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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Anyone else trying to get pregnant 2

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bayleaf · 20/12/2002 20:51

It may just be my computer ( no broad band in the sticks!)but the other thread was taking a long while to load and accept new messages so maybe we can start again here...

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bayleaf · 28/03/2003 16:08

13 - so not too stressful in terms of one surviving the thaw!

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Marina · 28/03/2003 14:28

Oh Elliott, that is wonderful news
Hoping for more of the same SOON for other members of this thread!

Flick · 28/03/2003 10:00

fabulous news Elliot - many hugs and congrats.

Chinchilla · 27/03/2003 22:53

Congrats Elliott!

elliott · 27/03/2003 22:31

thanks www too - hope you are doing ok!

elliott · 27/03/2003 22:30

bayleaf, thanks...I know its unbelievably lucky, especially since it was touch and go both times in terms of fertilisation - which is why I keep thinking it will all go horribly wrong.....

Good luck for down regging. How many frosties do you have?

WideWebWitch · 27/03/2003 21:15

Elliott, that's fab news! Congratulations

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bayleaf · 27/03/2003 20:37

OH how wonderful elliott???? You must feel like the luckiest person on earth and soooo happy- to get a + first try both times is very very rare from my trawling thru the ivf boards ( even amongst icsi people) WELL DONE!!!!!!

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elliott · 27/03/2003 19:33

well, I did actually crack and do a test on Tuesday, but wanted to wait till the blood test before I posted, because.....it's positive!!

I had been feeling more optimistic since my cramping stopped quite suddenly and it occurred to me that it might have been implantation, but I just didn't want to let my hopes get too high...

I still can't quite believe it, and I'm now at that stage where you keep thinking its all going to be snatched away from you....just another two months to get through before I can relax....

bayleaf (happy birthday,btw, though understand the mixed feelings), jane, dot1 - thanks so much for your thoughts, and I really really hope your turns come very soon....

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bayleaf · 27/03/2003 18:53

elliott any news? Isn't today day 14?

Dot - if your temp is still high then the negative means nothing - as long as it stays up there it 's looking more and more positive!!! How many days since ov has it been rasied for now? Mine always dropped a couple of days before a period so if it stays high over the weekend I'd be feeling very optimistic....

Jane - it is so good to have people to 'talk ' to on here with parralel ( sp???) experiences, I felt just as you did - so relieved to finally know 100% instead of 99% that I was fine about it - until I then got a virus which made me feel so cr*p physically that there was no hope of staying cheerful.
I'm happier today tho' - just about got over all my friends' fecundity !

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dot1 · 27/03/2003 10:11

Oh Bayleaf - happy birthday anyway.... know exactly how you feel as it was my birthday a month ago - the day I inseminated on the last go! Also, everyone I know in the world (including someone about 13 years younger than me)is pregnant/has just given birth - still makes me grumpy hearing about people who got pregnant by accident/the first time they tried/etc.etc... (I'm not very good at being entirely happy for other people..!).

I'm avoiding testing again - if only because I don't want to be disappointed. My temperature's still high, but I'm going to try and hold out until Monday (if I get there) before I test again. That'll be Day 31...

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bayleaf · 26/03/2003 20:12

Fingers crossed dot - even I think it's probably too early to test at the moment!
Feeling a bit down today as was my birthday yesterday which had unfortunate combination of reminding me that I'm getting less fertile and 3 people dropping me a line in their cards to tell me that they're pregnant. Hey ho.....
On the slightly more positive note my period has finally started so can start the down reg process again....

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Jane101 · 26/03/2003 20:10

Bayleaf, you are so right. I'm now at the stage of being not convinced by a trickle. Actually I have pretty much accepted it now, and I'm so relieved not to be in limboland anymore that I'm feeling quite cheerful about it really.

I'm sorry your timings are being awkward. It's so frustrating when you just seem to face obstacle after obstacle isn't it?

dot1 · 26/03/2003 11:30

Elliot - any news yet..?

I'm miserable as I tested yesterday (day 9/10) and got a negative. I was hopeful this month as I've been feeling really tired and had a dizzy spell the other day and seem to have lost my appetite - feeling quite nauseous. But, I think this is probably down to increasing my Metformin, not because I'm pregnant.

So, I'm not going to test again, but will wait and see what my temperature does. It's still high, but it's only day 26 in my cycle...

Flick · 25/03/2003 15:23

Thanks - I think maybe that I am reading too much and that I need to relax about it all. Soooo broody right now!!

dot1 · 25/03/2003 12:42

Hi Flick,

My cycles are slightly shorter than yours (between 28 - 31 days), but I also get the mucus early in my cycle - usually between days 9 - 12. Are you monitoring your temperature aswell? That might help indicate whether the mucus means you're about to ovulate/ovulating. I read somewhere (although if you read enough on all this it all seems to contradict itself...) that the mucus signifies you're about to ovulate in the next 2 - 3 days.

Sorry not to be much help...

Flick · 25/03/2003 12:01

Thanks - its very confusing...particularly when the books you read all seem to cover the regular 28 day cycle when you ovulate on day 14. How many women are that normal, particularly after having a baby?

buttercup · 25/03/2003 11:53

flick - that sometimes used to happen to me. you'll probably find it passes quite quickly and is not the REAL thing.

Flick · 25/03/2003 11:24

I am confused! Am on day 9 of my cycle and appear to be getting the slippery, clear mucus that you are supposed to get when ovulating. Given that my last cycle was 36 days and the previous one 34 days, its all rather odd....

elliott · 25/03/2003 09:13

I suppose I am more along mindy's lines really - I want a test result that means something, not one which leaves me pondering more questions! And I am thinking it will be negative so I don't want to torture myself by doing lots and lots of negative tests.
Not long to go now though....
bayleaf, sorry the timing isn't working out for you. hope you can get started soon!

mindy · 24/03/2003 23:00

Oh bayleaf I was the opposite - I was determined to hang on for 14 days before testing and tried to ignore any possible early pregnancy feelings/signs until the test - I knew that if I did test early and it was a negative result I would just keep kidding myself that it was too early and would try again in a day or so and the constant anticipation and possible failure would make me even more overwrought. By waiting I could think positive thoughts and try to relax(!) about it potentially being a good result until the test day and then deal with it one way or another.

Our clinic advised us to do a home test 14 days after transfer and then phone them with the results, their view was the home tests, (clear blue and another whose name I forget) were as reliable as any urine test they would do.

Saying that - when I did get a positive result I then went into panic overdrive and ended up spending a small fortune testing every couple of days because I could not believe I was still pregnant and seeing that line appear was amazing.

Hope all goes well with you all this month, good luck

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bayleaf · 24/03/2003 17:51

OH reading all this brings it all back so clearly .....
You're very restrained elliott ! - I worked on the basis that I'd spent thousands so what was another few tens on tests??? I just HAD to test and test again - the waiting was so awful that if there was a chance of knowing early and getting out of it 'the wait' by seeing a positive then I had to take it - and plenty of people on the boards seemed to get it 11-12 days post EC.

Jane you'd be very, very odd if you could make yourself believe that you weren't pregnant before your period came - lets face it most of us have to be 'flooded' before we'll accept it - even a trickle doesn't convince!

I'm in an annoying situation now in that my period has been delayed so long now that the FET is threatening a weekend at The Bell in Malmsbury( one of those nice places with childcare on the Mumsnet survey) which we've booked with friends - I don't want to miss it but neither do I want to cancel the FET - so I've talked to the consultant and we've provisionally agreed to go for a medicated FET cycle ( which bizarrely is the same price as a natural cycle, possibly because there are less scans)as with the down reg this will take the transfer much later and miss the weekend...It's never simple is it!?

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elliott · 24/03/2003 16:32

I'm sure they won't mind - I would imagine it happens all the time!

I think I am going to go and buy some magic Boots tests tonight (mentioned on the other thread as being the first to show a +ve). At least I will feel I am doing something!

I don't feel at all pregnant either But then I can't remember much about this stage last time, except suddenly feeling exhausted - and that's more of a normal state of affairs these days!!

Jane101 · 24/03/2003 16:12

I suppose really I'm just worried about appearing stupid for still hoping the test's wrong in the circumstances. I don't feel the slightest bit pregnant.

I don't think it really does any harm testing early. Except that it's pretty discouraging to keep seeing those negative results (and expensive of course). Good luck anyway (that seems such an inadequate phrase).

elliott · 24/03/2003 16:03

Personally, I would give them a ring sooner - presumably you'll run out of cyclogest before long anyway?
I know its common practice with a lot of clinics to leave you to home test, even with IVF, but I've always thought that was rather unsatisfactory and unsympathetic - they must realise how we are hanging on waiting and hoping...

Last time I tested on a Sunday and had my blood test on the Monday - had a very weak +ve on my home test but a strong +ve on the blood test, so I know that there is really no point in trying anything before Weds and it would be better to wait till thurs - that's only 14 days post egg collection anyway.