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SCK2024 · 04/01/2025 19:31

I am now 37 and have one beautiful 10yrs old boy, my partner has 2 boys 9 & 13yrs.

I bought the Hertility kit online, not yet opened it… I was going to give this cycle my last attempt before investigating 🙃

We got pregnant a year ago but due to personal circumstances we both decided to not go ahead, this I carry so much guilt over 🪃

Now we are both ready and settled in our careers and home but now it has taken nearly 6/7cycles.

today I got my 1st + ovulation test, so beginning our January TWW.

what is everyone else’s story 🌟

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rainycoldboo · 07/08/2025 08:46

Sorry that was for @SCK2024

rainycoldboo · 07/08/2025 08:46

Thanks @Mismatc!

I have insomnia this time around seemingly…waking a lot to pee and this morning I woke at 5am 🙄

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SCK2024 · 07/08/2025 08:44

rainycoldboo · 07/08/2025 05:18

@SCK2024sorry only just saw this - this was yesterday (11dpo) - awake now, 12dpo but trying to wait until 6.30am to test

You are an early bird!!! 5am!! 😄

All is looking well!! Definitely some good line progression there! 🤞🏼✨

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SCK2024 · 07/08/2025 08:43

curliegirlie · 06/08/2025 18:01

I think that you can only get a hycosy once you’ve had the referral to the fertility clinic. That was the case with us anyway. The GPs could only refer for the Day 4/21 tests, SA and ultrasound.

Would you enquire about a referral? Sorry I can’t keep up with everybody’s previous messages 😅
How old are you? I’m 38 and was panicking before now too xx

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Mismatc · 07/08/2025 08:10

Definite progression there!

After SA I think would come private consultation with a fertility specialist and private hycosy/ treatment. I think once we know the SA we will have a sit down and decide what we are prepared to do fertility investigation and treatment-wise at the moment. If his SA is normal maybe we will give it a few more months, if it is abnormal we may get started asap. I’m not getting any younger 😅

rainycoldboo · 07/08/2025 05:18

@SCK2024sorry only just saw this - this was yesterday (11dpo) - awake now, 12dpo but trying to wait until 6.30am to test

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curliegirlie · 06/08/2025 18:01

I think that you can only get a hycosy once you’ve had the referral to the fertility clinic. That was the case with us anyway. The GPs could only refer for the Day 4/21 tests, SA and ultrasound.

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SCK2024 · 06/08/2025 17:24

Mismatc · 06/08/2025 13:32

Amazing news, huge congratulations. I’m on CD1 again and feeling a bit better. Looking forward to sperm analysis results next week and making a plan after that

have you had a hycosy done? I’d request one x

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SCK2024 · 06/08/2025 17:23

rainycoldboo · 04/08/2025 14:41

Thanks @Mismatc- these might be better photos! I think they’re pink so fingers crossed not evaps!

Sorry I missed this… I definitely see something too! Any new news today? Xx

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Mismatc · 06/08/2025 13:32

Amazing news, huge congratulations. I’m on CD1 again and feeling a bit better. Looking forward to sperm analysis results next week and making a plan after that

rainycoldboo · 05/08/2025 21:21

Yay @SCK2024congrats

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SCK2024 · 05/08/2025 20:02

Girls I’m home!

Finally tested!

It was definitely IB!! but I have to say … it was more than I had when I had my son! 😅🥰

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rainycoldboo · 04/08/2025 14:41

Thanks @Mismatc- these might be better photos! I think they’re pink so fingers crossed not evaps!

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35yrs + and trying ✨🫶🏼
Mismatc · 04/08/2025 13:59

I can see the lines on both tests ☺️

rainycoldboo · 04/08/2025 12:22

Phone completely freaked out and banned me from Mumsnet for like a month! Finally back now - month 3 of TTC and I’m 9 dpo: tested this morning with an ovum one and a cheapy. I think I can see something on both?? Thoughts (AI thinks there’s a line) (top cheapy is water just to try to work out if I have line eyes)

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Mismatc · 02/08/2025 10:48

Thank you, lovely. Thank you for listening. I really hope this is a sticky bean for you

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SCK2024 · 02/08/2025 10:44

Rant away! 🙂🫶🏼
Thats what the group is for, we are all listening ears here.
I am the same I did not want to be 40 plus having a baby, never did I think I wanted a big age gap!
I have an 11yr old OH has an 11&15yr old 😅
But we wanted one between us 🤞🏼❤️ hoping this baby bean sticks!

We have had so many fun years being selfish doing us, partying, date nights, meals when we haven’t had our boys… did not think it would ever happen for us.

Least you both know on the positive side you both have conceived before ✨🫶🏼

just might be taking longer this time, but I really do think your time is coming for you both, when your least expecting it too x

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Mismatc · 02/08/2025 10:28

You could say since DD was born 18months ago (Feb 2024) as we’ve been having regular unprotected sex ever since hoping to get pregnant. I started taking supplements and trying to create gaps in feeding from when she was about 4 months old trying to get pregnant asap. My cycles came back in December/ January just before she was 1. I’ve been tracking, taking daily ovulations tests, researching endlessly and trying to get my fertility back for way over a year and trying with cycles for 9 months-ish.

I’m 36 and my DH has been shown to have 1.4% morphology previously (before we conceived our first and we still managed to conceive) and I feel like TTC has filled my every waking thought for over a year and wasted time I could be enjoying the here and now. I really wanted a small age gap and to finish my family as soon as possible. I had my first two 18 months apart and having two babies was the happiest time of my life.

As a completely personal choice, I didn’t want to have another baby closer to/ beyond 40. I had my first at 23 and have loved every moment of parenthood but still hoped for potentially a little bit of freedom in my 50s that others had in their 20s

Sorry, this is a long and winding answer to what you asked. We have been TTC for 18 months essentially but I’ve been planning these two babies for many years and have been lucky enough to have one of them, my 18 month old DD

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SCK2024 · 02/08/2025 10:12

@Mismatc This was exactly me lovely. 1 of my own OH have 2, tried for nearly 17cycles.
have you had a hycosy done?
wait and see what the SA results come back as.
last cycle I was feeling all doubt and was telling myself that I had to just accept it won’t happen. .. then it did.
sending a big virtual hug to you, it’s hard, damn F hard.
How long have you been trying? X

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Mismatc · 02/08/2025 10:05

Morning all, I’m 10dpo bfn and feeling lots of feelings. Sperm analysis is next week and my bloods were normal. I’m struggling to motivate myself to do things and not feeling great.

I’ve flitted between wanting to stop trying and just enjoy the children I have and looking at fertility treatments. I have three, two from a previous relationship and my DH has just the one. He would only really be happy with at least one more so I can’t really flirt with the idea of stopping as an end to it all. He is an amazing father and loves every moment and we’ve both wanted more.

I would love it all to be over one way or another, having another baby or learning it’s not possible. This limboland is so hard

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SCK2024 · 01/08/2025 20:33

I have been reading up on the test.. feel a bit reassured 🤞🏼✨
no brown liquid from last nights random episode. & no sign of AF.

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SCK2024 · 01/08/2025 20:32

curliegirlie · 01/08/2025 08:49

Clearblues aren’t the best test. Have you done another Easy@Home to compare with the last couple of days? If the spotting is brown rather than pink/red that’s encouraging but it could go either way. It’s just a waiting game I’m afraid…

I haven’t … wish I had to compare as they are 10miu, that clear blue is 25miu

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curliegirlie · 01/08/2025 09:05

In terms of continue as you would, it’s completely up to you. This early a drink or two wouldn’t make any difference (it’s a bunch of cells and the placenta hasn’t been formed yet) but understandable if you’d rather not.

curliegirlie · 01/08/2025 08:49

Clearblues aren’t the best test. Have you done another Easy@Home to compare with the last couple of days? If the spotting is brown rather than pink/red that’s encouraging but it could go either way. It’s just a waiting game I’m afraid…

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SCK2024 · 01/08/2025 08:41

Girls I don’t know what to think of all this 12dpo last night had brown liquid bleed, nothing today, told OH we did a clear blue test (below) he isn’t convinced as it’s not a strong line.

Ive done another this morning, not as dark 😢

is it delayed IB? AF due yday/today but no bleeding.
going away today it’s going to be on my mind the whole time. OH says just continue as you would on holiday as you didn’t test and enjoy it and we will do a test when we come home.

anyone had this?

35yrs + and trying ✨🫶🏼
35yrs + and trying ✨🫶🏼
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