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Please help I’m terrified!

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Hall24 · 15/01/2025 16:27

So 3rd month ttc.. first two months I was pregnant but had a chemical pregnancy, I am now pregnant third month in a row.. however I’m 13dpo today first proper positive after very faint one yesterday and now I’ve had cramps all day today and now abit of spotting I’m crying thinking it’s going to be my 3rd chemical in a row. Do you get implantation bleeding before or after your positive test?

Please help I’m terrified!
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Hall24 · 15/01/2025 20:21

@Impr90 i was holding off getting one of those for a few days until i saw a stronger line cos there not the cheapest are they!x

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2welshmums · 15/01/2025 20:21

I can see the faint lines, which could be the start of a positive.

I spent 2.5 years trying to conceive and I know it's difficult, but the only way to not drive yourself crazy is by waiting until your period is due or late before testing, if positive then you are definitely pregnant.

My early symptoms were terrible cramping until I was around 5 weeks.
Also just before AF was due, I was really hot and couldn't cool down.

Fingers crossed and best of luck to you.

Nellie0606 · 15/01/2025 20:19

Hi, this was my positive on the same test at the same point (just checked - 12 dpo). This is what you’re looking for. I would say you aren’t pregnant yet - rather than it’s a chemical

Please help I’m terrified!
KittyFantastica · 15/01/2025 20:19

I understand your panic @Hall24 I've been there myself with an early loss at 6 weeks where the tests never progressed, followed by a MMC, followed by a 19 week loss of my son. I really sympathise know the longing and the heartbreak.

Implantation bleeding happens 2-3 days before a positive test as it's the blastocyst embedding in the womb. It's after it takes 48 hours after implantation/spotting for HCG to show up. However, it is quite normal to spot in early pregnancy, so if you've ovulated late and it doesn't progress to full on period heaviness, it could be okay.

The Clearblue in negative. There might be a faint line on it in person, but if it's not visible on a camera at all and you have to squint to see it in person, it's best to consider it a negative as there's no 'maybe' option with them. The ones with the cross aren't early response, they're designed for after a missed period, and they're also well known for evaps, so I wouldn't trust it, sadly,

I do see the positives clearly on the easy@homes. It's always hard to tell with these when they first pick up HCG whether they're positive or evaps unless the line is strong and pink immediately. The only way to know is either throw the tests away and wait for AF to be late, then test again afterwards, or test in 48 hours to check for progression. The best way to confirm is to use two different brands of early detection pink dye tests, or a FRER, because Clearblue can't really be trusted when it comes to faint or incomplete lines like this.

As difficult and as upsetting as it is, anyone who has had a loss has to come to terms with it being out of our control. No amount of stressing will change the outcome. It's really hard to accept and totally understand wanting to do all you possibly can to prevent it, but whatever happens, it's not your fault. Be really kind to yourself.

Try to give yourself 48 hours and test again. You'll have your answer for certain then, and I have absolutely everything crossed that it's a lovely, positive one ❤️

Impr90 · 15/01/2025 20:16

Hey OP, can you try one of those digital tests that actually say the words ‘pregnant’ or ‘not pregnant’? Just so that you get a more definitive answer. I hope you’re ok

Hall24 · 15/01/2025 20:14

@MummyV2021
thankyou for this!x
you post on here for advice and support but you get people telling you maybe you should have a break from ttc for a while.. what!? Crazy honestly.

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Hall24 · 15/01/2025 20:12

@crumblingschools these are all today my first faint positive at 13dpo, If I never mentioned how many dpo I was everyone would be like yeah there’s defo a faint line! Like I said I had these lines on 2 months tests too with also first response positives too so my initial post was worrying it will happen again. Don’t need everyone try tell me I’m seeing things because I’m not. The first repsonses I took and yes stuck into a book to compare tests shows this.

Please help I’m terrified!
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MummyV2021 · 15/01/2025 20:12

@Hall24 sorry you've had such a mixed response in here lovely! I completely get the multiple tests after your experience the last 2 cycles. Really sorry for what you've been through. I've had similar myself so completely understand and have similar anxiety whenever I see even a hint of a line! I can def see the lines and whilst they're faint it probably means you implanted later. I can't comment on the cramping and spotting as I've never experienced implantation bleeding myself. I would have said before a positive but honestly, who knows how long it takes for the blood to leave your uterus after implantation. Best advice I can give, and I know it's hard, is to wait at least 2 days to test again and try and do it with an FRER if possible. For what it's worth, my cheap strip tests with my little boy were a lot fainter than the FRER. Good luck lovely, take care of yourself and reach out if you need anymore moral support 😘

crumblingschools · 15/01/2025 20:12

So they are out of timeframe, so can’t rely on them

Hall24 · 15/01/2025 20:08

The first response ones are taped into a book per dpo @crumblingschools

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crumblingschools · 15/01/2025 20:07

Why so many tests? At least leave it for a few days

Hall24 · 15/01/2025 20:06

Also just taken 2 more easy at home and 2 boots strip tests and all came up within time frame and still the same lines on them all

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crumblingschools · 15/01/2025 20:06

The photo of the first response tests, have you photoshopped them so they are all together, or did you take a photo at the same time?

Hall24 · 15/01/2025 20:03

For those that are saying these faint lines are probably Evaps, this was last month at 12dpo as u can see lines are very faint on the strip tests (old now) but u can see clear lines on first response at the same time (I just don’t have any of them this time) so was I not pregnant last month either?

Please help I’m terrified!
Please help I’m terrified!
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crumblingschools · 15/01/2025 19:44

If I was you OP I would stop spending money on tests and just try and relax through the first few months of TTC, otherwise you are likely to drive yourself mad.

Twaddlepip · 15/01/2025 19:31

The cheap little tests didn’t show as positive for me, even when I was 7/8 weeks. I can’t see a line on the blue one at all. I’m sorry, OP. I hope it’s bad pictures and you get the result you want.

Firefly42 · 15/01/2025 18:36

There's def a line on your most recent test and the second line is red in colour so def not an evap,however I can't see a line on the clear blue&the the other 2 tests look like evaps as the line is grey.

Namesy · 15/01/2025 17:37

The pink tests look like faint evap lines as they're grey. The Clear Blue is negative as only one line, not a cross. You're not pregnant this month so this will be a period, not a chemical pregnancy. I understand the feeling though. Edited to add that those strip tests are notorious for convincing evap lines. Start using a First Response test the day after your period is due.

SCK2024 · 15/01/2025 17:23

Olika · 15/01/2025 17:07

These 3 tests you posted look all negative, at 13dpo you would expect to see a prober line if it was a positive test. I think you should leave testing aside for a while and only test if your periods don't arrive.

No not always people can get there 1st faint at 14/15dpo or AF is due, everyone’s cycle is different

santapaws24 · 15/01/2025 17:22

Gently posting, but read the 1star reviews for this brand of tests on Amazon, lots of understandingly upset women with false positive faint lines.
Not saying yours are, but if you have used them the last three months and got these lines each time, it may mean they were not chemicals but faulty tests.

Newhi · 15/01/2025 17:19

I’ve had funny test results with these. Honestly I would step back from the tests for a while as you may be seeing things that aren’t there and working yourself up when there is no need. You’ve only been trying a few months, the average time is a year, you don’t want to be stressing about this every month - stress doesn’t positively affect conception! Try and wait for your period and test when you miss one.

Hall24 · 15/01/2025 17:15

Wow, feel worse than before I put this post on. There’s definitely a line there and within the time frame

Please help I’m terrified!
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crumblingschools · 15/01/2025 17:10

Also are you reading the tests within the right time period, lines can appear after the time but the tests are no longer accurate

Olika · 15/01/2025 17:07

These 3 tests you posted look all negative, at 13dpo you would expect to see a prober line if it was a positive test. I think you should leave testing aside for a while and only test if your periods don't arrive.

crumblingschools · 15/01/2025 17:03

Would you be better off just leaving it for awhile, both testing and TTC, if you have had 2 chemicals in a row in only 2 months of trying