TTC in 2025!

Just checking in with everyone? I should ovulate later this week/next, but feeling already like it's just not going to happen for us this month - no reason why 😂a bit flat. Finally accepted given I am not pregnant I need to do something about the Xmas weight gain - all boring boring

Yes we will also be avoiding a December birthdate… and potentially January. I think my preferred months are late Feb-July and also October. But would obviously be pleased for a pregnancy whenever.

I think it helps to be realistic with ourselves 🤣. I keep telling myself I don’t want to be upset or too bothered about this month not being successful but I think the truth is I will. And I should just allow myself to be that.

This is literally me down to the preferring certain months to fit in better with my older child. Obviously I’m not counting on this and won’t skip months apart from March as my husband is adamant about avoiding a December baby. Ultimately I’d love to be casual but I just don’t think I can!

@Thisismeme exactly this. My dream is to fall pregnant quickly while being casual (but isn’t it everyone’s!) I find it bizarrely stressful too but I get it into my mind that I’d prefer certain birth months, which I think puts a pressure on it.

I'm actually TTC already but just wanted to ask about the mat pay. Are you new to the NHS or have you moved from another role in the NHS? If you've moved from another NHS role with a less than 3 months break between roles, your continuous service should carry over so it doesn't reset in October. If you're new to the NHS, ignore me and you're right about having to wait until April. I was in a similar boat last year and even though I wasn't new to the NHS, I'd lost my continuous service as I'd left for a while and rejoined so was on the 6 months waiting train. It's only this month for me that I've become eligible for enhanced pay again.

@Cinnamonbunn I really want to be casual about it but equally know I’ll be annoyed that I wasn’t serious sooner if pregnancy doesn’t happen.
I was so relieved when ttc was over last time as I found it so stressful

@MakeMeJuno It’s great you’ve been able to distract yourself a bit more this month. Hope all those spring plans are looking fun!

@Thisismeme we sound very similar, last month I was quite militant with the testing but this month I was much more casual around the testing. I still used preseed but I’m actually much more relaxed and not as tempted to test too early.

Planning to start TTC in April but I’ve just stopped my pill in readiness. This is our second child and I swing between wanting to be casual and track things. Last time we used clear blue ovulation tests and something akin to pre seed

My ubiquinol just arrived! Just taken my first 600mg dose! Is that the right amount for over 35?

@Cinnamonbunn I think it will be around the 10th as I ovulate late - day 18-20 usually. Cycles are normally 31-33 days. I am finding it a little easier to distract myself this month - not sure what has changed, maybe making some spring time plans...

Thanks @EmCha how are you finding the wait? I was in a similar situation with trying for DD as I’d only just started a new job. In fact I think I may have created a post on here about it at the time asking for advice.

@MakeMeJuno I hear you! It can be all consuming once you decide you’d like to be pregnant. Waiting at the mercy of our bodies to get on board can be hard. Makes sense, it is a very sad start to your journey. Do you know when you will ovulate next? I already feel a bit anxious about the two week wait, I don’t have high hopes and I’d rather not test at all but I have a feeling I’m not going to manage that.

@Cinnamonbunn sounds super encouraging then for your chances this time! I hear you about the OPKs... and the pregnancy tests lol I was so convinced I was pregnant I kept testing last week but nothing... feels weird now to not have anything to pee on lol

I feel ok - just impatient... trying to remember what I enjoyed doing before I decided I wanted to be pregnant 😂 For my work a September baby would have been ideal, but it is what it is. I found the CP much harder even though it was only our first month trying.

@MakeMeJuno ahh wishing you lots of luck for your BFP before the end of April! Sorry to hear about your chemical last month, how are you feeling this cycle?

We started trying for DD October 2022 and had a positive December 3rd 2022. So incredibly quickly really. But I had text book 28 day cycles, ovulating CD14. I have 3 years of data on my body. So this feels completely different. I didn’t use OPKs like I did last cycle because I found it made me quite obsessive.

Welcome @Cinnamonbunn how long did it take you to conceive your DD? 🙂hoping a smooth journey for you! We are the opposite - try until April, then a break over the spring/summer. this is baby no1 and I had a CP last month, then AF arrived a few days ago so here we go again!

Hi all, can I join please?

We’re trying for baby #2. DD is 17 months but my period only returned 3 months ago. Cycle seems all over the place at the moment so bracing myself for it to take longer than it did with DD. We tried last month and are trying this month, but will then take a break till April/May. Think we might actually have missed ovulation so it’s nice to see others planning to try in the spring!

Oh just seen - maternity pay @EmCha! Makes sense

Do you mind me asking how old you are?

Thanks @EmCha!

Getting fit sounds a good plan - can you remind me why you're waiting until April/May? Sorry if I missed something?

Period came today - think 1 day 'late' is still within normal ranges! Think I said, we're not 'trying' until March earliest - getting fit and healthy and taking all the vits first! Adding ubiquitoul this month - waiting until I get paid so I can afford it!!