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TTC #4 at 39!

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Fluffy38 · 13/03/2025 09:35

Morning everybody, looking for support/company in my TTC journey!
Bit of back ground info I'm 39 on Saturday so well aware time isn't on my side. I have 3 Children (19,12 and 6) and have had multiple miscarriages between those 3, last year I had 2 mc and a mmc at 12 weeks which resulted in a major hemorrhage and emergency surgery! We have been TTC actively since but feel very lonely in this journey 😢 Hubby is fantastic and very supportive but I feel speaking with people going through the same will help to feel less alone and less guilty that my body is failing me xx

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Fluffy38 · 18/04/2025 12:26

BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 12:20

May be some inflammation you’ve got still. Glad it’s better for you. Bloody miserable weather here today which is not helping my mood! 🥴 xx

We have sunshine and a harsh breeze, I'm gonna enjoy my day off today before a weekend full of work but I'm off Monday too so hopefully it's warmer then and we can get out with the kids, the boys are gaming, piggles watching wicked and hubby and I are debating what to have for lunch lol and I'm powering through another book haha 😄 xx

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Fluffy38 · 18/04/2025 12:22

Hailz1979 · 18/04/2025 10:47

Never give up ❤️ I do have 3 girls…a 27 year old a 20 year old and a 10 year old…all from previous partner…getting married to the man of my dreams next month and desperately would like a child with him before it’s too late x

Welcome to the chat lovely, I have 3 kids 19 12 and 6. My 2 eldest (boys) have different sperms donors can't call them dad's as they both walked out durring pregnancy and haven't ever seen them!! And my daughter I have with my hubby we met 8yrs ago and he's taken the boys on as his own our daughter came along and after finding out I was pregnant last April (wasn't trying + on the pill) I miscarried. We had another 2 miscarriages in Sept and Nov and are still actively trying now xx

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BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 12:20

May be some inflammation you’ve got still. Glad it’s better for you. Bloody miserable weather here today which is not helping my mood! 🥴 xx

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Fluffy38 · 18/04/2025 12:17

BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 09:13

Aawww yeah, how is your back now? So you are 4 days ahead of me! 😀 x

My backs almost normal again I haven't got the jolting sensation anymore just a constant ache/burning feeling but I can cope with that and at least I can move alot better then I could lol xx

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BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 10:48

@Hailz1979 I have 3 girls too! 😅🤣 20,13 and almost 3! I suppose if it’s going to happen it will! X

Hailz1979 · 18/04/2025 10:48

I’m also very sorry for your losses x x

Hailz1979 · 18/04/2025 10:47

Never give up ❤️ I do have 3 girls…a 27 year old a 20 year old and a 10 year old…all from previous partner…getting married to the man of my dreams next month and desperately would like a child with him before it’s too late x

BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 10:45

Hi @Hailz1979Have you got other children? I’ve been trying for a while now, not even sure how long. I’ve had two miscarriages since June last year. Will only carry on trying for a few more months before we give up. X

Hailz1979 · 18/04/2025 10:42

I’m 46 hun 😬😬 been trying for 3 months…good luck to you!! x

BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 09:13

Aawww yeah, how is your back now? So you are 4 days ahead of me! 😀 x

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Fluffy38 · 18/04/2025 09:10

BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 09:06

@Fluffy38 What cycle day are you on now? Yeah I stopped my multi vitamins last month too. Raspberry leaf tea is supposed to thinking the lining of your womb for a better chance of a pregnancy sticking. It’s good for women who have light periods too as it thickens the lining which is what we need. I wouldn’t say my periods are light luckily but going to give it a go again x

Ohhh I might get some today! Mine have always been around 4 days of a steady flow but this one was only 2 days of a med flow but that could be because I was taking ibuprofen for my back. I'm CD 5 xx

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BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 09:06

@Fluffy38 What cycle day are you on now? Yeah I stopped my multi vitamins last month too. Raspberry leaf tea is supposed to thinking the lining of your womb for a better chance of a pregnancy sticking. It’s good for women who have light periods too as it thickens the lining which is what we need. I wouldn’t say my periods are light luckily but going to give it a go again x

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Fluffy38 · 18/04/2025 09:01

BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 08:44

Hey @Fluffy38 sorry for the radio silence, been so busy. AF has come this morning 😢 My cycle has gone from 31 days 4-6 months ago and slowly changing to a more normal cycle of 28 days. I think it’s because I’m only breastfeeding my little one once or twice a day now. I’m going to start taking raspberry leaf tea this cycle. How are you doing? Xx

Morning hun, it was a weird one this month AF only stayed 2 whole days! Lil bit of spotting on the 3rd day and now all ready to go again. What does the raspberry leaf tea do? I'm back on the conception plus supplements this month hopefully it helps I didn't take them last month as they actually suppress my appetite I think it's the cod liver oil one that makes me feel crap 😅 xx

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BabyBorn · 18/04/2025 08:44

Hey @Fluffy38 sorry for the radio silence, been so busy. AF has come this morning 😢 My cycle has gone from 31 days 4-6 months ago and slowly changing to a more normal cycle of 28 days. I think it’s because I’m only breastfeeding my little one once or twice a day now. I’m going to start taking raspberry leaf tea this cycle. How are you doing? Xx

MonsterBookOfTyson · 17/04/2025 15:14

Fluffy38 · 16/04/2025 07:19

Welcome to the chat, the 2ww is the worst it just drags and makes you insane with all the symtom spotting xx

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Hi yes the tww is awful. I can't test until next Wednesday which feels like a long way off. I'm very impatient!

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Fluffy38 · 16/04/2025 07:19

MonsterBookOfTyson · 15/04/2025 21:52

Hi I'm 39 have 3 dc 16, 14 and 9. TTC dc4.
Currently 3dpo so in the 2ww.

Welcome to the chat, the 2ww is the worst it just drags and makes you insane with all the symtom spotting xx

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MonsterBookOfTyson · 15/04/2025 21:52

Hi I'm 39 have 3 dc 16, 14 and 9. TTC dc4.
Currently 3dpo so in the 2ww.

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Fluffy38 · 14/04/2025 11:16

BabyBorn · 14/04/2025 08:07

Aawww hope you get to have the scan before you fall pregnant again. Get it over with so you can get it sorted. Yeah the only thing you can do is keep postive isn’t it. I fell off my clean eating wagon but back on it today with vengeance! Sorry to hear AF arrived but I am sure I will be right behind you, trying for another month! X

It's so frustrating isn't it trying to do everything right, eating clean, less stress more exercise blah blah blah the harder I try the worse the failing feels. It makes me so angry that people with really bad life styles and drug habits ect seem to fall pregnant so easy and retain the pregnancy yet those of us that really want it and play by the rules just don't get anywhere 😑 xx

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BabyBorn · 14/04/2025 08:07

Aawww hope you get to have the scan before you fall pregnant again. Get it over with so you can get it sorted. Yeah the only thing you can do is keep postive isn’t it. I fell off my clean eating wagon but back on it today with vengeance! Sorry to hear AF arrived but I am sure I will be right behind you, trying for another month! X

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Fluffy38 · 14/04/2025 08:02

BabyBorn · 14/04/2025 07:57

Hey @Fluffy38 oh no!! Hope you are ok? How are you feeling today? Bruised no doubt 🥴

Yes did a test yesterday and it was stark white 😩 not going to do anymore now until AF arrives. You can’t be far off testing now? Xx

I started testing on Thursday but all BNF and AF decided to show her face this morning! She can do one lol 😆. Backs still in bits but I'm trying to stay as mobile as possible, it's a recurring issue that I was suppose to go for an MRI for but it was scheduled when I was pregnant last year so they cancelled it and now have to wait til they can squeeze me in again. Trying to keep positive thought that this is a new cycle and I will make it happen lol 😆 xx

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BabyBorn · 14/04/2025 07:57

Hey @Fluffy38 oh no!! Hope you are ok? How are you feeling today? Bruised no doubt 🥴

Yes did a test yesterday and it was stark white 😩 not going to do anymore now until AF arrives. You can’t be far off testing now? Xx

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Fluffy38 · 13/04/2025 17:55

BabyBorn · 11/04/2025 03:25

I have no idea but it’s good that it’s a fertility clinic as wouldn’t your GP just run tests? Mine did March 2024 as I had been trying a good few months without any luck at all. They just did the 21 day test to see if my hormone levels were ok and if I was ovulating and it all came back normal. Hopefully a fertility clinic will do a more in depth investigation and scan you too xx

Hey @BabyBorn sorry for not replying iv been in the wars!! I was cleaning my daughters room and I back completely went, I couldn't feel my left leg properly spent most of yesterday laid up and off my trolley on pain relief. Iv managed to get up and about today but still in alot of pain. Did you do your test this morning? Xx

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BabyBorn · 11/04/2025 03:25

I have no idea but it’s good that it’s a fertility clinic as wouldn’t your GP just run tests? Mine did March 2024 as I had been trying a good few months without any luck at all. They just did the 21 day test to see if my hormone levels were ok and if I was ovulating and it all came back normal. Hopefully a fertility clinic will do a more in depth investigation and scan you too xx

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Fluffy38 · 10/04/2025 17:44

BabyBorn · 10/04/2025 14:38

God! Shocking isn’t it. I’ve had 3 miscarriages, one ectopic rupture, 1 termination and 3 children. I’ve put two miscarriages down to age and the fact I was breastfeeding loads at the time but the first one was very hard because I found out at my 20 weeks scan my baby had died at 18 weeks.😢 Not every egg is viable even if it fertilises, especially as we age 😮‍💨 Glad you’ve got a hospital that will help you with this very difficult journey. Xx

I Hope they can help but I have this awful feeling that given my age and the fact I already have 3 kids they probably won't get to involved and just run routine tests check for clotting disorders ect xx

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BabyBorn · 10/04/2025 14:38

God! Shocking isn’t it. I’ve had 3 miscarriages, one ectopic rupture, 1 termination and 3 children. I’ve put two miscarriages down to age and the fact I was breastfeeding loads at the time but the first one was very hard because I found out at my 20 weeks scan my baby had died at 18 weeks.😢 Not every egg is viable even if it fertilises, especially as we age 😮‍💨 Glad you’ve got a hospital that will help you with this very difficult journey. Xx

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