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2 possible fathers HELP

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 14:23

Please no judgement my heads in turmoil.

me and my ex fell out and I got drunk to numb the pain to get over it

see attached photo I’ve circled the dates.
3rd ONS
11th Ex
18th sore boobs
30th pregnancy test positive (1st test I did)
my ovulation period 9th-15th

my last period was 26th July 33days cycle, 14 days lutael phase & period lasted 6/7 days.

DNA IS A MUST AFTER BABY BORN.

who’s likely to be the father to my baby?

2 possible fathers HELP
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Random86 · 22/01/2025 11:30

WarriorForRent · 22/01/2025 11:16

@Random86 why are you posting about this again?? (Surely there isn't numerous women in this situation with exactly the same dates, cycle length, 1 man ejaculated and 1 didnt, story etc ) You've had this question answered numerous times, all with the same answers.
Until the DNA test is done you won't know who the father is, constant speculation from strangers isn't going to give you the answers, nor will those answers change.
Regardless of who is or isn't the dad, you need proof on paper, not just for these mens sakes but for your child's.

Im sorry to be blunt.

My friend had posted once before I looked for the thread I can’t find it therefore I made my own post. I didn’t realise I wasn’t allowed to do so. I value peoples opinions that’s why I’m asking for it. As I’ve said on this post I am getting a dna and are waiting til then there’s loads of folk in here with different answers and I would like to hear them honest or not. Thank you for your input. Have a good day!

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WarriorForRent · 22/01/2025 11:16

@Random86 why are you posting about this again?? (Surely there isn't numerous women in this situation with exactly the same dates, cycle length, 1 man ejaculated and 1 didnt, story etc ) You've had this question answered numerous times, all with the same answers.
Until the DNA test is done you won't know who the father is, constant speculation from strangers isn't going to give you the answers, nor will those answers change.
Regardless of who is or isn't the dad, you need proof on paper, not just for these mens sakes but for your child's.

Im sorry to be blunt.

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 10:58

user2848502016 · 22/01/2025 10:13

More likely to be your ex but definitely not impossible to be the ONS.
You'll need the DNA test results to be 100% sure

Yes we will doing the dna straight away when the baby is born. I just wanted to know what people thought because everyone’s opinion is better then one

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user2848502016 · 22/01/2025 10:13

More likely to be your ex but definitely not impossible to be the ONS.
You'll need the DNA test results to be 100% sure

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 09:53

Soontobemommyoftwo · 22/01/2025 09:43

I would say it's your ex OP, everyone makes mistakes and it sounds like you're paying for it enough so no judgement from me. There's nothing you can do for now so just try and keep yourself healthy through the rest of your pregnancy. I hope you get the best outcome once baby is born

Iv always been a overthinker so this hasn’t really helped but the pregnancy is going well and I’m happy as can be despise this situation. Thank you for being understanding I appreciate it.

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Soontobemommyoftwo · 22/01/2025 09:43

I would say it's your ex OP, everyone makes mistakes and it sounds like you're paying for it enough so no judgement from me. There's nothing you can do for now so just try and keep yourself healthy through the rest of your pregnancy. I hope you get the best outcome once baby is born

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 09:35

justdone88 · 22/01/2025 09:25

I would say it's your ex's as it lines up with the sexual contact and the ovulating window. I'm guessing you're almost due now?

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Due beginning of May

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justdone88 · 22/01/2025 09:25

Random86 · 21/01/2025 14:23

Please no judgement my heads in turmoil.

me and my ex fell out and I got drunk to numb the pain to get over it

see attached photo I’ve circled the dates.
3rd ONS
11th Ex
18th sore boobs
30th pregnancy test positive (1st test I did)
my ovulation period 9th-15th

my last period was 26th July 33days cycle, 14 days lutael phase & period lasted 6/7 days.

DNA IS A MUST AFTER BABY BORN.

who’s likely to be the father to my baby?

I would say it's your ex's as it lines up with the sexual contact and the ovulating window. I'm guessing you're almost due now?

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 09:23

Arlanymor · 22/01/2025 09:16

In which case it’s just a waiting game I’m afraid. Plan for as much as you know and ask them how much they want to be involved (and how comfortable you are for them to be involved without knowing which is the father) in the early stages before the result is known.

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They both has said they’ll wait and they’ll both be included til the dna results come back. We have spoke numerous times as we all close ( not in that way) but very open about to all.

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Arlanymor · 22/01/2025 09:16

Random86 · 22/01/2025 09:02

one of the father can’t afford it with no job and I can’t afford to pay it either.

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In which case it’s just a waiting game I’m afraid. Plan for as much as you know and ask them how much they want to be involved (and how comfortable you are for them to be involved without knowing which is the father) in the early stages before the result is known.

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 09:16

Kels21 · 22/01/2025 08:29

I’d say your ex is the dad. The 3rd is to far out to when you roughly ovulated

That’s what I’m thinking and that’s what my midwife has said too

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 09:02

Arlanymor · 22/01/2025 08:46

To be honest you’ve been living with not knowing for nearly six months, so will another three make much difference if you can’t afford the test now? It’s the only way to be absolutely sure after all. Is it because you’re making plans for when the baby arrives and want to know who to include? Personally I think splitting the cost three ways makes sense because then you’re all out of limbo and can move forward.

one of the father can’t afford it with no job and I can’t afford to pay it either.

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Arlanymor · 22/01/2025 08:46

To be honest you’ve been living with not knowing for nearly six months, so will another three make much difference if you can’t afford the test now? It’s the only way to be absolutely sure after all. Is it because you’re making plans for when the baby arrives and want to know who to include? Personally I think splitting the cost three ways makes sense because then you’re all out of limbo and can move forward.

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 08:40

TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyArsehole · 22/01/2025 08:32

Things like this ruin people's lives. No way to know until baby is here. Can go off dates as much as you like. Hope everyone gets the answers they hope for.

Maybe if they wasn’t told yes but no they’ve known from the off I’m a honest person who made one mistake.

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TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyArsehole · 22/01/2025 08:32

Things like this ruin people's lives. No way to know until baby is here. Can go off dates as much as you like. Hope everyone gets the answers they hope for.

Kels21 · 22/01/2025 08:29

I’d say your ex is the dad. The 3rd is to far out to when you roughly ovulated

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 07:56

Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:29

Even more likely that it is your ex then.

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The ons said he didn’t cum inside me but he he doesn’t remember. Normally you feel wet after down there and I remember going to to toilet and was nothing not wet or anything so I’m hoping he’s right. Just can’t help to think. I really want it to be my exes but both said they will step up if it’s their child.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 21:51

Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:29

Even more likely that it is your ex then.

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I believe so too but I can’t stop thinking about it. I can’t enjoy my pregnancy for thinking about it 😭 I know it’s my own doing but it’s still awful.

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Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:29

Random86 · 21/01/2025 21:21

Both was unprotected but ons didn’t ejaculate inside me. Possible precum.

i have been tested I have no sti’s. It was a very drunken mistake that I’m ashamed to admit.

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Even more likely that it is your ex then.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 21:21

Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:20

Much more likely to be your ex.

Was the sex equally protected / unprotected with both?

Both was unprotected but ons didn’t ejaculate inside me. Possible precum.

i have been tested I have no sti’s. It was a very drunken mistake that I’m ashamed to admit.

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Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:20

Much more likely to be your ex.

Was the sex equally protected / unprotected with both?

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 21:01

MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 20:46

If your period was from the 25th I'd say it's more likely to be your ex. But can't be certain until you do the DNA. Most likely your ex though I expect.

i had 32 cycle in may
36 day in June
and 31 day cycle in July then 33 day cycle in August.

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MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 20:46

If your period was from the 25th I'd say it's more likely to be your ex. But can't be certain until you do the DNA. Most likely your ex though I expect.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 18:56

AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 17:55

I think its unlikely to be the ONS, although I do know someone who ovulated and got pregnant right after her period, but usually if its a 33-35 day cycle then day 19-22 is when ovulation would occur - as per your app.

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My period was 25th June - 30th. And was ovulating around 7th July - 13th then my last period on 26th July.

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Friedshed · 21/01/2025 18:55

Random86 · 21/01/2025 18:51

I don’t have that kind of money spare unfortunately

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Just do two bank switches and you're sorted.