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TWW at 40 yrs old

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poppymango · 20/02/2025 09:12

A few days into my two week wait now, period due around 2nd of March.

Trying not to get too excited as I'll soon be 40 and I know my chances are lower - nevertheless, I found myself downloading a pregnancy tracking app this morning and looking at all the visuals of what the baby would look like at various stages 🙃

Anyone else out there want to wait with me? Crossing fingers and toes for my November baby!!

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Wingingitlife · 03/09/2025 15:31

Alwaysroomforanotherdog · 02/09/2025 10:21

Hi everyone I haven’t been around for a bit as my cycles are all over the place but can I ask your opinions on the chart please? I don’t really get them as I’ve never needed to track before. Thanks

Someone on another post told me about using ChatGPT to analyse their cycle. I use Premom too… so I screen shot my graph and put it into ChatGPT and it literally worked out when I ovulated etc! Worth a try!

VioIetMoon · 03/09/2025 12:26

@EmberR I was told anything before 6 weeks is a chemical

Fullofconfusion · 02/09/2025 19:53

@Alwaysroomforanotherdogwhat are the 2 lines on the graph? I don’t have a chart. I just use the strips and scan them onto Premom which tells me if it’s a high LH reading or a low one and track ovulation that way

EmberR · 02/09/2025 19:42

Sorry for the daft question I just googled the answer!

EmberR · 02/09/2025 19:18

Can I ask a silly question. When does it go from a chemical pregnancy to a miscarriage?

Fullofconfusion · 02/09/2025 18:37

Congratulations @EmberR everything crossed for you.

@Iris2024I’m sorry to hear your news. It’s awful when you get your hopes up and they’re dashed so quickly. Happy Birthday and I hope this new year brings good news for you.

@poppymangohave a good cry if you find it helps. I’m one of those people who shutting myself away to have a cry helps sometimes. Look after yourself. A nice bath and a glass of wine or some chocolate is what I usually go for when I need a bit of self care.

I’m mega confused this month…nothing new there! So last month I ovulated on day 20 and period came on day 29. This cycle I’m currently on day 24 and no sign of ovulation. I use the strips and they’ve all been negative (highest rating 0.4), no EWCM which is usually a big giveaway for me. I wonder if I’m just not ovulating this cycle. Which is very annoying!

Wingingitlife · 02/09/2025 18:01

Congratulations @EmberR

@Iris2024sorry to hear about your chemical. I had one last month and I was so emotional about it. It hit me a lot harder than I thought. I hope you manage to have a good birthday ❤️

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poppymango · 02/09/2025 14:09

Looks like the "sad day" that I didn't have in the run up to my period has hit me twice as hard today. AF has arrived with merciless force and I'm in terrible pain and can't stop crying. Fun times.

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EmberR · 02/09/2025 11:17

@Iris2024 I’m so so sorry to hear your news. Sending you lots of love. I hope you have support around you xx

lynzmb · 02/09/2025 11:02

Congratulations @EmberR, wishing you all the best!

Sorry for your loss @Iris2024, sending lots of love. And hope you're doing something nice for your birthday. I'm 41 today too, a year in to TTC #2.

Alwaysroomforanotherdog · 02/09/2025 10:21

Hi everyone I haven’t been around for a bit as my cycles are all over the place but can I ask your opinions on the chart please? I don’t really get them as I’ve never needed to track before. Thanks

TWW at 40 yrs old
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poppymango · 02/09/2025 07:54

Oh that’s tough @Iris2024, I’m so sorry. It’s always harder somehow when it falls near a birthday.

My body has been trolling me for the past few days. There’s absolutely no doubt in my mind that I’m not pregnant now - I’ve been getting steadily worse period pains for the past 12 hours or so, but technically I’m three days late and technically haven’t bled yet. I just want it out of the way now so I can focus on next month.

What I wouldn’t give to stay home and have a duvet day today.

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Iris2024 · 02/09/2025 06:57

Congratulations @EmberR ❤️

It’s my birthday today and sadly I’m having a chemical and bleeding 1 week, 3 days after getting my BFP. Had a positive digital too. I’m 42 today.

Bumblebee1984 · 02/09/2025 05:22

EmberR · 01/09/2025 21:46

So this happened today. My period is 2 days late but I thought just another weird cycle as I don’t feel anything…

Now I feel a bit numb/confused/excited/scared!

Wow congratulations

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poppymango · 02/09/2025 00:49

EmberR · 01/09/2025 21:46

So this happened today. My period is 2 days late but I thought just another weird cycle as I don’t feel anything…

Now I feel a bit numb/confused/excited/scared!

Oh my gosh! Congratulations!!

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EmberR · 01/09/2025 21:46

So this happened today. My period is 2 days late but I thought just another weird cycle as I don’t feel anything…

Now I feel a bit numb/confused/excited/scared!

TWW at 40 yrs old
Wingingitlife · 01/09/2025 13:24

@poppymangoyouve done so well to stick it out! I’ve been serial testing this month 😩 started at 7dpo and now I’m 10dpo and still negative. It’s only my second month trying and I don’t ever remember being this obsessed with my last pregnancy! Let us know how you get on if you do test! X

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poppymango · 01/09/2025 13:13

…I’ve just this moment realised that I didn’t get sore boobs or my “sad day” in the lead up to this period. I’m desperately trying not to read too much into that because I’ve been disappointed so many times before.

I got really good at being super chill and not thinking about it at all during the TWW but now that I’m at the point where I may be a bit late, I’m back to anxiety central 😂

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poppymango · 01/09/2025 11:56

Well I’m feeling a bit pre-periody so my hopes aren’t high this month, BUT both the cycle tracking apps which I use regularly are saying I’m just the teeniest tiniest bit late. Stardust says 2 days, Clue says 1 day.

Then again, last month my period came 2 days early, so I’m obviously not perfectly regular…

The question is, how many days do I wait before spending money on a test? Wednesday? Friday? I feel like I’m tempting fate just by posting this which is very very silly!

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Fullofconfusion · 07/08/2025 20:05

I’ve made it to 7DPO. Luckily with it being half term I’ve been too busy to obsessively symptom spot. I’d love to say I won’t test and will just wait to see what happens but I doubt I’ll actually stick to that!

Bumblebee1984 · 02/08/2025 09:15

@EmPeEfsp sorry about your chemical

Wingingitlife · 02/08/2025 08:39

@EmPeEfsorry about the chemical 😔

my af was due yesterday but hasn’t shown up and getting negative tests

Fullofconfusion · 02/08/2025 07:32

@lemonandsugarpancakesI’m sorry, I know that horrible feeling when you realise your period is here again and it’s another month missed. I took a break from the thread so not sure of your pregnancy journey. I hope it happens for you soon.

@EmPeEfI’m so sorry. I had a chemical earlier this year too. Miscarriage last month plus a TFMR last year. Honestly I feel like I’m trying to complete the worst bingo card ever! I’m not 2DPO so the long 2 week wait is ahead. Hopefully it’ll fly by and there’ll be a positive result at the end of it. Although as you say they are tainted with anxiety! Be kind to yourself

EmPeEf · 02/08/2025 03:11

@Fullofconfusion @lemonandsugarpancakes four days after the BFP I had another chemical pregnancy. Now on CD6 of the next cycle and OV testing in case it happens early. Had a record low LH test today so won’t be happening yet.

Three cycles, two pregnancies and two chemicals. I’ve recently read age doesn’t increase the likelihood of chemical pregnancies though, just other types of miscarriage. So I think our days of being excited at a BFP are over. It’ll just be anxiety.

lemonandsugarpancakes · 01/08/2025 23:11

My AF arrived - 2 days before my 41st bday so a lot of tears this morning.

@Fullofconfusion hope the timings work in your favour!

@EmPeEf yes, how did the digital go?