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TTC for those taking longer than average

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Marie1990x · 07/02/2025 11:43

@daniki @RRAEE @whatdoyouthink123456 @carolinep3

Went to reply on the other thread but it’s full!!!

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Marie1990x · 09/02/2025 20:31

@Daniki absolutely much darker than the first test! I can’t believe you’re managing to keep it from him 😂😂. When I got my BFP with DD I struggled keeping it from him a few hours until he got home from work 😅.

These iron tablets are playing havoc with me. Was getting awful cramps on them last week so started taking them alternate days. Had one today and now getting cramps on just one side of my abdomen/hip/lower back. Thinking whether to just stop but keep trying to tell myself it’ll be worth it. Had them during pregnancy and had to stop as they made me sooo uncomfortable

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Daniki · 09/02/2025 20:07

@Marie1990x and no haven't told him yet but just hold out 🤣

Daniki · 09/02/2025 20:07

@Marie1990x yea it fried a bit darker thankfully so trying to just reassure myself it's all fine 🤣 yea every 48 hours so it is technically darker thankfully the first one 🤣 xx

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Marie1990x · 09/02/2025 20:02

@Daniki oops didn’t tag you in that

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Marie1990x · 09/02/2025 20:02

Oh I think that looks fine? It’s not got any lighter from what I can tell in the photos. Is it every 48 hours it doubles?
So if it’s just been a day then I’d try not to worry. Of course completely understand the anxiety and stress of it though. Have you told your husband yet?
Congratulations on those beautiful lines 🥰 (I don’t think I even said it when you mentioned your first faint line!!)

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Daniki · 09/02/2025 19:45

@Marie1990x hopefully it's implantation 🤞🏻🤞🏻 I looked at the test again and it seems to be the same as yesterdays, il attach it below. I couldn't find my sharpie to write on them 🤣 yes it was so rough, and I'm usually good being around pregnant people as quite a few of my close friends are, and just had babies but this was so different 🙈

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Marie1990x · 09/02/2025 18:38

@Daniki also fml that must have been hell having to sit through that whilst knowing her due date was the same as yours! What are the chances 😣

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Marie1990x · 09/02/2025 18:37

@Daniki haha this is true, get it out of the way and hopefully give me a good nudge in the right direction. Nope haven’t tested yet. This weekend has been hectic so it’s taken my mind off it.
I did have a really really small amount of brown cm earlier. Think it’s too early to be any form of implantation and it was minuscule.

Oh no! Was it a diluted sample? Hopefully it’s just that and nothing more. How do you feel? Any symptoms?

@whatdoyouthink123456 those things are never easy. I don’t think people know how mentally tormenting it is for us that already luckily have a child and struggling.
I find myself getting worked up when I see pregnancy announcements but I try to think to myself that they might not have had an easy ride either. Makes me feel a bit better, whilst obviously envious at the same time 😅

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Daniki · 09/02/2025 18:08

@Marie1990x defo good to get it checked plus you would need it done if you ever need to go for IVF. A good tube flushing does everyone the world of good 🤣 have ya started testing yet? I tested again there and it's a bit lighter than yest so obv now I'm worrying 🙈 why can't we ever leave it at one test 🤣 glad I haven't told my husband tho just incase it goes the way of a chemical.

@whatdoyouthink123456 I hate those situations too, at work we had a new teacher start in sep. I had a miscarriage in oct and when i returned to work she told us all she was pregnant and we had the same due date. I honestly nearly got sick I had to leave and run to the toilet and burst into tears. Even now I find it hard to engage convo with her about anything baby related and as it's her first and I have a son she asks me loads of questions 🙈

whatdoyouthink123456 · 09/02/2025 17:39

Errrggh iv just had a really shitty day. I took my son to a party where he was pretty much the only 'single' child. Most had siblings or very pregnant mums there.

Then went to a catch up with NCT group where pretty much everyone has a 2nd! And one was telling the group that she was pregnant.

I'm happy for everyone and logically I know it makes no difference to my life as I barely spend time with this mum. But it just makes me feel soo shitty. I could hear her telling people around me but I could just feel the upset and panic rising in me. I just wanted to leave so I didn't have to put on an enthusiastic show about how happy I am for them ☹️

My partner is just like 'hopefully we'l be next'! I'd love to feel his positivity but I just feels impossible at this point!

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Marie1990x · 09/02/2025 09:26

@Daniki that’s so funny 😂. I love how we all do secret testing and husbands don’t have a clue how obsessive they are.
That would be so nice to give him on Valentine’s Day. Not going to lie I have day dreamed about being able to give a positive test to husband then too 😂.

After my hycosy we’ll have our follow up appointment and get the medication. Unless something shows up on it I guess? I wish I didn’t have to have that procedure though as I’d probably already have had the medication by now without it. But because I had a traumatic birth with my daughter and she had sepsis, he wants to check I didn’t somehow get an infection that's gone unnoticed and harmed my tubes

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Daniki · 09/02/2025 09:09

@Marie1990x no digital yet, might next week. I haven't actually told my husband iv tested positive, he thinks I'm being restrained. My beta is Friday so thinking of doing a digital and giving it to him as a valentines present before we go if I can hold it in that long 🤣
When will you find out and get started? Xx

Cosycardiganandteaandtoast · 09/02/2025 09:05

Can I join?
im trying over 18 months now
ive got dc but the is my first with a new partner.
all tests have come back normal, im almost 40 though so i think age is just making things take that bit longer

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Marie1990x · 09/02/2025 08:22

@Daniki haha I think you hit the nail on the head. Nothing would ever get done in general if I waited for him to make decisions 😂.
Yeah I said I’d do 3-6 months on the medication (apparently it can take up to 3 months to even get into your system properly), don’t even know what course length I’m being given.

Have you tested with a digital yet? Or is it too early?

@PeachPombear oh maybe it’s because you had a pregnancy? Do they “start the clock” again so to speak with any pregnancy no matter the outcome? Which is daft in itself!
Where are you in your cycle now?

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PeachPombear · 08/02/2025 23:13

Marie1990x · 07/02/2025 21:29

Oh no way that’s ridiculous! So sorry they’re not being more helpful in this. I always thought it was the year mark they’d start investigations no matter what circumstances?
I’ve said it a few times but I really do think it’s pot luck who your GP is, so unfair!

Would you consider private investigations? X

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I don’t know what to do at the minute.

We have sort of let things slide health wise since the late miscarriage. The GP seemed optimistic that she would hope I was successful in 6 months as I did get pregnant before and it should have continued as a successful pregnancy.

Daniki · 08/02/2025 22:41

@Marie1990x god men are just oblivious aren't they! 😩 altho he could be like mine and waiting for you to take the reigns with it? I just decided basically and booked a consult and he was like ok 🤣 I hope you get to do the med & trigger cycles if this doesn't work out. I'd give it 3 goes and then move on! But hoping the sore boobs are a positive sign 🤗

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Marie1990x · 08/02/2025 22:27

I’ve just had the IVF convo with my husband. Didn’t get anywhere 😂. His response was “I don’t think we’ll need it”. As much as I appreciate the positive attitude, it’s been over 2 years with nothing so is he just oblivious or optimistic.
Obviously I’ll attempt the medication when I eventually get it, but asked if he’d consider it if that didn’t work and it was a “we’ll see, but still don’t think it’s necessary” 😣

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Marie1990x · 08/02/2025 22:15

@Daniki eeek so happy for you! You deserve this so much after everything and hoping it’s a happy and healthy time ahead 🥰.

My boobs are in absolute bits tonight. It’s definitely too early for any symptom spotting pregnancy wise, but makes me hope more that I’ve actually ovulated. The last time I had them this bad was the time I typically got tested and showed I ovulated, very rarely get it.
I never had sore boobs with DD so won’t get carried away now 🤣

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Daniki · 08/02/2025 21:40

@whatdoyouthink123456 oh that's tough both on your body and mentally! You never know protocols change, a diff doctor, a new partner you never know! I took NMN supplements for 3 months prior to boost my egg quality and it brought up my AMH. I really think it helped and that's why we got so many good grade embryos, altho they're not tested so could all be duds 🙈 iv had 4 mcs so far so I'm really hoping at least one embryo sticks!

@Marie1990x I did and it was darker 🥹 xx

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Marie1990x · 08/02/2025 18:51

@whatdoyouthink123456 aww thank you ♥️. Trust me I’ll turn psychotic in a few days with all the testing 😂. One min I feel positive and then the next think if it hasn’t happened in this long, why would this month be any different. If I ever got a BFP again I think I’d pass out in disbelief.

Do you think you’d do ivf again? I’m really considering it but at the same time so scared it wouldn’t work out and don’t know if I could take it.

@Daniki have you tested again yet??? 🤞🏻

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whatdoyouthink123456 · 08/02/2025 18:26

@Marie1990x you are holding out well. I really hope you get some good news 🤞🏻

I'm only CD8 and I normally don't ovulate until around CD15-20! Errghh it's soo annoying that all it takes is one amazing month to change your life. So close, yet soo far 🫠

whatdoyouthink123456 · 08/02/2025 18:22

@Daniki that's really positive. I'm sorry about last year, that's really tough. I really hope this time is for you. It's looks great already if you are getting faint positives ✨

I did 2 fresh rounds and never got past day 3 transfers which didn't stick, with nothing to freeze either time. The whole thing was just disappointing.

I wonder if it would go the same again 🤔

Daniki · 08/02/2025 16:48

@Marie1990x I was the same with my son actually! It's just an addiction 🤣 after buying a heap of them in boots there so I'm test tonight 🤣

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Marie1990x · 08/02/2025 16:24

@Daniki hahaha Tuesday at the latest 😂. I’m shocking with it. Don’t know why I bother as I’m sure it wasn’t until 12dpo that I got a BFP with my daughter

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Daniki · 08/02/2025 14:44

@Marie1990x there is no denying that CD16! 🙌🏻 so 4dpo today we can expect testing to begin Tuesday 🤣😉 xx