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2 possible fathers HELP

38 replies

Random86 · 21/01/2025 14:23

Please no judgement my heads in turmoil.

me and my ex fell out and I got drunk to numb the pain to get over it

see attached photo I’ve circled the dates.
3rd ONS
11th Ex
18th sore boobs
30th pregnancy test positive (1st test I did)
my ovulation period 9th-15th

my last period was 26th July 33days cycle, 14 days lutael phase & period lasted 6/7 days.

DNA IS A MUST AFTER BABY BORN.

who’s likely to be the father to my baby?

2 possible fathers HELP
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Random86 · 21/01/2025 18:53

MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 17:26

When was your last period before the 3rd?

It's almost impossible to say currently - if you didn't do OPKS. I'm guessing your period was due or late on the 30th and as such your ex is likely the father. But it could be you had been expecting it a week before testing? In which case I'd expect it to be the ONS.

£1k seems entirely worth spending for this. If you split the cost 3 ways with all affected parties it's £333. I think that's money well spent honestly. The father will likely want to (if not attend the birth) meet his child quickly after it is born - and not knowing by then will cloud the birth for you I think. The science is there and it's accessible, I would make use of it.

My period before was 25th June til 30th.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 18:51

MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 17:26

When was your last period before the 3rd?

It's almost impossible to say currently - if you didn't do OPKS. I'm guessing your period was due or late on the 30th and as such your ex is likely the father. But it could be you had been expecting it a week before testing? In which case I'd expect it to be the ONS.

£1k seems entirely worth spending for this. If you split the cost 3 ways with all affected parties it's £333. I think that's money well spent honestly. The father will likely want to (if not attend the birth) meet his child quickly after it is born - and not knowing by then will cloud the birth for you I think. The science is there and it's accessible, I would make use of it.

I don’t have that kind of money spare unfortunately

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sel2223 · 21/01/2025 17:56

Have you posted multiple times about this OP? I'm sure I've replied at least twice on other threads

AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 17:55

Random86 · 21/01/2025 15:49

I use a period tracker and have done for last 2 years. I never tracked ovulation as the pregnancy was unexpected. It shows on my app when I would have been ovulating and was around 9-15th August.

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I think its unlikely to be the ONS, although I do know someone who ovulated and got pregnant right after her period, but usually if its a 33-35 day cycle then day 19-22 is when ovulation would occur - as per your app.

AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 17:49

MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 17:26

When was your last period before the 3rd?

It's almost impossible to say currently - if you didn't do OPKS. I'm guessing your period was due or late on the 30th and as such your ex is likely the father. But it could be you had been expecting it a week before testing? In which case I'd expect it to be the ONS.

£1k seems entirely worth spending for this. If you split the cost 3 ways with all affected parties it's £333. I think that's money well spent honestly. The father will likely want to (if not attend the birth) meet his child quickly after it is born - and not knowing by then will cloud the birth for you I think. The science is there and it's accessible, I would make use of it.

how do you suppose OP asks her ONS for £333 for a paternity test?

MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 17:26

When was your last period before the 3rd?

It's almost impossible to say currently - if you didn't do OPKS. I'm guessing your period was due or late on the 30th and as such your ex is likely the father. But it could be you had been expecting it a week before testing? In which case I'd expect it to be the ONS.

£1k seems entirely worth spending for this. If you split the cost 3 ways with all affected parties it's £333. I think that's money well spent honestly. The father will likely want to (if not attend the birth) meet his child quickly after it is born - and not knowing by then will cloud the birth for you I think. The science is there and it's accessible, I would make use of it.

Original poster
Random86 · 21/01/2025 15:49

AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 15:38

how did you track your ovulation? is it accurate? if so i dont see how the ONS can be the father if yoy slept with him on the 3rd and you ovulated on the 14th.

I use a period tracker and have done for last 2 years. I never tracked ovulation as the pregnancy was unexpected. It shows on my app when I would have been ovulating and was around 9-15th August.

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AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 15:38

how did you track your ovulation? is it accurate? if so i dont see how the ONS can be the father if yoy slept with him on the 3rd and you ovulated on the 14th.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 15:36

paulliee · 21/01/2025 14:31

I'd say your ex

Im hoping so he really wants to be a dad and it’ll break his heart if not. Things like this happen and I really hate myself for it I can’t enjoy my pregnancy for this reason but I can’t afford dna early

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 14:36

BabyFever246 · 21/01/2025 14:34

Why after baby is born? You can do non-invasive prenatal paternity tests now - literally a blood test on you. Do one in second trimester so the dad knows before baby arrives and can get involved in those early days rather than waiting to find out if actually his before getting attached.

Edit to say if you conceived in August you're almost 6 months pregnant now so do the test ASAP.

Edited

I enquired about non invasive test it’s nearly £1,000 I have not got that kind of money. Both possible fathers are aware and know the situation. I don’t sleep about and it was a drunken mistake. We are good to do it after baby’s born when it’s much cheaper.

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BabyFever246 · 21/01/2025 14:34

Why after baby is born? You can do non-invasive prenatal paternity tests now - literally a blood test on you. Do one in second trimester so the dad knows before baby arrives and can get involved in those early days rather than waiting to find out if actually his before getting attached.

Edit to say if you conceived in August you're almost 6 months pregnant now so do the test ASAP.

Getuptherenow · 21/01/2025 14:32

No way to know til DNA test

paulliee · 21/01/2025 14:31

I'd say your ex