35yrs + and trying ✨🫶🏼

Thanks for you reply. My best friend just had a baby at 38 so I know it is possible, just didn't have a problem conceiving the other two now it is proving tough and not sure it will happen.
I have an 8 yr old girl, tough thinking the age gap is going getting bigger and bigger!

I'm 37, 38 this year and feel like I may have missed to boat to have our third child.
I know I am extremely lucky to have the two children I do, but has my heart set on a third.
We are on cycle 4 now. I spot a lot from cd21 to cd28 so think I may have a progesterone problem ?
I've just ordered an egg reserve kit to test if I'm low.
I don't know what else to do, we DTD 10 days is a row in December - all through fertile days and day of ovulation etc and still
No pregnancy. I did this with my previous 2 children and it worked then!

I’m on CD8 tomorrow so starting SMEP.

I’d really appreciate some crossed fingers for us 🤞

DH and I have been taking Naitre (very expensive) I don’t want to speak too soon but it’s helping my energy levels and (big TMI) seem to have far more cervical mucus than usual so it may be helpful.

Also planning to use Conceive Plus lubricant.

Apart from those things I’m trying to relax (doesn’t feel possible 😂) and I’ve requested a massage from DH.

Also got DH on fenugreek and ashwanganda, and he’s using frozen peas to keep his testicles cool 😂

The shame is so hard to cope with.
I feel that too even though know it was the right thing to do at that time.

I sounds like someone experienced specifically in trauma counselling might be more helpful for you.
Like @SCK2024 says there’s always a listening ear on mumsnet and it’s anonymous so we can vent more easily.

In fairness it was more like she thought that there is nothing else she can do for me. I definitely qualify for depression diagnosis but I don't want to take any more pills so I am stalling and haven't tried to find another therapist. I am not sure that talking helps, tbh nothing changes. The physical symptoms are there and I am still missing my baby.
I think only a new pregnancy will shift things, so I try to focus on this. I am taking a million supplements trying to fix the damage the abortion did to my fertility.

Only my partner. I spoke to a phycologist for a few months but she dropped me, because didn't have any improvement after a year. I can't speak to anyone else I am too ashamed.

I was talking about years ago. I'm no longer trying as my family is complete and my youngest is 12. I was testing on the day my period was due or even one or two days before. On two occasions, I got a faint positive with a very early miscarriage a few days later.
I used normal pregnancy tests, not clear blue early.
Good luck. I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through.

Sperm meets egg plan.

Baby dance every other day starting on cycle day 8. Start ov testing on day 10 and then baby dance every day for three days as soon as you get a positive ovulation test.

Its supposed to give the best chance to have sperm there waiting for the egg.

I’m 39, partner is 46. I’m sat here cuddling our 2 month old - we were trying for about 6months; then had miscarriage and became pregnant again shortly after with this little beauty. Don’t give up ladies! Sending you all lots of love and positive vibes xx

I’ve had the same. Also trying SMEP this month. My husband is 5 years younger than me. I wish we could swap our ages.

Do you have anyone you can talk to?
We carry such a burden when we have to make these painful decisions and it stays with us.

You will recover and heal. One day you’ll feel resolved and at ease with it despite the pain.

Funnily enough, they’ve always been like clockwork then when we started trying I had a couple of months where they were short and I had spotting which had never happened before. Last cycle was back to my usual 28 day so hopefully it has resolved. Thankfully my luteal phase is always the same so it’s just varying in ovulation times (due to stress maybe).

We’re doing SMEP this month and trying to test more accurately.

Good luck to everyone 🤞

Can I join please? I'm 35, trying for my third but my partners first. Currently cycle 9, waiting for my period but negative test today 😞

Honestly, if your cycle is kinda regular just have a lot of sex from day 7 to day 17. Precision tracking will not help you conceive particularly. Best of luck!

I conceived my first at 35, first attempt. Started trying again for my second at 37 and it took about 8 months. I had two extremely early miscarriages in those 8 months. I wouldn't have known I was pregnant but was taking pregnancy tests very early. After 8 months I had a healthy pregnancy and he's now 12.

Sadly today I am back to day(square) one 😭.
The termination has left me with a short luteal phase :(
I had the perfect 28 cycle before.
I expect next ovulation in 2 weeks.

I know i will never recover from the termination. 15 months later I cry every day.