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Tips on how to not test before missed period

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Laria19 · 18/02/2025 17:00

I tested early on my two pregnancies before and had two successful pregnancies then I had an early miscarriage and a chemical miscarriage last year and I was trying my hardest not to test early because of the heartbreak I experienced from the last two times. I’ve been trying this month and hoping I get a positive next month but I don’t know how I am going to stop myself from testing early, I worry so much after having the miscarriages anyone else finding it hard not to test so early x

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curliegirlie · 10/03/2025 21:27

Thanks ladies. Annoyingly, in my healthcare trust, you can't just contact or rock up at EPU to get an appointment - the initial call needs to be made by a GP. So I had to make an emergency dr's appt this morning, so they could call EPU, so they could call me to arrange an appointment! Absolute madness! And then the only time EPU could give me for tomorrow was 8.30am (right in the middle of the school run!) so I now have to wait until Wednesday morning 😕. I'm really not confident about a positive outcome as I think my tests should be darker than they are. I wouldn't be surprised if it stopped developing at around the time I had the short bleed the previous weekend. Everything looked on track before then...

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Laria19 · 10/03/2025 20:16

Same thinking of you @curliegirlie

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LaTable · 10/03/2025 18:19

Thinking of you, how did it go today @curliegirlie?

LaTable · 10/03/2025 12:30

I think in England it depends on the area, but most of them you can call and self refer, particularly if you've had previous mc's. It's maybe worth a try if the doctor wasn't much help @curliegirlie?
I'm so sorry you're going through this, it's such a horrible stressful thing especially not knowing what exactly is happening.

@LucyLou0527 I mean you're getting closer but there is still a small chance of a bfp? But I get what you mean with having it over and being able to just start fresh next month. Every bfn is such a kicker when ttc. It never gets easier

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Laria19 · 10/03/2025 11:02

Oh no sorry to hear that @curliegirlie how far along are you ? Was the bleed light or heavy ?where are you based, I know in Ireland you can just go straight into the maternity hospital to get checked

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curliegirlie · 10/03/2025 10:26

Well, I started bleeding yesterday, so currently sat in the GP waiting room, hoping they can refer me onto EPU. I'm really not feeling optimistic about things. Life is fucking cruel sometimes.

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Laria19 · 10/03/2025 10:07

im feeling good so far how about you 😊 @LaTable Hmmm did you try test today ? 🫤 @LucyLou0527 could be implantation bleeding ?

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LucyLou0527 · 10/03/2025 08:36

I was 13dpo yesterday and wiped pink once, no AF yet, so annoying! I just want to move on now x

LaTable · 10/03/2025 07:04

Hope you're all feeling good today!

LaTable · 08/03/2025 19:06

Hahaha this thing went through my head too. But I also know I'd rather see any sch's early if its going to happen again.... its a tricky one!
But I also have to see the doctor before 10 weeks to get the paperwork in for the french system 😑
And if he did what he did last time he does the forst scan to make sure it's in the right place
So even if I wanted yo wait till 12 weeks I probably couldn't.
You've got more will power than I do!

curliegirlie · 08/03/2025 18:55

Yes, to be honest I'd be scared that any earlier ones may just provide false reassurance. So I'd rather wait it out, tortuous as it may seem.

LaTable · 08/03/2025 18:53

Will 12 weeks be your first scan?

curliegirlie · 08/03/2025 18:45

LaTable · 08/03/2025 10:54

Doing well!
Feel like it's been forever since Wednesday af due.... its going to be a long 8 more weeks 😅😅
Got another birthday prep and tile grouting to do today though so that should keep me busy
How are you?
@LucyLou0527 any bfp?

@LaTable I also feel that I've known for a million years yet it is also a million years until my 12 week scan!

LaTable · 08/03/2025 14:16

Hahahaha I'd be at the airport bathroom waiting for him 😅

Orangelover · 08/03/2025 13:47

Window has moved as my period was day early according to my app Sad

I'm doing my OPKs and channelling ovulation delay vibes Grin as soon as he walks through the door I've told him I don't care about jet lag he's getting on with it Blush

LaTable · 08/03/2025 13:33

Hahaha house renovating 😅 it's never ending.

I thought he was back for the tail end of fertility week @Orangelover ?

Orangelover · 08/03/2025 12:38

Congratulations on the BFPs!

It's another no hoper for me this month as DH on a work trip in the US for the whole fertile window. Sure I'll still do some tests though just to waste some money when the time comes Grin

April is my month Wink

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Laria19 · 08/03/2025 12:35

Wow your a busy woman @LaTable yes I know the next couple of weeks will feel like an eternity, I get to have a 6 week scan because of the miscarriages so hopefully I can make it to that. @LucyLou0527 Maybe you ovulated late ? But yes roothing for the rest of you girls, hopefully next month is the month you get lucky 😊x

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LaTable · 08/03/2025 12:13

Aw bummer, I mean there is still time but probably not looking great this month you're right

Absolutely routing for you and @Orangelover for next month 🤞

LucyLou0527 · 08/03/2025 12:09

I’m 12 dpo and still bfn.. guessing I’m out this month guys 🥲x

LaTable · 08/03/2025 10:54

Doing well!
Feel like it's been forever since Wednesday af due.... its going to be a long 8 more weeks 😅😅
Got another birthday prep and tile grouting to do today though so that should keep me busy
How are you?
@LucyLou0527 any bfp?

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Laria19 · 08/03/2025 08:39

How is everyone?Hope you are all keeping well ☺️

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Laria19 · 06/03/2025 19:15

Ah I was like that on my first child 😂not so much on my second so it will interesting to see what I will be like on my third lol.Totally get why your worried about bleeding as well I do worry about it too.

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LaTable · 06/03/2025 14:22

So is it just me whose libido goes crazy when pregnant but currently too terrified of actually doing anything about it because it's still so early and I don't wanna bleed ? 😅😅😅🙈

LaTable · 05/03/2025 20:22

If you don't have a stash of previously peed on sticks from the last / current cycle are you even ttc? 🤣