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Sorry, forgot to say, hope you are all ok and if not ok, that you're coping.

I'm in shock. I tested yesterday at 12 dpo after feeling strange and I got a positive test. Then another one. Then a negative digital one. Then two more positives on Tesco's own ones.

No real news from me either, I’ve had two cancelled ivf rounds in a row, slightly differing reasons. But took my trigger shot last night (final ivf shot before egg retrieval) so fingers crossed I get something. This will be the first round of eggs from me eating meat over the course of their 3 month development (veggie 15 years). im curious if no longer being protein deficient will have an effect, but beyond that, im not particularly hopeful (nor negative, just neutral). Hope others are well!

Oh yes definitely. The first time I was trying I used to take breaks from being online too. Mentally it can be a lot!

I like to think of it as a support net thread - I think there's a lot of us who are struggling and we have a place to turn if needed, but otherwise it's just the drudge of continuing 💕

@HollyGolightly4 Ahh sorry to hear that. This is a very quiet thread isn’t it 😬 Hope you had a good night!

No difference 🥲. So I'm going to enjoy a few drinks at a 60th tonight and just let my hair down!

@HollyGolightly4 Haha what an autocorrect 🤣 Thanks, I’m feeling a bit more positive about it now and will wait to see what happens. How are things with you?

I got nothing @Marvelftw (I just tried to type your username as transvaginalftw 🙈 btw) I think it's standard protocol that only the doctor can talk to you. Try not to worry xx

I got booked in for my transvaginal scan really quickly and had it yesterday. The sonographer said she found some fibroids (which I already knew about) but that’s all she said. I asked her if she thought that could be hindering me getting pregnant and she told me I’d have to wait until I had my call with the doctor to discuss the results of my test. Felt a bit bummed that’s all I got? Obviously still need to do the blood tests and get those results too

Had my first appointment. They’ve given me a referral to get some blood tests done and my partners been told to book an appointment to get his sperm tested. Starting to get the ball rolling 💪🏾

12 months from initial appointment feels long 🤣 but thank you!

@HollyGolightly4 Ahh I see. I think I’ll get my partner to go with me just in case. Fingers crossed for you, I’m glad you didn’t have to wait too long.

My partner did. We had initial consultation in August 25 at the GP.

I went private for tests in September 25 (reassurance), but NHS wouldn't take those, so repeated the NHS tests at the hospital under GP referral which were in Feb 26. Then March 26 consultation in which it was agreed to refer us for IVF.

Currently waiting for my appointment which should be in September 🤞🤞🤞

Thank you for your reply. So @HollyGolightly4 should my partner come with me for the initial consultation? I only booked for a referral with my GP so I don’t know how much they’d want to speak to him at the initial first appointment.

@Feliciacat Thanks, we’re not in a position to afford IVF privately at the moment so would just like to get some initial tests done first then go from there. Might look at the private testing options though thank you

It can take 1-2 years to get ivf through the NHS. If you get tested privately then you can get a hormone blood test for ovarian reserve (the NHS don’t do this but it’s an important one), semen analysis and a scan for around £600 total. Depending on age, this could be worth doing so you know where you’re at with fertility.

IVF then costs about £6000 per cycle but I’m glad we went down that route. I appreciate it’s so much money but you tend to only get one cycle on the NHS and that will take up to two years to get.

Hey, 👋

Weight, height checks. Internal scan. Sperm check for partner. Consultation.

That was my experience anyway 😊 hope you're ok, it's a big step.

Hey guys, how are we all doing? I’ve referred myself to the hospital now to try and get the ball rolling on getting some help conceiving. Has anyone had an appointment before and can tell me what it entails of? Thanks

Och @Screenburn im so sorry you were having a bad time of it. It’s brilliant news that you’re back in with another chance, I want to say congratulations but of course understand that fear. I know that if I ever get pregnant again it will be a different experience reading that first positive. I see women in movies performing pure joy when they get their positives and it feels so inaccurate. Very very best of luck.

Oh my @KittyFantastica I’m not sure I can summon the correct words. I’m so glad you’re ok, I hope you’re mending from that trauma physically. I’m so glad you have your son but I can’t imagine how difficult it is processing what you’ve been through at the same time as trying to be joyful at finally meeting your child. I had a different medical trauma (a sudden and massive heamorrhage from a burst artery) 1.5 years ago, and I’m still processing it. Are you being offered any trauma support? I hope that every day you’re getting better.

@KittyFantastica I remember you and your journey well and have been wondering how you were all doing. I’m glad your boy is here but so sorry for the ordeal you have been through, and are still going through. It sounds so awful. I’ll keep everything crossed for improvements and that you’ll be able to bring him home soon.

I have been off this thread for a while myself / had a chemical earlier in the year and it hit me harder than I was expecting. Have had two clearly positive tests yesterday and today though (11/12 DPO) and I felt the need to share it with someone who might understand why I’m scared to even think it might stick…

Hi everyone, I wanted to pop back in and wish you all the absolute best and so much luck, you all deserve it so much.

I haven't been on in a long, long time as after losing two early pregnancies and then a little boy at 19 weeks, when I fell pregnant again in January, it became too difficult to even acknowledge. We only told about 8 people the whole time.

Our second little boy was born 7 weeks early two weeks ago. We’re still in NICU due to feeding issues, and it’s honestly been hell. I ended up needing a cerclage to prevent another 2nd trimester loss, but my waters went one night at home at 33 weeks. I laboured for five hours with the stitch in as no one was available to remove it, and when they were, it all went down hill so quickly. They tried to remove the stitch with no pain relief three times before moving to theatre where the spinal block failed, my blood pressure shot up and baby’s heart rate plummeted, so ended up with a Cat 1 emergency section under general anaesthetic. My husband had to leave the room in tears, we didn’t know if we’d ever see each other or our baby again. Neither of us were ‘present’ for his birth, and being in NICU is a special kind of hell.

Despite all this, I know how truly blessed we are to even have the chance to bring our baby home, and I think of this thread often. For years we wondered if it would ever happen for us. Nothing has ever been happy or ideal, but we keep going. The pregnancy was horrifically painful throughout, I ended up in bed rest for four months, and his birth will be traumatising forever. It’s a stark reminder that, when we see someone walking down the road pregnant and seemingly perfect, there can be so much going on underneath.

i hope you’re all doing well, and I’ll still always keep an eye here to follow your progress x

Yep! And some people want kids and still haven’t found their partner yet. Have to be grateful for the small things.