doesn’t see her biological dad. We have two together 13 next month and 32 month old. Only our middle child was ever planned, when we’ve been trying we keep loosing them! We’ve had two losses since June last year 😩 Hopefully this will be our year! 🤞 xx

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Fluffy38 · 24/03/2025 14:31

BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 11:13

Ha ha I’m lucky as we have our own business and I work from home so am very flexible. I also have 3 kids and 2 dogs! How are we thinking we are going to fit a 4th in?!?! 🤭😬😂😂😂x

Lmao because we are pro's I actually find it easier having more kids when I have my sisters kids too that's 6 all at once and they keep each other amused lol. Mine are 19,12 and 6 so they will all be helpful in a round about (I hope!) My 2 eldest wernt planned I brought them up alone whilst holding down a full time care job both of their dad's walked out when I was pregnant and then I met my husband and he took them on as his own and we decided to have one together then we thought we were done, until I fell pregnant early last year whilst on the pill! Then we both knew we wasn't done and wanted another so 3 failed attempts last year in total. This year will be our year xx

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BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 11:13

Ha ha I’m lucky as we have our own business and I work from home so am very flexible. I also have 3 kids and 2 dogs! How are we thinking we are going to fit a 4th in?!?! 🤭😬😂😂😂x

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Fluffy38 · 24/03/2025 10:57

BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 10:46

Hey @Fluffy38Thanks! I’ve not had chance to look yet 🤭 might go into town and look shortly. In the hairdressers at the moment! 😆 I do love a good book. Do t get much chance to read these days but I need to make more time for it! Xx

We're all guilty of that I'm lucky if I get an hour to myself most days with work, 3 kids, 3 dogs the hubby and the endless housework and washing lol so I make it a priority to have at least an hour in the evening for me to have a cuppa and a few chapters of a good book it's also helped me to sleep better!! Xx

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BabyBorn · 24/03/2025 10:46

Hey @Fluffy38Thanks! I’ve not had chance to look yet 🤭 might go into town and look shortly. In the hairdressers at the moment! 😆 I do love a good book. Do t get much chance to read these days but I need to make more time for it! Xx

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Fluffy38 · 23/03/2025 23:37

BabyBorn · 23/03/2025 18:50

I don’t think I could read about vampires 😂😂 not my thing. Nor could I read call the midwives! It’s bad enough to watch on the TV!! 🤭🤭 Might have a google and see what else I could try! Xx

Martina Cole books are pretty good if you like crime stories, I didn't think I'd get into the fantasy romance stuff but iv read a few now and they are quite good, fb reels keep encouraging me to buy more lol xx

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BabyBorn · 23/03/2025 18:50

I don’t think I could read about vampires 😂😂 not my thing. Nor could I read call the midwives! It’s bad enough to watch on the TV!! 🤭🤭 Might have a google and see what else I could try! Xx

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Fluffy38 · 23/03/2025 18:03

BabyBorn · 23/03/2025 17:28

@Fluffy38i wish i had the same enthusiasm as you with sex! 😂😂 I used to but as I’m getting older and still co sleeping with my little one I don’t have very much energy or enthusiasm these days 🥴🥴 The only time I’m well up for it is around ovulation and just after 😂😂😂

I’m going to really try and focus on something else this week and even start reading a book like you’ve suggested! 👍

I highly recommend the filthy rich vampire series by Geneva Lee, its got fantasy, romance and a little spice thrown in or if your into real life stories then the call the midwife books are amazing. It really does focus your thoughts on something other then ttc xx

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BabyBorn · 23/03/2025 17:28

@Fluffy38i wish i had the same enthusiasm as you with sex! 😂😂 I used to but as I’m getting older and still co sleeping with my little one I don’t have very much energy or enthusiasm these days 🥴🥴 The only time I’m well up for it is around ovulation and just after 😂😂😂

I’m going to really try and focus on something else this week and even start reading a book like you’ve suggested! 👍

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Fluffy38 · 23/03/2025 16:52

BabyBorn · 23/03/2025 16:06

@Fluffy38sorry, I seemed to have missed your last message! Glad you enjoyed your Ameretto!

you’ve reminded me I need to order a load of pregnancy tests and ov tests but to be honest, I might try this month without them as I feel when I ovulate anyway so can start BD on day 8 and take it from there! Need to try and put it to the back on my mind this cycle! I’m sure it’s a big reason it’s not happening! 🥴 Hope you get a positive OPKT in the next few days!

I think that's gonna be our approach this month, I feel quite chilled the weather hasn't been to bad, works been less stressful and iv found the time to start reading again so I'm gonna stick with these vibes and hopefully it works I'm not going to OPK everyday as I have a rough idea when I ovulate so will do it over the couple of days I'm most fertile. I'm sure hubby sees the stick and goes into panic mode that he's gotta get his game face on lol! Having said that as we have both been alot more relaxed the last week iv noticed he's been alot more flirty and 'handy' then normal, he's always been very tactile and affectionate but I'm talking another level!! Maybe it's the spicy stuff iv been reading he's had a cheeky look haha either way I'm defo not complaining and it makes it alot more fun!! Xx

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BabyBorn · 23/03/2025 16:06

@Fluffy38sorry, I seemed to have missed your last message! Glad you enjoyed your Ameretto!

you’ve reminded me I need to order a load of pregnancy tests and ov tests but to be honest, I might try this month without them as I feel when I ovulate anyway so can start BD on day 8 and take it from there! Need to try and put it to the back on my mind this cycle! I’m sure it’s a big reason it’s not happening! 🥴 Hope you get a positive OPKT in the next few days!

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Fluffy38 · 20/03/2025 15:39

BabyBorn · 20/03/2025 15:32

@Fluffy38thanks! It’s been so brilliant! I’m testing negative and feel quite crampy so should come on in the next few days 🙄🥴 I’m glad though as I’ve drank my body weight in champagne this week 😆😆

How are you getting on? X

AF has packed her bags and left so we can try our luck again, just had another batch of opks delivered my fertile window starts on Sunday according to my app but I'll start testing from tomorrow as AF showed a day early and only lasted 3 days instead of 5! I did pee on a stick again but defo BFN so let the baby dancing commence lol 😆, your braver then I am one glass of champagne and I'd go blind and start walking into things the bubbles go straight to my head haha. I did drink a fair amount of ameretto on Saturday tho I'd forgotten how much I enjoyed it! Xx

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BabyBorn · 20/03/2025 15:32

@Fluffy38thanks! It’s been so brilliant! I’m testing negative and feel quite crampy so should come on in the next few days 🙄🥴 I’m glad though as I’ve drank my body weight in champagne this week 😆😆

How are you getting on? X

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Fluffy38 · 16/03/2025 11:15

BabyBorn · 16/03/2025 06:44

Happy belated birthday @Fluffy38hope you enjoyed letting your hair down a little! It’s my birthday tomorrow and we traveled to the canaries for it with two of the kids! I’m only 9 DPO today and did a sneaky cheapo test in the dark using the fridge light to see the outcome. It looks like a negative but I’ve kept the wee and will do another later when it becomes light! 😆 We are the same time as the Uk here so not too bad. Sorry your AF showed too @Fluffy38 i don’t think I will be too far behind you 🥴

Happy birthday for tomorrow @BabyBorn what a way to spend your birthday! Hooe you have a lovely relaxing time away. Keep me posted I'm crossing my fingers for your BFP couldn't help but laugh at the fridge light comment iv not tried that one lol 😆 xx

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BabyBorn · 16/03/2025 06:44

Happy belated birthday @Fluffy38hope you enjoyed letting your hair down a little! It’s my birthday tomorrow and we traveled to the canaries for it with two of the kids! I’m only 9 DPO today and did a sneaky cheapo test in the dark using the fridge light to see the outcome. It looks like a negative but I’ve kept the wee and will do another later when it becomes light! 😆 We are the same time as the Uk here so not too bad. Sorry your AF showed too @Fluffy38 i don’t think I will be too far behind you 🥴

Miraclemuma03 · 16/03/2025 00:20

@Fluffy38 so sorry this isn't your month. Definitely go and enjoy your birthday night and really just let your hair down and have fun. Happy birthday.

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Fluffy38 · 15/03/2025 13:31

Miraclemuma03 · 15/03/2025 09:53

Sorry for your losses ladies. I really hope you get your bfp soon.. I am also currently trying for just one more baby before my age makes me give up. Il be 40 in July. About to start ivf . We are already blessed with a large family though it wasnt easy and it wasnt without the heartbreak, its been a long road but I'm not ready to give it up just yet. Il follow this group to show my support and I hope to see some great news over the coming months

Good luck on your IVF journey we will all support you through it and fingers crossed this year we will all get our much wanted BFPs. I'm defo out this month AF showed her face this morning not the greatest of birthday presents but I shall have a few drinks this evening and enjoy a very rare evening out with the hubby and then we can get back to business when the time comes 😊 xx

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