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35yrs + and trying ✨🫶🏼

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SCK2024 · 04/01/2025 19:31

I am now 37 and have one beautiful 10yrs old boy, my partner has 2 boys 9 & 13yrs.

I bought the Hertility kit online, not yet opened it… I was going to give this cycle my last attempt before investigating 🙃

We got pregnant a year ago but due to personal circumstances we both decided to not go ahead, this I carry so much guilt over 🪃

Now we are both ready and settled in our careers and home but now it has taken nearly 6/7cycles.

today I got my 1st + ovulation test, so beginning our January TWW.

what is everyone else’s story 🌟

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FenellaFurchester · 02/04/2025 08:09

@Marie8611

Don’t be sad, just go away.

This is a safe and supportive thread and you’re not welcome.

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If you really need to know I had cancer and needed treatment, please go away and leave your negative thoughts to yourself, everyone has a reason …

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BabyBorn · 01/04/2025 22:34

Where are all of these posts about trying to conceive just a year a so after terminations @Marie8611?! Please go away if you are trying to cause trouble.

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SCK2024 · 01/04/2025 21:53

BabyBorn · 01/04/2025 19:29

Sorry what an idiot I meant cycle day 11 😂😂😂🥴😂

Oh how lovely. Bet you are looking forward to that! Hopefully it will be lovely weather too! We went to London for my 39th.

Nothing new here. Got reflexology tomorrow. Haven’t been in around a month as she was so busy and couldn’t fit me in but she’s given me 2/3 months worth of appointments now so all sorted. Not sure if I’m doing too much with having reflexology every 2 weeks and acupuncture twice a week 🥴🥴 My OPK is getting slightly higher since yesterday so hopefully be ovulating in the next 2/3 days! X

I thought you was CD as we was only recently talking about you going all sexy time on him 😂😂😂
I was confused but was going with the flow on what you was saying haha thought I was in the wrong chat lol

Are you cycles short or long? I’ll be back in my fertile week again in 5 days 😂

OH has his swimmer pot now too 😆🤣 he has a date to hand it into the labs for June though 🫠🫠🫠🫠 nothing earlier which is annoying!!!

He keeps saying there’s nothing wrong with his swimmers 🙃 but I keep telling him things can change you might of had 2 kids last 10yrs ago, but it might not be either of us, but they have to rule it out, not sure he’s mega happy about doing it but he is for me .. he should be saying us 😄🤦🏻‍♀️ x

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PalmTreeAngel · 01/04/2025 21:52

And I know 34 is still young but it doesn’t help that the narrative considers this old in terms of being a mother or trying for a family! I think I’m now considered geriatric if I were pregnant !

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SCK2024 · 01/04/2025 21:47

34 is still young!!!
wish I was still 34 😂

Congratulations getting married! 🫶🏼

Perfect time to start, no life stresses best of luck to you both ✨

May I add .. also had a term, ages 20 and just under 2 yrs ago, last one regrettable as now we are both trying and it’s been over 1 year, first was with a violent partner and got caught out x

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Ahh thank you lovely. 💛
I find this journey brings out all sorts of anxieties and health insecurities 🧐😖
thanks for sharing your experiences, I think they’re more common among women than I had originally thought and glad the stigma is lifting. X x

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SCK2024 · 01/04/2025 21:47

PalmTreeAngel · 01/04/2025 19:27

Had termination when I was 19 with my current partner (mistake, unplanned). Now 34. We got married two weeks ago and we are now trying for the first time. It’s been a long old wait to get settled and various life factors. Hoping I haven’t left it too late xx

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34 is still young!!!
wish I was still 34 😂

Congratulations getting married! 🫶🏼

Perfect time to start, no life stresses best of luck to you both ✨

May I add .. also had a term, ages 20 and just under 2 yrs ago, last one regrettable as now we are both trying and it’s been over 1 year, first was with a violent partner and got caught out x

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BabyBorn · 01/04/2025 19:35

Definitely postive thinking, now the evenings are lighter life always seems brighter! Just got to keep having things to look forward to to keep my mind off it all! 😂😂 I’ve just been to the Canaries for my 40th and should book another holiday to keep me busy!! 😆😆

PalmTreeAngel · 01/04/2025 19:33

BabyBorn · 01/04/2025 19:32

Exciting @PalmTreeAngelunfortunately we had a termination 16 years ago too 😢 but we’ve been lucky to have 2 children since.
Hopefully it will happen for you soon!

Thank you @BabyBorn and what an apt username 😊 yes, fingers crossed. Positive thinking! x

BabyBorn · 01/04/2025 19:32

Exciting @PalmTreeAngelunfortunately we had a termination 16 years ago too 😢 but we’ve been lucky to have 2 children since.
Hopefully it will happen for you soon!

BabyBorn · 01/04/2025 19:29

Sorry what an idiot I meant cycle day 11 😂😂😂🥴😂

Oh how lovely. Bet you are looking forward to that! Hopefully it will be lovely weather too! We went to London for my 39th.

Nothing new here. Got reflexology tomorrow. Haven’t been in around a month as she was so busy and couldn’t fit me in but she’s given me 2/3 months worth of appointments now so all sorted. Not sure if I’m doing too much with having reflexology every 2 weeks and acupuncture twice a week 🥴🥴 My OPK is getting slightly higher since yesterday so hopefully be ovulating in the next 2/3 days! X

PalmTreeAngel · 01/04/2025 19:27

Had termination when I was 19 with my current partner (mistake, unplanned). Now 34. We got married two weeks ago and we are now trying for the first time. It’s been a long old wait to get settled and various life factors. Hoping I haven’t left it too late xx

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SCK2024 · 01/04/2025 19:22

I’ve been on a late shift today so been SO busy, not long finishing!
my birthday month, so my OH is taking us away for a city breaks somewhere don’t know where, it’s a suprise 🥰🫶🏼
Other than that nothing really, how about you?
DPO 11!!! That has gone rapid!!!!! Have you tested!!!? 😁😁😁
Any new symptoms?
Xx

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BabyBorn · 01/04/2025 19:16

Hey! I know the feeling, it’s horrible isn’t it. Is so common to be trying up to a year though, so bare that in mind before giving yourself a hard time over it all.

I think sometimes the more we try the more it doesn’t happen, suppose it’s because we have it on our mind all the time. Hard to relax and just forget about it and let it happen.

We got our bounce on night before last 😂😂 so due another bounce this evening 😂😂 Trying to do it every other day as don’t want the seem to be too immature 😂😂😂 I’m 11DPO today.

How are you feeling this evening? Anything nice planned this month to take your mind off things? Xx

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SCK2024 · 01/04/2025 09:15

BabyBorn · 01/04/2025 08:26

Oh what a bummer @SCK2024Its weird how month on month it doesn’t happen for us isn’t it 😩
Look forward to hearing what your appointment brings! Hears hoping this is the month for us both!! Xx

I know, it’s started to get me down now 😓

I'm 38 this month, my mum had me at 40 and she’s nearly 79 I feel as though I don’t have many healthy years with her left which really plays on my mind I feel I’d be doing the same.

I just wish it would just happen, I use the concieve lube, fertility cup all my bloods were fine, he’s doing a sample too.
we have conceived before but we made a now regrettable decision to not go ahead at the time and now struggling 😓

as you said… i really hope this is our year so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️✨✨ how are you? What DPO are you on now? Did you get your bounce on last night 😂 x

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BabyBorn · 01/04/2025 08:26

Oh what a bummer @SCK2024Its weird how month on month it doesn’t happen for us isn’t it 😩
Look forward to hearing what your appointment brings! Hears hoping this is the month for us both!! Xx

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SCK2024 · 01/04/2025 08:20

AF has arrived girls 😩
Got my fertility referral from the GP consultation next week, so the ball is at least rolling to see why it’s not happening ✨🫶🏼

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SCK2024 · 31/03/2025 19:55

BabyBorn · 31/03/2025 08:16

You definitely would be buzzing 😂 I’ve had two weeks of slipping off the slope with food and alcohol with various celebrations and a holiday and I’m back on it this week now!

How are you this morning? Have you tested?

Im just starting my BDing as I’m in the fertile window now! X

Get happy bouncing! 😂😂😂
your going to be exhausted! 😆
No AF today 🤷🏻‍♀️ I thought I had mild cramps earlier this morning but they disappeared, I’m just going with I’m out as had bfn again this morning.
I assume ugly AF will show her head this week at some point, never late usually but we will see 🙃
Good luck for this cycle girl! 🫶🏼✨💕

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BabyBorn · 31/03/2025 08:16

You definitely would be buzzing 😂 I’ve had two weeks of slipping off the slope with food and alcohol with various celebrations and a holiday and I’m back on it this week now!

How are you this morning? Have you tested?

Im just starting my BDing as I’m in the fertile window now! X

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SCK2024 · 30/03/2025 18:42

BabyBorn · 30/03/2025 18:35

Happy Mother’s Day! Hope you’ve had a great day!

Dont lie 😂😂 If you fell pregnant this cycle you would be made up, Xmas/NYE baby or not! 😆 x

🤣😂😆 I mean yeh I’d still be buzzing!!
It would be my luck it happens! 🫠🤣

AF is due today/tomorrow, so I’ll do a morning hpt and let you know 😌 x

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BabyBorn · 30/03/2025 18:35

Happy Mother’s Day! Hope you’ve had a great day!

Dont lie 😂😂 If you fell pregnant this cycle you would be made up, Xmas/NYE baby or not! 😆 x

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SCK2024 · 30/03/2025 18:07

@BabyBorn Thankyou lovely, I haven’t tested today, with it being Mother’s Day we’ve all been busy.

still no AF this next cycle I’m not hoping to fall pregnant I don’t want another NYE baby and Xmas all in one 😅

Just have to see if AF shows then I’ll do another test 🥰

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BabyBorn · 30/03/2025 16:26

Aawww sorry @SCK2024its surely got to happen in the next couple of months! Try to stay postive! Easier said than done I know! Xx