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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC #4 at 39!

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Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 09:35

Morning everybody, looking for support/company in my TTC journey!
Bit of back ground info I'm 39 on Saturday so well aware time isn't on my side. I have 3 Children (19,12 and 6) and have had multiple miscarriages between those 3, last year I had 2 mc and a mmc at 12 weeks which resulted in a major hemorrhage and emergency surgery! We have been TTC actively since but feel very lonely in this journey 😢 Hubby is fantastic and very supportive but I feel speaking with people going through the same will help to feel less alone and less guilty that my body is failing me xx

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Fluffy38 · 10/04/2025 11:47

BabyBorn · 10/04/2025 08:44

Aahhh I see, that’s terrible, sorry to hear that you’ve had so many losses! 😢 I’ve had a few since June 2
2024 and a D&C in November, they said I would be extra fertile after a miscarriage but been the opposite! 😂😂 xx

Iv had 12 all together over the years but when I had my daughter 6 years ago I changed hospitals and they have been really on the ball with it, the previous hospital were so dismissive and said these things happen and there is no point investigating as its not going to change the outcome and she was a female consultant too!! Xx

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BabyBorn · 10/04/2025 08:44

Aahhh I see, that’s terrible, sorry to hear that you’ve had so many losses! 😢 I’ve had a few since June 2
2024 and a D&C in November, they said I would be extra fertile after a miscarriage but been the opposite! 😂😂 xx

BabyBorn · 10/04/2025 08:41

Glad youve been enjoying your books! I finished Hooked last night! Onto another tonight! 😆
I don’t think I will be pregnant either this month but you are deffo not out yet! Xx

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Fluffy38 · 10/04/2025 08:40

BabyBorn · 10/04/2025 08:27

Hey@Fluffy38 how many days post ovulation are you now? Still very early days isn’t it? Forgot to ask you how you managed to get a fertility appointment? Given you’ve already got 3 children? I’m not going to bother asking my GP because if it doesn’t happen in the next 2-3 months it wasn’t meant to be and we are going to stop trying! Xx

After my miscarriage in Sept they sent a referral to the infertility/fertility clinic because I have a history of multiple miscarriages that have never been investigated. Because I'd had 3 consecutive mcs within 7 months one of which was life threatening and I made it clear I wanted another child they said they would try to push it through but I could still be waiting up to 18months. Within 2 weeks of being discharged from hospital I had my appointment xx

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BabyBorn · 10/04/2025 08:27

Hey@Fluffy38 how many days post ovulation are you now? Still very early days isn’t it? Forgot to ask you how you managed to get a fertility appointment? Given you’ve already got 3 children? I’m not going to bother asking my GP because if it doesn’t happen in the next 2-3 months it wasn’t meant to be and we are going to stop trying! Xx

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Fluffy38 · 10/04/2025 08:22

@BabyBorn I done 2 early detection tests this morning and both stark white! AF not due til 15th but I'd say we're out this month. Now I'm trying to decide if I should buy more OPKs or not I have my fertility app on 16th May so we potentially have another cycle before the app, I'm feeling very deflated today xx

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Fluffy38 · 09/04/2025 16:04

BabyBorn · 09/04/2025 13:00

Yeah we only had nookie once when we fell pregnant with our last little one! 😆
Did you wow! That was a quick read! I’ve been either busy doing something else or too tired to read once my little one falls asleep or that lights are off and it’s too dark! lol. Should finish it by the end of tonight! Xx

I'm on the last chapter of scarred now, iv just had a new release delivered which completes a series I read 2 months ago and I'm itching to read it as it left it on a cliff hanger lol 😆 I'm such a simple creature a good book and a brew and I'm happy lol xx

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BabyBorn · 09/04/2025 13:00

Yeah we only had nookie once when we fell pregnant with our last little one! 😆
Did you wow! That was a quick read! I’ve been either busy doing something else or too tired to read once my little one falls asleep or that lights are off and it’s too dark! lol. Should finish it by the end of tonight! Xx

BabyBorn · 09/04/2025 12:59

Think I replied on another thread I’m on 😆😩 xx

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Fluffy38 · 09/04/2025 09:29

BabyBorn · 09/04/2025 08:49

@Fluffy38 yes we did, around 4 times in my fertile time I think. How about you? I think I ovulated from my side that I don’t have a fallopian tube this time which I haven’t done for ages! 🥴 so haven’t put money on it happening this cycle. 😩
Nearly at the end of hooked now! Few more chapters left! It’s taken me ages to read for one reason or another!! It’s ok but not brilliant! How are you getting on with your books? Xx

We only managed once this cycle!! So odds definitely not in our favour lmao but having said that my 2nd son was conceived after just once and whilst on the pill! I finished hooked in a few days I'm now almost finished scarred which is another story in the same series which I believe is based around disney characters lol 😆 it wasn't a bad book and it passed the time but still to tame for me haha xx

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BabyBorn · 09/04/2025 08:49

@Fluffy38 yes we did, around 4 times in my fertile time I think. How about you? I think I ovulated from my side that I don’t have a fallopian tube this time which I haven’t done for ages! 🥴 so haven’t put money on it happening this cycle. 😩
Nearly at the end of hooked now! Few more chapters left! It’s taken me ages to read for one reason or another!! It’s ok but not brilliant! How are you getting on with your books? Xx

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Fluffy38 · 08/04/2025 23:27

BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 20:23

Ha ha I know, I would be due bang on 27/28th of December if I was pregnant this time but can not see it at all and hope not because I would hope for a home birth and all staff will be off sick and on holiday knowing my luck lol xx

Did you get many opportunities to dtd, I remember you saying you had family over so it was gonna have to wait, maybe we both took the to relaxed approach haha 😄 xx might have to go twice as hard next cycle 😅xx

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BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 20:23

Ha ha I know, I would be due bang on 27/28th of December if I was pregnant this time but can not see it at all and hope not because I would hope for a home birth and all staff will be off sick and on holiday knowing my luck lol xx

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Fluffy38 · 08/04/2025 18:51

BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 17:23

@Fluffy38 I know! It’s almost like you think you are going mad isn’t it! 😆 well hopefully you are pregnant! Only thing is you will be having a Christmas baby!! 😆😂😂 x

My app states estimated dd if I was pregnant as 20th Dec! My daughter was due 28th Dec and arrived 4th Jan. All my kids were over cooked lmao 🤣 xx

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BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 17:23

@Fluffy38 I know! It’s almost like you think you are going mad isn’t it! 😆 well hopefully you are pregnant! Only thing is you will be having a Christmas baby!! 😆😂😂 x

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Fluffy38 · 08/04/2025 12:12

BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 07:55

Same actually! It’s a little frosty here but the suns out so photos be lovely later! Awwww that’s cute you are able to take your little one to work today! Little ones always cheer the elderly up don’t they! 🥰 We took our nearly 3 year old to see my poorly Nan in hospital on Sunday and the whole ward was obsessed with her bless them! Ours broke up a day early as they had an inset day 🙄
Yes I’m deffo testing from Sunday! Trying not to symptom spot! 😆 implantation won’t happen until tomorrow, if it does! X

The symtom spotting is the worst!! Hubby decided to tell me my boobs looked fuller/bigger last night so now I'm obsessing over that and my heightened sense of smell lmao 🤣 it's all probably pre AF but I never took much notice over the symptoms prior to my miscarriages last year lol xx

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BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 07:56

Should be not photos 😆 x

BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 07:55

Same actually! It’s a little frosty here but the suns out so photos be lovely later! Awwww that’s cute you are able to take your little one to work today! Little ones always cheer the elderly up don’t they! 🥰 We took our nearly 3 year old to see my poorly Nan in hospital on Sunday and the whole ward was obsessed with her bless them! Ours broke up a day early as they had an inset day 🙄
Yes I’m deffo testing from Sunday! Trying not to symptom spot! 😆 implantation won’t happen until tomorrow, if it does! X

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Fluffy38 · 08/04/2025 07:48

BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 07:41

Spooky! 😂😂

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Great minds think alike!! Xx

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Fluffy38 · 08/04/2025 07:48

BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 07:39

Morning! It only takes the once! 😆 I’m good ta and in the TTW! Exciting about testing on Thursday! I can test from Sunday at the earliest where I think I will be 10DPO! Gorgeous morning here! Keeping me postive! Are the kids on half term yet where you live? Ours broke up on Thursday! X

It's a cold morning here but sun is out (essex) the kids broke up Friday iv been really lucky this half term my boss has given me 6 days worth of leave over the next 2 weeks as I never usually get time off over holidays! Taking my daughter to my private job this morning my little old lady is so excited to meet her lol 😆. If I get a positive i will be v happy having said that its not the end of the world if I don't, we have our first app with the fertility consultant on the 16th May which has come round so quick.
Do you think you will test on Sunday? I don't have the will power to wait until a missed period lol 😆. How you getting on with your book? Xx

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BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 07:41

Fluffy38 · 08/04/2025 07:37

Iv literally just replied to your last comment!! How strange is that lol xx

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Spooky! 😂😂

BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 07:39

Morning! It only takes the once! 😆 I’m good ta and in the TTW! Exciting about testing on Thursday! I can test from Sunday at the earliest where I think I will be 10DPO! Gorgeous morning here! Keeping me postive! Are the kids on half term yet where you live? Ours broke up on Thursday! X

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Fluffy38 · 08/04/2025 07:37

BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 07:33

Wow it’s been over a week already! How are you @Fluffy38? X

Iv literally just replied to your last comment!! How strange is that lol xx

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Fluffy38 · 08/04/2025 07:36

BabyBorn · 28/03/2025 09:57

Well, you better jump him tonight then!! 😂😂 I fell pregnant with just one go in May but it unfortunately ended in a miscarriage. You’ve still got time! I’m hoping I will be ovulating next week! Xx

Good Morning my lovely, sorry for the radio silence it's been manic! How are things with you? Are you in your ttw now? I can start testing from Thursday! We only had the chance to dtd once this cycle 😣xx

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BabyBorn · 08/04/2025 07:33

Wow it’s been over a week already! How are you @Fluffy38? X

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