35yrs + and trying ✨🫶🏼

It’s really is a journey, I fell pregnant accidentally around 18 months ago and couldn’t continue the pregnancy at that time. So now that I’m having to properly try, it really stings but, ce la vie, we’ll get there.

The OPKs are tricky. I never get a true positive because I drink lots of water so my highest is usually 0.8 but the pattern shows that it’s my peak and ties in with my ov symptoms too. Although the over thinking makes it all the more difficult 😂
We tried to do SMEP this cycle but partner has had some pain and tbh he’s really feeling the stress of ttc so we skipped the last one. Just hoping we got the timing right when we did manage.
Might try an insemination kit next cycle if we’re don’t get there this one to take some pressure off for him.

Thank you.

im using Premom OPKs and app and it didn’t detect my peak last month and it seems
ive also missed it this month. I’ve had some high readings this month which was better than last month when everything was just low 😂

TTC is such a journey, makes me laugh when we think back to sex ed in school and was basically told all we had to do was look at a penis and we’d get pregnant 🙈😂

Hi 👋 😊

Sorry to hear you’ve had a rough time.
My first cycle using OPKs properly, the Premom app has a function that reads them which has helped me loads this month as I just could get my head around them before 😂

Hi ladies. Can I please join you 🙈

I’m 36, been with my DH 16yrs and we’ve been TTC for over 10yrs. Finally got the courage to reach out to the Drs last year and got a surprise BFP the day the hospital called to book my investigatory scan. Sadly ended in MC 😢 then shockingly got another BFP a month later which also ended in MC but can’t be proven due to lack of advice from drs / epu. Myself and DH convinced it was a new pregnancy though.

my cycles are all over the place now so I’m on my second cycle using OPKs. No idea what I’m doing with them 😂 my cycles have ranged from 21 - 32 days, always 28 days before MC.

can I please come and hang out with you guys ❤️

Looks like you can test soon 🤞 I’ve used Premom alongside Flo this month and I think it’s far more accurate for my ovulation dates. Especially with the OPKs along with it, it updated its predictions as I logged more information. I think Flo had me out by quite a few days last month.

How is everyone doing? I’m starting the 2ww today 🤞

I am taking prenatals and vitamin D.
For the luteal phase problem I am taking vitamin C, zinc, magnesium, curcumin and vitex.
So far all I have achieved after months of supplements is to reduce the pms pain a little. I am still nowhere near the health and quality of life I had before :( I feel like I am dying.
I want to add p5p(b6) to the mix to see if that helps.
I just want to turn back time and slap some sense into my old self.

Male fertility is far more variable and subject to environmental factors than previously thought. Women tend to be steady (barring any issues) then slowly decline with age.

My partner went to the doctor last month about an unrelated issue but mentioned we were ttc and it hadn’t happened yet. The doctor said that considering we conceived quite recently (June 2023), if we struggle, it’s far more likely to be an issue with his sperm than with my eggs/hormones. Doctor said he could have possibly developed a varicocele (which is why I’ve got him icing his bits) or environmental factors, which with proper diet, exercise, sleep, supplements, etc would likely correct in around 12 weeks (sperm cells are on a 12 week production cycle)

Also, having read up a lot recently, our egg cells become slightly tougher to penetrate as we get older, meaning sperm quality and motility matters more.

Glad I’m not the only one who struggles to function in tww. I thought I was going mad last cycle!

Yes I bet, seeing them everyday must be really hard!
I'm struggling to even function normally at work with all this ttc stuff on my mind all the time!
I am 10dpo today, but spotting so I know I am out this month. Just wanting AF to get here so I can start again!
As we have 2 children I imagine my husbands sperm is fine, I put in a lot of this month too so the issue must be me!
I'm just researching acupuncture and whether that might help!?

Thanks for you reply. My best friend just had a baby at 38 so I know it is possible, just didn't have a problem conceiving the other two now it is proving tough and not sure it will happen.
I have an 8 yr old girl, tough thinking the age gap is going getting bigger and bigger!

I'm 37, 38 this year and feel like I may have missed to boat to have our third child.
I know I am extremely lucky to have the two children I do, but has my heart set on a third.
We are on cycle 4 now. I spot a lot from cd21 to cd28 so think I may have a progesterone problem ?
I've just ordered an egg reserve kit to test if I'm low.
I don't know what else to do, we DTD 10 days is a row in December - all through fertile days and day of ovulation etc and still
No pregnancy. I did this with my previous 2 children and it worked then!

I’m on CD8 tomorrow so starting SMEP.

I’d really appreciate some crossed fingers for us 🤞

DH and I have been taking Naitre (very expensive) I don’t want to speak too soon but it’s helping my energy levels and (big TMI) seem to have far more cervical mucus than usual so it may be helpful.

Also planning to use Conceive Plus lubricant.

Apart from those things I’m trying to relax (doesn’t feel possible 😂) and I’ve requested a massage from DH.

Also got DH on fenugreek and ashwanganda, and he’s using frozen peas to keep his testicles cool 😂

The shame is so hard to cope with.
I feel that too even though know it was the right thing to do at that time.

I sounds like someone experienced specifically in trauma counselling might be more helpful for you.
Like @SCK2024 says there’s always a listening ear on mumsnet and it’s anonymous so we can vent more easily.

In fairness it was more like she thought that there is nothing else she can do for me. I definitely qualify for depression diagnosis but I don't want to take any more pills so I am stalling and haven't tried to find another therapist. I am not sure that talking helps, tbh nothing changes. The physical symptoms are there and I am still missing my baby.
I think only a new pregnancy will shift things, so I try to focus on this. I am taking a million supplements trying to fix the damage the abortion did to my fertility.

Only my partner. I spoke to a phycologist for a few months but she dropped me, because didn't have any improvement after a year. I can't speak to anyone else I am too ashamed.

I was talking about years ago. I'm no longer trying as my family is complete and my youngest is 12. I was testing on the day my period was due or even one or two days before. On two occasions, I got a faint positive with a very early miscarriage a few days later.
I used normal pregnancy tests, not clear blue early.
Good luck. I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through.

Sperm meets egg plan.

Baby dance every other day starting on cycle day 8. Start ov testing on day 10 and then baby dance every day for three days as soon as you get a positive ovulation test.

Its supposed to give the best chance to have sperm there waiting for the egg.