TTC for those taking longer than average

@Marie1990xgoodluck today will be thinking of you! 🙏

@Marie1990xthats great hope it stays that way and was just a one off! Prob not but my husband doesn’t want to find out anyway id love to 🤣 if I knew for definite id give it away tho im a terrible liar! I was in bed to 12.30 today I am crippled with migraines 🥺

@Marie1990xyea it’s horrible that’s how I was aswell so sick in the evenings so I would just go to bed 🤣

@Marie1990xah u poor thing, hate that dreading look at the toilet roll to check 🥺 I still be at it but try and force myself to just throw it straight down the toilet 🤣 roll on Thursday! Xx

@Marie1990xthank god not long to wait! Have you had any more since? If not, that’s great! Iv had quite a few instances of spotting and bleeding this pregnancy so far! Great your mam can go with you it’s not nice to go to those things alone if worrying 🤞🏻

@Marie1990xtry not worry about the cramping I’m still getting it now at this stage! 🙈 just all business down there I’m afraid 🤣 yep il be 14+4 at that scan! How’s your nausea etc? Xx

@Marie1990xoh no! But look totally normal, and brown blood is old blood. How many weeks now 8/9? Try not panic, I know how hard that is tho. Any pain? My nausea seems to have gone this week which is great but of course wondering why 🙈 only 6 days til scan so waiting patiently for that!

Hi @AgnesTTC sorry to hear this. NHS consultants can be quite blunt can't they! Mine told me to stop being stressed, but after a year of trying with no positive results wouldn't you be Dr?
It must be so hard experiencing this loss time after time. Wishing the best for the investigations, I'm really hopeful for you that one sticks xx

I’m weepy every time before BFP. Maybe you’re hormonal? Isn’t it crazy how welcome all the horrid side effects of pregnancy are if only it would mean a pregnancy?
In how I’m doing news.. Early miscarriage physically sucks, mentally I prefer it to not knowing and wondering and hoping. Today my NHS consultant called and said that she has to worn me that I’m 41 and IVF might not help. I f…ing went to them when I was 38! WTF?
On positive news BUPA usually covers up to £1500 for recurring miscarriage investigations. Not for fertility tests directly but more around thyroid, blood clots etc. Not NK cells or genes screening.

Thanks all. I think there is a high dose of CoQ-10 in Proceive Max, I started this last month but was on a lower form of CoQ-10 for past 7 months or so.
Thought I was feeling a lot better this week after reaching out on here but I'm 7dpo and cried in front of my reflexologist this morning. Only met her once, yikes!
Kind of just willing my period to come next week so I can get the HyCoSy done.
How is everyone else doing?

I second the Coq-10. Every reaserch I did recommended it. But also Vit D. I went to my GP for a blood panel send the husband as well. Worth it to check for any deficiency. If they don’t want to do it, just say you’re exhausted all the time, and that it’s not normal for you.

@CoolSummer89I’m glad you’re on the IVF list, hope it goes really well! I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you 🤞

@Daniki thank you. I hope they help. Just in case you guys where wondering. Initial conversation £370, tests £1600-£3000, and then the costs start… IVF £3950.
Not cheap.
@CoolSummer89 Thank you I will definitely watch both! I convinced my husband of the no drinking no junk food and supplements by telling him that placenta is formed mostly from his DNA, and he is responsible for our baby growing and developing correctly, beyond just my genes/his genes. He got on board really fast after I pointed out that for him it’s a few months, for me the trying + pregnancy + breastfeeding is 2 years of being good.
Also I’m glad you offloaded here. My best friend has endometriosis and couldn’t have a baby, I feel like it’s to cruel to try to talk to her, I don’t want to cause her pain.

@CoolSummer89yea you’re right to get it checked, imagine that was the issue and it could be fixed! Our clinic wanted all those tests done before we started, it’s best to know what they’re working with! I didn’t find the experience too overwhelming, i hope you’re the same! 🥰

Thank you for your kind words @Daniki it's been very encouraging to see your IVF success.
My fertility doctor said I didn't need a HyCoSy because fallopian tubes don't matter for IVF. However on Friday I emailed the reception team and asked if I could have one anyway as it might diagnose why natural conception isn't happening, and they said sure and to ring them on my first day of my period. Hope I'm not going against doctors orders! Ultimately it's cheaper for them (this is NHS funded) if I get pregnant naturally.

@CoolSummer89hey! Welcome back and sorry you have not had any progress, it’s the worst place to be 😟 yep, I was taking NMN sublingual powder, I got it from Youth & Earth website and they usually have a good 25% welcome discount on their site. Could be worthwhile your hubby taking it too as it does help with dna damage, just incase his sperm may not be as great as it could be. It’s just as important and I think men tend to overlook this as it’s all down to the woman 🙄 I hit the hurdle with my own! 🤣 nice you have had a start date, and they would want you to get a hycosy anyway I’m sure to have all avenues explored before starting. Hopefully if you do get one, the flush is all you need to be successful!

@AgnesTTC I am so sorry to see that you have had multiple chemicals. That must be so upsetting and I completely understand why you want to keep testing each month!

Have you watched Celebrity Save Our Sperm on Channel 4? Ollie Locke's surrogate kept having early miscarriages and a fertility doctor showed him that he had high levels of dna fragmentation, he did some lifestyle changes for 3 months and then his surrogate carried his and his husbands babies to full term:

https://www.channel4.com/programmes/celebrity-save-our-sperm

I know it's not everything, but might be worth doing some lifestyle changes before reaching out to an expensive fertility doctor. Although I totally understand that it's good to have the reassurance from an expert.

Hi ladies, it's been ages since I posted on these threads but I had such a wobble on Friday. I feel much better now but still wanted to reach out to some familiar names on here.
I read the entire thread and so delighted to see that both of you guys @Daniki and @Marie1990x are currently pregnant!
I have been TTC number 1 since Jan 2024 and haven't had a single positive pregnancy test in that time. A couple of months ago it really began to cause a rift in my relationship as my husband and I were kinda blaming each other. He was not eating well and binge drinking most weekends, and I was imploring him with all these studies on how alcohol and processed food are really bad. He thought that I was stressing out too much. For what it's worth I thought I was doing quite a good job at self-soothing, but TTC is just stressful. It's all the uncertainty and the waiting, especially when it's over a year and no two lines. Cycles are regular and all tests have come back within normal parameters for both of us. I've just turned 36.
Last month I found out my best friend is pregnant and the flood gates have opened. I am delighted for her, she didn't think she could get pregnant until I shared the tips with her that I learned from this forum. But at the same time of course it's very painful for me. I feel like I am back at square one, but now I feel a sense of pressure because I would love us to have babies of a similar age - that's the dream, right?
I am 5dpo and this TWW has been the hardest yet, I don't think I have ever found it this agonising and I have been doing this for 16 months!
We are now on the waiting list for IVF, been told to expect July-ish. @Daniki would you mind sharing the powder you were taking for egg quality? I am already on Proceive Max as of two months ago.

• Husband for his part has agreed to give up drinking for 3 months (or until after IVF), after he saw how conflicted/distressed I was when I found out my friend's news.
• We are doing 90% home-cooked meals now with lots of veggies/antioxidants
• I am going to Reflexology twice a month to encourage a bit of relaxation.
• I was doing some research into HyCoSy - the only test I haven't had - and saw that one study showed about 40% of women who had one after a year of trying got pregnant within a few months of having one. And the fertility clinic has said I can have one next month if not successful this month. I was excited when I saw you were booked for one @Marie1990x but then I saw you got pregnant the month before anyway!