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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Marie1990x · 07/02/2025 11:43

@daniki @RRAEE @whatdoyouthink123456 @carolinep3

Went to reply on the other thread but it’s full!!!

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 22:12

@Daniki yeahhh I’ve heard similar. I don’t know anyone personally that’s had one though so don’t have much info on it first hand. We’ll see anyway. I actually psychotically worked out that if we conceived in that April cycle it would be a Xmas day date according to apps, so I’d like to avoid that anyway 🤣 not that I can be picky in my situation

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Keirii94 · 11/02/2025 22:10

@Marie1990x so annoying!! The fertility team haven’t been as helpful as I was hoping so far - just felt a bit disjointed - one minute they want to do a hycosy before meds then the next they want to do an ultrasound then appointment then discuss hycosy again so I feel a bit lost with it all!! I’ll test again end of the week if AF doesn’t arrive!

I’ve seen some of your posts after - hope everything goes well for you! And I totally get the frustration of other people getting pregnant so easily, it’s very difficult when half the time they’re not even trying and I’m like I just want one chance please!

Daniki · 11/02/2025 21:58

@Marie1990x supposed to be great for flushing out everything from the tubes, my doc said a lot of women fell pregnant after it alone 🤞🏻

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 21:16

@Daniki jeez! It just seems so unfair doesn’t it. Stories like that just rub me up the wrong way.

From what I’ve read it says it’s because it will flush out any egg etc that’s present, but if we’re avoiding it then anyway I’m sure it’ll be fine. That would give them around 2 weeks to book my follow up and get my prescription before AF so I can start the meds asap 😂

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 20:53

@Marie1990x I know that's the unjustness of it all! Reading a story earlier about a woman who found out she was 17 weeks pregnant after a weekend on the booze and coke, I was just raging reading it 🤣🙈 yea I think I remember from fine it's usually done around days 2-12 or so? Cuz I was rightly done on mine aswell I thought it affect it but was fine! Xx

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 20:41

@Daniki what a div I counted this month as March, so yes I can do the next cycle 🤣. Yeah it’s the 10th April. I’m a bit skeptical as it says to have it the first part of your cycle before ovulation, if my apps are right I’d have literally just ovulated a few days before, or even could be around then as my cycles differ by a few days month to month. The lady who booked it said as long as I’m not on then it’s fine, she never mentioned ovulation it’s just from what I read in my referral letter afterwards.

Oh completely understand how neither of you want to get your hopes up after everything. It’s fucking gut wrenching.

oh god don’t even get my started with how easy it is for others and the frustration of it. Honestly it boils my pee. Rationally I know it’s not their fault, but it’s not our fault either.

i had a mini breakdown last cycle to my husband saying wtf am I doing wrong? I eat healthily, exercise, don’t excessively drink or smoke but nope 😅. It’s getting me wound up now just typing this 😂😂

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 18:53

It's in April is it? Were you given a date? Haha he's the same in he doesn't like to get his hopes up either been dashed too many times now at this stage 🙈 just hate how it's so hard for us when women get pregnant so easily elsewhere 😓

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 18:39

@Daniki ahh bless him! He does right keeping it to himself, knows better than to question a pregnant lady (even if he doesn’t know this yet 😂).

Time will tell. You’d think after so long I’d be used to it and not get my hopes up 😂.

I think next month we have to refrain from ttc so it doesn’t mess with the hycosy

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 18:23

@Marie1990x he hasn't said anything but he prob knows rightly but isn't asking as he keeping his hopes up too 😂🫣 well I hope you prove yourself wrong this month 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 18:04

@Keirii94 ahh that’s so annoying that you’re having sickness but bfn’s! Have the fertility team been helpful?
Yeah PCOS is just the most frustrating thing, can definitely sympathise with you on that one.

Will you keep testing until AF shows?

@Daniki yeah I think it is to do with protecting myself. Was so positive around ovulation but negativity is definitely seeping in.

At least if you haven’t got any in then you can’t be tempted to test.
Had you husband sussed you out yet with testing 🤣?

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 16:27

@Marie1990x I feel it's easier to be in that negative mind space to protect your feelings and because it's gone on so long but defo don't give up hope! 🤞🏻iv got no tests left now, I think I'm going leave it and test again Thursday eve as I'll defo be in town then tk get some more and hoping the break relaxes me a bit 🤣

Keirii94 · 11/02/2025 15:01

@Marie1990x thank you!! I’m 11dpo I think/hope - it’s very frustrating having PCOS as you probably know but yes glad the metformin is finally doing something! It’s reassuring what you’ve said about LH too :) I was sick again this morning which is so weird, but still negative tests and the gp has said to contact the fertility team so sorting that out

hope you’re well!

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 14:57

@Daniki ahh thanks, I’ve lost all hope again. Don’t know why.

Urgh feel for you with the migraines. Really really hoping it’s still progressing nicely for you. Ttc is just awful isn’t it, even after that BFP!

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 13:55

@Marie1990x ooh I'm really hoping this is all positive steps for you!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 I think I did the last time but I'm incredibly prone to migraines anyway I always get them prior and after period and also I got a severe one the day I had the miscarriage in October so hopefully not ominous 🥲 but I did get one around 4dp on that transfer too!

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 13:41

@Daniki did you have similar in your previous pregnancies?

It’s still a bit browny but don’t think as much. Google says it can happen after ovulation. Maybe I’ve always had it and just never noticed it.
Boobs are still in bits and now my nips too 😂

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 13:14

@Marie1990x not really I had a bad migraine the day I tested which made me test! But other than that not really cramps here and there and the odd sore boob! But progesterone and estrogen aswell so could be that. What about the brown cm any more instances?

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 11:46

@Daniki haha yes might as well buy a digital while you’re at it 😂. Can’t help ourselves!

I’m absolutely ravenous today and can’t stop eating 😅. Normal for me in the tww though so nothing new.

Have you had any symptoms other than obviously the BFP’s 😊

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 10:53

@Marie1990x sure can resist a test when it's right there in front of us 🤣 I actually need more vitamins too, so il defo end up in boots tomorrow when I'm doing the food shopping and will buy a heap, and a digital to boot!

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 10:45

@Daniki i still think it looks good for 13dpo, but that’s just going by my past ones. This was mine at 12dpo with DD and yours is much darker!

We just love to torture ourselves, clearly!

I’ve just been to get more vitamins in boots and ended up buying some more tests 🤦🏻‍♀️ literally don’t even need them but couldn’t resist

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 09:40

@Marie1990x it would be the equivalent to 13dpo! Haha god I do the same we're awful to ourselves! 😆 I really am jealous of people who have are so carefree over it all and get pregnant and keep it at the drop of a hat 🙈

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 09:33

@Daniki we’re all guilty of over googling 😂. Every tww I google to find someone with a similar twinge and then keep going until I found one with a positive outcome 😅.

I genuinely do think today’s is your darkest though, definitely not getting any lighter anyway. What DPO would it be equivalent to?

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 09:29

@Marie1990x I'm not sure tbh I thought not, as when I had a chemical it was like my first test and just was gone then but through my incessant googling 🤪 I discovered a post of someone's who's tests got really dark up until a point and then just faded out. Wish I never read it 🤣

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 09:16

@Daniki i think that definitely looks a bit darker! Would a chemical even be that strong in the first place? Surely not. I really really hope not 🤞🏻🤞🏻

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Daniki · 11/02/2025 09:04

@Marie1990x yep, I duno what to think it seems the same? Thinking possible chemical. I might leave it and test tomorrow night and see if there is a change 🥲 you're so far from out yet 🙂

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Marie1990x · 11/02/2025 09:03

@Daniki did you re-test? 🤞🏻.

BFN for me today, not even an evap this time 😂. Don’t know why it still frustrates me when I know it’s unlikely to show anything even if something’s going on in there.

@Keirii94 welcome 😊. Oh wowwww 170 days!!! It sounds like the metformin seems to be doing its job through which is great news!
I believe you will always have some LH throughout your cycle? There’s definitely always some in mine and even occasionally a high in the tww. But I have PCOS as well so not sure if it’s related to that. Also read before that it’s normal to get a random spike in the tww, too.

what DPO are you now?

Literally feel free to vent here as much as you like. It’s nice to have a safe space to get it off your chest with people in similar boats 😊. If I said half of this stuff to my friends they’d think I’m crazy 😂

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