TTC Feb 2025

But to caveat that I have become a big tea drinker and drink more coffee now!
I don’t really worry about the tablets paracetamol etc is that meant to effect early pregnancy? Seems crazy cause they give you much stronger tablets in labour! 😂

I’m much more relaxed going in to 2nd time around 😂

Sorry can’t help here either, I stopped drinking 18mths ago. Health benefits more than anything and with a small child could not deal with the hangover/tiredness 😂 it wasn’t worth it and I just didn’t enjoy it, one glass of wine would give me a headache.

resulted in me eating a lot more chocolate though!! 😂 that’s normally my weekend treat now.

I’m due my period on Valentine’s Day too ladies. Also not been drinking as got diagnosed with IBS last year and it is such a trigger for me. I’d have one glass if out socially though.

I go with the view that the odd glass or two won't hurt as long as i'm not going mad every weekend!
Mind you, I don't know if it has any effect or not as we're still TTC our 1st 😆

When I stopped drinking I used to have tonic and a squeeze of lime or grapefruit in it. For me it tasted basically the same as a G&T and gave me that signal to chill out at the end of the day.

I've now graduated to a rooibos teas and usually something sweet. Not sure either is particularly healthy though!

I don’t drink, i simply never found anything i liked the taste of and didn’t need to dilute with heaps of coke or something. My guilty pleasure is chocolate and crisps at night in front of the tv. I do worry about tablets tho wile ttc because i would take the odd ibuprofen for headaches and ibs pain. But i guess it’s probably a case don’t worry about it until you’ve a little someone to worry about.

That’s a good frame of mind you have. I was disappointed anyway knowing my period was coming on Valentine’s Day even before we decided to try in December (im a serious planner lol) i’d checked well in advance dear knows why 🤦🏼‍♀️😂💝💌.

I'm going to try and stay positive - either, we have some lovely news to celebrate on Valentine's Day, OR, we let ourselves feel all we need to feel around lack of nice news and let that cement our intentions moving into cycle 2. Easy for me to say that seeing as it's our first cycle of trying... (and my partner's first ever cycle of TTC). This isn't my first rodeo, so I know how it feels to go through the disappointment loop, and whilst I have no idea how he might react, I think he could be more emotional than he thinks he'll be... if that makes sense. He's a sensitive soul!

Can I ask you ladies what you're doing about alcohol consumption? During stressful periods of my life (!!!) I'm partial to a glass of wine or two. When I was last TTC with ex-H, I didn't abstain from alcohol and, didn't get pregnant.

I did Dry January last month and actually really felt good about it (despite hoping I'd lose loads of weight as a result... which didn't happen!). I had a glass of wine on Saturday night but just didn't really enjoy it. I'm happy to stay off alcohol, for the wider health benefits as well as helping with conception. But, just wondered if anyone else has found an alternative for what I often used wine for which is to signal that it's 'switch off time' if you know what I mean? Having a glass of wine has been my way of knowing it's time for me to chill out, relax, not think about work etc. and I feel like I could do with a healthier option to have the same effect?

I enjoy the LH testing too. I think there’s less pressure or something, maybe i enjoy seeing the line (i might buzz off that bit lol)

I thought to myself “this will either make or break my Valentine’s Day” lol. I hate the first two day of my period so if it comes it’ll be bang on Valentine’s Day 🤦🏼‍♀️.

Sorry to hear some of you had some emotional weekends. Hoping for a better week ahead.
Definitely understand the feeling of family pressure. @TTCRach we did the same with ours and have just told everyone we don't want kids. It hasn't stopped them asking completely but I think its helped ease the pressure.

I'm going to start LH testing tomorrow. I think this is the most exciting bit of the cycle, anything can happen!

I can see a few of you in your TWW already! Good luck.

Hi Ladies,

Hope you don't mind me joining in, I'm also due to test on 14th, I know this week won't drag but next week will be super slow so hoping for some people to share in the anxiety/keep my sane 😅

My period is due around 15/16th so we will all be testing together !!

@TTCRach this’ll be my 2nd 🥰 first I fell pregnant pretty quickly after about 3 months this time I think we’re on month 6 now but I am 3 years old! I keep thinking that’ll have an effect although only 35 🙈 but my friend was 37 and she got pregnant first time and didn’t even know she was ovulating! It works in mysterious ways
the vessel comment 😳 wow! They have no filter for sure! 😂

@Mossyslabs @PoppyGirl222 god its so annoying getting asked isn’t it! If I get asked on more time if I’m having another I’m on the verge of loosing it with someone 😂

hope you’re all feeling good ladies! Nice to see there’s a few of us due/testing on 14th! I’m due a few days before but if not arrive plan to test then,

@Taysonic Aww snap for the 14th 🙂. Sorry you had an emotional time at the weekend. He sounds like a lovely guy. My partner is one of those guys too. I feel lucky and grateful every day he’s my protector and my absolute best friend in the world. I feel wobbly about my fertility, because i’m older (im 37) and only starting now for the first time. Hopefully your concerns are uneventful and there’ll be babies all round in this group. I hope you’re ok. Seems we’ve all had a wee emotional weekend. We’re stronger than we know 💪🏼 we got this!

@TTCRach Omg a vessel!?!?!? That’s awful, it’s like something from handmaids tale. You’re a person with real feelings i can’t believe someone would be so inconsiderate to someone. Eughh people really annoy me. I know we can’t expect everyone to behave how we would be a little bit of manners please, it’s common sense. I’d not be over that either. You’re much more than a “vessel”.

@Mossyslabs Im sorry you were so upset yesterday. It’s not right for anyone to make us feel this way. Im not a gossiper and i hate knowing a secret because then you can be accused of passing it along. I’d rather be the last to know. Drama free life is the way to go. That’s gotta be hard knowing you’ve lost a baby, the future you had planned in your head for your family and for people to be so ignorant to the fact that you might have some personal things you don’t share. You are totally enough if you can have children or not, we’re all enough 💛.

Ah sending you lots of love and positivity @PoppyGirl222 - our bodies do weird things when we scrutinise every little thing so as hard as it is to not have an answer as to what's happening, keep your chin up and hope for the best. You may have some good news yet.

I'm due on 14th Feb too.

Had no idea folic acid could mess with your cycle. I started taking it last month but I also don't feel my hopes are high - not sure we timed things quite right, and definitely didn't ba-doink as much as we could have done. Silly us!

Had a bit of a little cry over the weekend as saw some old videos on my phone from when my parents were fostering two little girls (who went on to be adopted). My partner was so sweet and just gave me a big hug and said 'I know you're not done yet' and it probably doesn't sound like much but it meant the world. Throughout our relationship I've been really honest that I have concerns about my own fertility and his faith in us and what we can do together is just the most wholesome thing. So lovely to feel like whatever life throws at us, we'll tackle it together. And that means I know everything will be okay.

Aw @TTCRach the vessel made me laugh 🤣 that’s like something out of a sitcom. It sounds ridiculous then you realise they’re actually being serious 🤦‍♀️

Yeah I’m quite a private person and it was 7 weeks so before I’d told anyone anyway. Makes the questioning sting a bit more though.

Telling them to back off and giving a long timeline would’ve lifted some pressure too, bet they were shocked by the news of their new grandchild ❤️ Good luck TTC x

@PoppyGirl222 @Mossyslabs I am so sorry to hear that people have been putting this pressure on you. Before having my daughter, I had to tell my mother and MIL just to leave it - I ended up telling them we didn’t want kids for another 5 years and that was our plan. Anyway it worked and the left us alone and then they were shocked when we told them we were pregnant.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss @Mossyslabs, it’s hard enough dealing with that without your family, let alone when they are then prodding you about having children. It’s not dramatic at all, it’s such a big thing and people throw around the ‘when are you going to have kids’ like you can just magic yourself pregnant.

Not making excuses for them but I do think it’s a bit of a generational thing … my MIL told me I ate too unhealthily for someone who one day would be the vessel to her grandchild. VESSEL?! As you can see, I’m not over that 🤣

Hope you both have a good day ❤️

@PoppyGirl222 honestly people are nosy and pressurising. I’ve found relatives the worst. I cried in the shower yesterday (not done that since I was a teenager), because my parents called and piled on the when will you have a baby chat. They don’t know I had a miscarriage last year. It still makes me feel really sad, like if for whatever reason I couldn’t have kids, I wouldn’t be enough for them or something (dramatic I know). They have been full on since my sister in law had hers and she’s pregnant again, which sparked the phone call I think.

Like you, I might address it soon. Thinking of you ❤️ and this safe space is just what people need when TTC, it can be lonely and maddening x

I feel super lucky to be able to talk to likeminded people who bring a caring, kind sympathetic ear to the situation so thanks guys 💛. We’re keeping it under our hat that we’re ttc and they say a problem shared is a problem halved….or misery loves company lol either way i’m grateful for the support.

I’ve had people say unhelpful things like “oh you two better get on it yous aren’t getting any younger” and also people literally asking outright “are you trying” like they have a right to this info. Just last night a family member asked behind my back to someone to see if they’d heard if we’re trying. I don’t think i’m being unreasonable for thinking what gives them the right to think they can have access to my life on such a person level? You never know what someone’s situation is so best just be kind and mind your own business. Im letting it go but from here on in i’m addressing it. They don’t share their lives like that.

@PoppyGirl222 yeah, we were super lucky last time and fell pregnant straight away. I just don’t feel like we will get so lucky this time. I get that December to now isn’t that long, but TTC becomes all consuming, so it feels like such a long time !! I totally get it ❤️

@Purpleseaside I would keep testing - do you normally have regular periods? Or is being late quite normal. I’ve seen lots of threads and videos where people haven’t had a positive until up to a week after their missed period. You’re not out until your period comes 🤞🏼. If you’ve come off the pill recently, your cycles might be a bit off for a little bit

xx

Hi everyone. I stopped taking the pill January 3rd. I was due on yesterday but no period, I did a pregnancy test and it was negative. A couple of hours later I did an ovulation test and the lines were strongly positive. We dtd a short while after.

This is my first time trying and not sure what’s happening so would love everyone’s input :) I’m 30 and had been on the combined pill for a 10 years. Thank you.

I know, it’s hard to keep try on here sometimes. This’ll be my first baby (all being well). Been trying since December, i know it’s not long but everything feels like a lifetime when it’s all you’ve ever wanted. You’re going for number two aren’t you?

@Mama09876 @PoppyGirl222
hahaha I’m the same - the worst bit is when you type something into google and it shows as a historical search 🤦🏼‍♀️
sorry if you’ve said and I’ve missed it, is this your first time TTC, or do you have other little ones? Xx