TWW at 40 yrs old

This is embarrassing but I have to just say it to hopefully a kind group of women who will understand.

I have emetophobia which is why I put off trying for so long. I felt so sick with my first pregnancy that I was petrified to do it again. And now I’ve left it too late (42) and just thinking I have to try again as I feel so much shame and regret. But now I’m reading all the stats about miscarriage and hoping if im even lucky enough to fall pregnant I don’t have weeks of sickness only to not be successful.

sorry for the over share. It sounds like such a petty problem but it’s life limiting. I’ve tried therapy (many times!) but still scared of being sick. Men are so lucky none of this has to be on their mind…

He thinks I’m going mad with all the testing….

Thanks for the advice. I DTD with my husband today anyway even though negative OPK! What’s the harm right? Will try testing again tomorrow

@EmberR I definitely second using a cup as opposed to dipping in steam.

I use the easy at home sticks and then only use the clear blue closer to ovulation days to double check since they are so expensive.
I also second using second morning urine. I found that best for me as surges can happen any time of the day

Hi can I join, I'm 40 and ttc #3. This is our first proper month of trying although came off the pill beginning April and didn't really prevent that month. I'm currently 4dpo and everyone's favourite time, the tww. I fell pregnant with my son at 37 on cycle 3 but know given my age it could take longer this time.so not expecting anything this month but still hopeful. We go on holiday in 3 weeks though so if not pregnant it means no holiday symptoms and can enjoy a few drinks

@EmberR i use the wondfo ovulation tests from day 9-14 and second morning urine and I’ve always caught my positive around day 11/12 and my temp confirms it too
maybe worth a try if no luck with the clear blue

@Daisychains9 thank you for sharing your story - sorry to hear you’ve been so unwell and hope you’re better!! Xx

Thanks for your advice @Vplop I’ll try that!!

I had that issue too until I started peeing in a cup and dipping the test strip in, instead of peeing on the strip directly. I also use the clear blue digital. Maybe you could try that instead.

@Daisychains9 sorry you've been so poorly lately. Sending you lots of luck this cycle.

@EmberR looks negative . Do you usually ovulate around same cycle day

hi, sorry I missed this! I'm just going to copy and past from an early post of mine in March this year which tells my story. I am now however 40, not 39 (April birthday!). All my fingers crossed for you and I hope this helps xx

"Hi everyone, it has been really comforting to read everyone's experiences on here and thank you for being such a lovely and supportive group. I am 39, about to turn 40 in a couple of weeks. I had my first son when I just turned 38. It was a fairly easy conception. Prior to this I had had one miscarriage and an eptopic pregnancy (fallopian tube removed). We tried again on his first birthday and I got pregnant straight away. I then had a miscarriagege at 6 weeks which was not picked up until 12 weeks and a failed operation but it eventually resolved.
I became very sick with unrelated infections (including pneumonia) and was in hospital for about a month over the period of two months. It has taken a long time to recover and during that time I was advised not to TTC. I am starting to feel better and have the green light to TTC.
I have just had some fertility tests done and my AMH has fallen dramatically (maybe because of having been so unwell), but my follical count is 12. The advice has been that I can try natually for another month but I need to start IVF if it does not work. I have my fingers crossed I will concieve this month, I have been taking all supplements etc and eating well.
It has just felt like such a rough ride and so many months of not being able to try. But fingers crossed."

Did a Boots OPK test and got this. But did a clear blue OPK test and it was just a circle? I’m confused. Is this boots one saying I am fertile or no?

At what point do you let it go and just move on? We’re starting to think about adoption and fostering

It’s lovely to have a forum just to vent and share thoughts with no judgement. Thanks all. I just send you all love and best wishes for the right outcome xx

Hi ladies. I'm currently on cd8 . I think this might be our last month trying naturally for a while. We're going to go ahead and attempt one last round of ivf again but they want to put me on contraception for a few months until we start. Seems like it's defeating the purpose.
Hope everyone is feeling ok

Oh totally. I'm always trying to look for some positives (might have been a BFN last month, but at least I'm building up knowledge about how to increase my chances of a BFP later down the line...) but some days the heavier and sadder thoughts creep in about whether or not I'm just kidding myself that any of this is progress.

I had a major wobble (and a bit of an ugly cry) last week when DH found out his best mate is expecting again. Totally unexpected and unplanned, and less than a year after they had their first. You're not alone x

This whole process sucks doesn’t it! Especially being our age and every month it not working feeling like it’s less likely… sorry feeling grumpy about it today

I'm on CD10 and since finishing my period 5 days ago have had a lot more watery/sticky cervical mucus than during any of our previous four TTC cycles. My cycles also seem to be shortening (down from 60 days to 38 for the last one), so I'm taking all this as a win that after stopping the pill in January that my body is getting things back on track.

Good luck @MrBigsCat all sounds positive!

I am testing with clear blue ovulation kit but still just circle - no flashing face… I am on day 11 so I thought I would be ovulating soon??

3dpo here
hows everyone else doing?
had quite a strong ovulation this month- pain on both ovaries then a bit of blood on O day so hoping it’s the acupuncture making everything stronger.

finished my 6th acupuncture session now too so the doc said 2-3 months my hormones should be balanced and ready for a pregnancy 🤞🏻

Huge congrats @Daisychains9 ❤️

Do you mind me asking your age and how long you’ve been trying? I’m needing some hope. Had some light pink blood on wipe this morning so looking like AF is here- CD28 and 11DPO.

Thank you xx

Thank you xx

Thank you, I hope so too! X